Unlocking Modern Dating Challenges, Political Dynamics, and the Impact of 90s Black Movies

00:02.83
Bruce Anthony
On today's episode we're talking about dating stories Marjorie Taylor Green in the freedom caucus and me and my sister. Yeah, that's right, my sister is gonna be doing a guest. The parents are going to be talking about black movies in the 90 s but first things first.

00:27.10
Bruce Anthony
So first of all, ah if if you guys follow us on Instagram you saw that you know I had my birthday ah kick back this past weekend for all the people that that showed up a lot of them listened to the show I want to say thank you once again, that. Meant a lot to me that people came out and showed out for me and had a good time. Got my drink on and really kicked it with a lot of loving friends. So I'm very very grateful for that and I'm not going to betray. Anybody's confidence on this first segment. As I talk about dating um, but anybody that that knows me or if you follow me on Instagram my personal page you know that I have a lot of female friends platonic friends I find a lot of comfort in female friends. Um, because.

01:22.68
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, like okay so guys and women are just different. You know guys Love languages to to joke around and incline around and pick on each other and I do that all day long every day. Ah, but as you guys could tell on these episodes I like to have in depth. Ah.

01:42.30
Bruce Anthony
Wouldn't say sensitive but definitely dealing with emotion conversations and I tend to find that females are better to have those conversations with because they tend to be a little bit more intune during their emotions than men are I don't think anybody would rarely argue that statement like women are more in tune to their emotions and more. Open to expression their emotions than men are I will say that this is changing men are changing men are expressing emotions but you know a prime example of it by 2 closest guy friends that I've known for over 25 years and my birthday celebration. I told one of them hey man I love you he said hey man I love you too. It's not the first time that we said this to each other right because we do love each other. We're brothers my other friend you know I say hey man I love you and he's like a man quits cool with that stuff and I'm like I know the dude loves me like I know we have love for each other like a funny story goes. I was in a fight at a bar in Ams Morgan in my younger years you know 21 that's only time you go to Ams Morgan is when you're 21 22 23 you need to stop going to Ams Morgan at night at 23 24 years old if anybody's familiar with dc area. You know Ams Morgan at night is a zoo and it's. For young people that is absolutely for sure. But I'm down there I think I'm 21 years old so it's a summer of 2001 and I get in a fight at a bar and all I saw was that friend that won't say I love you back jump in the middle I'm surrounded by guys like I'm in a circle I'm in the middle of a circle with.

03:14.44
Bruce Anthony
Five six from 7 guys I don't know how many and I'm swinging and all I saw at the corner of my eye was his ass come jumping in the middle of the circle swinging with me and we had been friends already for 3 4 5 years so he was already my friend but I was like oh that's my brother because he's got my back. So. It's just funny. This is an example of you know men not really being all that open. He's still low rough on edges but I know that he loves me all right? So the idea of this rough and gruff man who can't express emotions I got 2 friends one that that will not hesitate to to tell you that he loves you another one that you know. He's more of a shower than a teller that's okay so I have a lot of female friends because they're a lot more in in tune with their emotions and ah, you know, just by listening to this podcast and and hearing the interviews like I really dig learning about people I really dig learning about what makes them tick. Ah, what their likes and dislikes how they came about whatever their ideology or philosophy on life is like ah I don't know I've always been this way and so yes I have a lot of female friends weather aspects of having a lot of female friends is that they will talk to you about their dating life. Ah, you know I I I guess I'm that non-ga but surrogate gay boyfriend that they could talk to about this stuff because they know that I'm just going to give them honest answers and I don't want anything from him. Um.

04:47.29
Bruce Anthony
And and I will say that I've taken a backseat to dating for a little while because I really don't have time between this and the other things that I got going on because you know I'm constantly coming on ideas and start new businesses and new ventures I never stay in the pocket. Um. And and still I'm always undergoing or moving I don't really have a lot of time to entertain somebody else's attention because my attention is drawn during the the party I was making a point of and I hope that I did this talk to everybody give them time. But I know there were a lot of times where I would start a conversation and in mids it and stop because my attention was drawn to something else and move on and they had to go back and say hey I'm sorry I apologize for that. So I just don't have time or patience right to entertain relationships. But. They talk to me about their relationships and what I'm finding out from my own personal experience dating nowadays in this new Twenty first century form of dating and from them is dating ain't dating ain't easy, but we all kind of always knew that but dating is getting increasingly hard in 1 instance. Have a friend and guess I'm putting your business out there. But I'm not telling anybody what your name is right? and and nobody's gonna be able to nobody that doesn't know you's gonna be able to know who I'm talking about anybody that does know you they already know that this story so and I'm I'm not betraying any confidences I hope. Um.

06:17.57
Bruce Anthony
Ah, her personality is I call her Stoic. She's very stoic I mean that's only that's only way that I can describe her is She is a very driven and determined person. She has goals. She does not deviate from those goals. She has an idea in her mind. She's gonna go out and get it and in a lot of ways I respect the hell out of that because I am that person too. Ah, not the Stoic part and I wear my emotions on my sleeve you know exactly what I'm thinking and and who I am and and what I'm about not saying that she's a mystery if you know her. Ah you know you know her. But. Um, she's she's very stoic and she doesn't really show a lot of emotion. Ah not in a sense where she doesn't show emotion at All. She's just she didn't get any. She didn't get too high or too Low. So She's hit me up a couple of different times because she's dated a couple of different guys and she said. Do you think I talk too much and I said no I don't think you talk too much I think that when you are passionate about something you get excited and you talk about it. But it's not like you dominate the conversation and and and and she is extremely intelligent. Um, it's not like you dominate the conversation and If. Somebody's having dialogue back and forth with you. It's not like you talk over and or dominate the conversation Now. So I I Don't think you talk too much. Um, that was a problem that a gentleman had and I was like I think that's really his issue I don't think he's as intelligent as you are or even close to it.

07:53.50
Bruce Anthony
She was like he's smart I said there's a difference between smarts and intelligent right? He known a lot of facts and being able to have critical thinking are 2 completely different things. Critical thinking is really intelligence. Ah Jeopardy is is really smart. So there's a difference I know a lot of people that are really smart but dumb as hell. So I said it just. He just isn't his intelligence. So if he thinks that he's if he thinks that you're talking too much then odds are he just can't keep up with the conversation that isn't about you and if he can't keep up with the conversation or if he thinks that you talk too much. It's best now that this ends early because that's not something that you would be interested in after your past. This initial physical attraction right? because there's in the physical There's a physical attraction that typically draws people to each other and then you get to know the person if you're lucky you get to know the person first but 9 times I attend it's ah the physical attractiveness and then getting to know the person and getting to know somebody. I'll get into this later beginning to know somebody takes a long time and then there was another gentleman that that she was really into and this gentleman said that it was too tough to draw out conversations with her and she was like does it seem like It's tough to get conversations out of me and I'm like no I was like that's not the issue. Um I was like well I don't know what it's like to date you right? like I don't know what it's like but I know my interactions with you and we've had several conversations. It's like my interaction with you is neither one of those or the issue.

09:26.14
Bruce Anthony
If somebody is having a difficult time trying to get conversation out of you then they really don't have anything to talk about because you're not a person that can engage in multiple topics I got another friend. Um, who really liked this guy and they went out on a couple of dates and. And they were semi intimate and the guy ghosted her and she was like I don't really understand why he ghosted me and I can't say that I haven't ghosted people before because of course I am somebody in my former life who was. Conflict Adverse. So with women conflict averse with women if the conflict involved emotions I'm going to try to figure one of my closest friends used to say I had this expression and I didn't know I had this expression. But I was going to try and find some way to wiggle my way out the situation. That's what I would always say and I would always call I would always come up with some shenanigans or some story to get my way out of the situation now actually having to Confront whatever emotional issues that was involved. Eventually grew out of that. But some people don't grow out of those type of things and it sucks because she says she really liked the guy and um, she thought that that it was going to be something and and it didn't and he ghosted her and and I told her you know good writtens like if he goes at you.

10:52.29
Bruce Anthony
Then that means that that's not something that you would want to deal with because when things get rough. he's he's he's a fight or flight he's a flight and you want somebody that's actually going to want to fight when things are tough and bring all this stuff up because. Ah, feel like in dating one people don't really take the time to really get to note one another right? We're dealing in in an age where everything is instantaneous and fast and all walks of life right? Like you go back to the 90 s to find a movie that you wanted to watch you had to go to the video store. You had the. You had to browse the video sections to pick out the movie that you want now, it's to the point now we have so many choices to choose from on a daily basis. We have a hard time trying to figure out what it is that we want to watch because we just have so many choices. And it's coming at us fast and we have easy access to it and it's in all aspects of life. Whether it's food preparation or ah, just everything except for getting your passport that takes forever but everything else except forget your passport you can get that relatively quickly. So with this. With the speed of things dating has you know become a victim of that people are not taking their time to really get to know people to talk to people to converse with people and in the process you're not getting to know people so you're not getting to understand what their priorities are.

12:25.87
Bruce Anthony
Are they monogamous or are they polyamorous. This is ah, an important thing to talk about. Do they want to have a committed relationship. Are they emotionally available for a committed relationship. Do they know whether they are emotionally available for a committed relationship or not prime example for me in my personal life. Ah, dated ah dated a ah woman and on paper everything was perfect and her interactions were actually perfect. They actually were um, she's good people. She was somebody that I could talk to for. Hours on end the day that we broke up literally we sat down in her living room areas sipping on tequila. She was sipping on bourbon and we talked for 8 hours and it was just about any and everything and this was after we had been dating for a while. However I wasn't emotionally. Available at that particular time and neither was she and we didn't know that until that night when we broke up and then it's funny because we're cool now and we'll take we'll you know talk because it's been years later and it's just like yoating with you has always been so easy. There was never any problems with us as far as a physical connection. Um, our only issue is emotionally we weren't there and like we didn't everything was kind of rushed everything that like from the first moment that we met to when we decided to to be together to when we decided to break up in a matter of three or four months that's

13:56.59
Bruce Anthony
A really quick relationship right? and we didn't really get to know each other because it takes a long time before people let their guard downs reveal their true emotion even though that we were talking a lot about really deep stuff. You know them. But you don't know them and you don't know anybody until you had your first fight. Right? So I think part of the time part of this issue with dating is that we fall in love with the infatuation stage that dopamine that rush that we get from knowing somebody and and there's just that physical attraction and you find out that they're kind of cool and I know what it is I figured out what it is. We're like drug addicts. We're chasing that first high and that first high was our first love everybody remember that where there was middle school or high school that first love I mean it was innocent. It was pure. You didn't know any better. You weren't tainted from dating. It was the purest form of love. It wasn't real love right. Because you don't know how to love at that point. But we equate it to real love and we kind of chased that we I dated a woman who is like it's this isn't like the first. The first time I dated. The first time you dated was in high school that person you're comparing me to that person you fell in love with love is different. When you get older to when you're a child but it doesn't matter. We're we're searching for that first emotion and I feel like that dopamine rush of that initial excitement of meeting somebody that you're physically attracted to that you think is cool right? and I say think because you don't know them.

15:30.56
Bruce Anthony
Not truly and you can't know somebody even if you're texting with them all day long. So much can get lost in communication through text message and so I just feel like you know people are rushing into things. People aren't taking their time to get to know them and. You understand that you're searching for your first love and you got so many choices out there like for for men out there who were womenizers somebody like me in my twenty s who was a womanizer who who loved to be around multiple women who could not have a good time. Unless he met a woman that night at a party club or whatever like that. It was a blown night unless I met a woman somebody who was obsessed with women I couldn't live in this time period right now because there would never been any woman that would have been able to hold my attention for enough time. For me to truly get to know I'm hell they could barely do it back then and my choices were as limited to the people that I was interacting with in my particular city and I had a lot of people to choose from in my particular city because there's like 5 or 6 different colleges within a fifteen mile radius so I understand that people have choices. And people are searching for that initial feeling. But I really think that people need to end dating really take a pause take a step back and really take the time to get to know each other I don't believe in going on multiple dates too early.

16:57.89
Bruce Anthony
What I mean by that is some people will go through 2 or 3 dates in the first week of meeting the person that's too many dates that's too many dates right? because if you like some person and you're infatuated by them. You want to meet them quicker. That's gonna fast track the entire relationship and then you have situations like I was in with. Who is now a friend of mine. The girl that dated a full blown relationship within three months and that's just entirely too quickly to at our age you're in your late 20 s your thirty s and your 40 s to fast track a relationship I think that seeing somebody a good a good form of slow rolling it. Seeing somebody once a week see them every weekend. Don't text them all day long shoot quick text messages don't carry on conversations through text messages because you're not gonna learn about somebody's personality and text messages text messages look people can be funny as hell. And text messages when they are able to craft something take time and craft something as opposed to being quickwitted in person. It could be dry as hell in person and be hilarious in text message and vice versa. You really need to spend time with that person and not create that dialogue with that person through text messages so take time. Not rush rush to end anything and also don't come in with preconceived notions of what it is that you're looking for a lot of people look good on paper but that doesn't necessarily mean that they're good in real life I know that because I do that in my personal life right for me I always see potential as opposed to what is.

18:31.33
Bruce Anthony
Actually realization right? It's always man. She would be great at this. This knack could see this down a future but she's not presenting herself to be that person in and of itself and and there's nothing wrong with her as a person. There's nothing wrong with people not matching. That's going that's supposed to happen more often than you actually match with people right? if you take the time to get to know somebody you have your ideology of what you believe dating is they have their ideology of what you what they believe dating is hopefully that matches but you can't force. Things matches you can't force people to be what you want them to be you have to accept them for who they are and then decide if that's good enough for you and if it's not good enough for you. It's okay to say this isn't right? no matter how much that infatuation no matter how much dopamine racks up your brain and make you feel like this is it. It's okay to take a step back and and and say wait a minute. Let me find out what it is that I want to do and then do that and it's really important to find out if your ideologies on life actually match right? people change sometimes people say. And a situation that they do want kids and then they don't sometimes they say they don't want kids and then they do sometimes they say they never want to get married and it changes sometimes they say they want to get married and then realize no maybe I don't want to get married things change people evolved it's important.

20:02.70
Bruce Anthony
To understand that baseline personality of who they are before moving in any further and I'm going to give people the most sage advice that I can actually get people take the time to get to know somebody wait three or four months before youall say that you want to be exclusive. And then when you decide to be exclusive I mean and when I say wait three or four months that's a bare minimum right? wait three to four months it's better to be like six months to really really get to know somebody you see somebody once a week for six months you're getting the opportunity to really get to know them right? because it over. Ah, period of time over that six month period whatever thing that they're holding back. Whatever personality traits or quarks that you may not like or they may not like about you. It's eventually gonna come out so you can really get to know the person and then when you decide to be exclusive. Don't go full ham into the relationship still slow roll. It. Write take your time maybe instead of once a week you go twice a week or maybe 3 times a week but but make it so that there dates it always has to maintain maintain that you're still dating that you're doing things outside that you're mingling with other people now I'm not talking about mingling with other people like holler and because you're exclusive. Just saying being in groups you want to see how how they're goingnna interact with your friends and eventually at a certain point when you're exclusive you want to see how they're gonna interact with the family. But most importantly, before they interact with your friends and their family. You want to make sure that their interaction with you is real and genuine. So. My only advice.

21:37.51
Bruce Anthony
For dating take your time slow your role center yourself when you start to get Excited. Let me wait and see how this plays out let me give the person that I feel like I might like the attention that they deserve. As far as you know you're out there dating. It's okay to to date other people right? like you're out there dating but give that person the attention if you think that if you think that you really do like them given the attention but not too much attention. Not too much Attention. Don't rush into anything. And really truly truly try to get to know the person before making any decisions and guess what? Even with all that advice. There's still no guarantee that it's going to work out. Life is a crap shoot but no matter what pain brings we grow from it.

22:37.34
Bruce Anthony
All right? so enough a dating all right enough of the daily dadling let's get into some real topics. It came out that sometime in late june of this year then Marjorie Taylor Green was kicked out of the freedom caucus according to multiple sources rep. Representative Marjo Taylor Green was officially kicked out of the freedom ah house freedom caucus and late June Twenty Twenty three the reason for expulion was her repeated attacks of fellow gp colleagues especially Lauren bar Butt Lauren bobart who is not the daughter of s sweet stand lane who she called a little b word. I was talking to my sister about if I'm allowed to say the be word. It's my favorite cussword of all time and in this description of calling her a little b word I don't feel like that I can say it in this moment but that's what Margie Taylor Green said to louren bobart. She called her little beework and she didn't do it in like a private meeting or anything she did on the house floor. Green's the first lawmaker to be ousted from the conservative group since it was started in 2015 she tried to downplay John play the expulsion of the group. But saying that she don't represent. No particular group that she just represents her constituents. Why is this important? Well okay, so the freedom caucus is a conservative branch of the gop and that's saying something right? Um, they're the ones who tried to hold up Kevin Mccarthy's um.

24:11.76
Bruce Anthony
Vote for for speakership they did hold it up his vote for speakership the easiest way to to to understand the freedom caucus is to understand the evolution. The freedom caucus is nothing more than the tea party all right? And why was the tea party established where the tea party was established because Barack Obama was president so inherently there's some messiness about them and what they stand for what's funny to me is that Margie Taylor -grain wasn't wasn't ousted because of the crazy things that she said in the past. Jewish space lasers and defending january six ah rioters and calling them patriots um attacking um, black people that was marching um during the black live matters protest not riots january sixth was a riot the black lives matters were protests did some rioting happen in the protests. Yes, but if you look at fbi reports. It says that 96% of the altercations that happen that resulted in riots during the black lives matter protests were. Agitate agitators that were against the black lives matter protest or the police start something but I digress I'm not going to get into that. So. It's very clear with the house freedom caucus and before them the tea party stood for and stand for.

25:45.83
Bruce Anthony
None of those things got her kicked out but what did get her kicked out is holding up for backing Kevin Mccarthy when he was running for the speaker. So when the freedom house caucus was trying to stop it and they were trying to get some things done. Marie Taylor Greene was one of the first people that partnered up with Kevin Mccarthy and said no I'm rocking with him I support him so she went against her caucus and and that was kind of the things that made them say hey you know what come on now and then she's just been consistently attacking. Lo. Bulbert Lo and bolbert and and they were a tag team of yelling liar during president addresses and things of that nature. So it's it's funny. What's going on and ah. I don't know if anybody else is paying attention to it but Margie Taylor Greene is playing a very very smart. Very smart political maneuver so she came in as this french person who is always going to be popular in her district in her district right. I don't see her being able to run for senate. That's a statewide election representatives are in a certain area that that she lives and and she has a lot of support so I don't think that.

27:12.57
Bruce Anthony
She will ever not get reelected as long as she's running for a representative if she tries run statewide I don't think she has the popularity that we' get her in as a ah governor or senator things of that nature but she started off as this fire breathing dragon. And and in a lot of ways in this hearing. She's still doing that doing those theatrics to get the attention on her when everything she's saying is just absolutely ridiculous. I've been wanting to find 1 thing that she says in politics that makes sense. And they never do. She's not very bright. That's my personal opinion because she hasn't shown me to be somebody who's intelligent neither has Lauren bobart. Ah, but that's neither here nor there. Ah Kevin Mccarthy has shown me that he is smart and politically savvy. And she is learning from him how to be politically savvy because like I said she realizes being on this fringe and looking at what that fringe is is is is trumpers right? The the freedom of caucus are super supporter of trumpers where some of the other people in the Gop. They aren't super supportive but they won't really attack Trump because Trump holds too much power these people in the freedom caucus they r for Trump no matter what what she was seeing and what she has to be seeing and if you're anybody in the gop politically what you have to be saying is Trump's been losing that he lost it election in 2020.

28:50.14
Bruce Anthony
Midterms did not go the way that they were supposed to go in 2022 that fringe even though he is very popular with with the base. The base doesn't carry great weight nationally for national elections right? like as long as you're doing local stuff. Representative stuff statewide stuff. Um. You can control certain areas. But as far as nationally recognized like you're not going to be able to ride for Trump and win elections like we've we've kind of seen this now some of some of these like some of these people like Kevin Mccarthy or straddle in the bench make it sure that not to piss off Trump. But also not riding with them for everything look at what they say so she's seeing the big picture and she's saying if I'm going to have a political career I'm still going to cozy up to Trump because she cozies's up to Trump whenever she can but she's also saying I need to be in lover more mainstream which means I need to kind of get away from what these. Fringe extreme people are saying and doing. That's the weird why she came out and said that she dennoed the the jewish space lasers and all this other stuff and just qing on stuff because she realized it does not play well politically for her in the future. However. She's still going to be there fire breathing dragon during all the committees. She's still bringing up articles of impeachment with Biden which was another issue that her and Lo Lauren bobart had because she said Lauren Lauren Bobart copied her articles of impeachment on Biden and that was beef.

30:22.14
Bruce Anthony
Um, but you know all of it is really silly. What's interesting is to hear how some of the other G O P members are responding to marry Taylor Green so you have the house speaker Kevin Mccarthur who who had basically's been taken. Green under his wing because she does have some political cachet. She has the same type of political cachet with the base that Trump has right? So he's been taking her under his wing and bringing her into the fold which is part of the reason why the freedom freedom caucus like basically got rid of her. She's too close to. The man that they didn't necessarily want to be the speaker right? Um, he offered praise to to Margie Taylor Green calling her quote one of the most conservative members and 1 of the hardest working members remember Margie Taylor Green and her last st as a representative was stripped. From all her committee committee assignments now she's coziyed up to to the the major part of the gp like the house peer Kevin Mccarthy and now she's getting committee assignments again. Really really important committee assignments. So she's climbing that political ladder. Um, another member of the the freedom caucus is a representative Ralph Norman told reporters that Greene's beliefs were too far apart from the rest of the freedom caucus for her to remain a member and that's basically saying that she didn't sold out right? that that's what they're saying theyre like look we hard liners and she didn sold out.

31:56.20
Bruce Anthony
To get a seat at the table and she did because that was a better political strategy look Lauren bobart barely barely was reelected in our own district. Go back to what I was saying a representative is a district race. It's not a statewide race. If she doesn't have if Lone bobart didn't have a popularity to to win by landslide in her district when she comes up for re-election. There's no guaranteed that she's gonna be reelected because she barely won last time I mean it was really really close at Margie Taylor Green didn't sweat her re-election probably won't ever sweat her re-election they're trying to come up with people to oppose her. But in that district. she's she's queen um so yeah, no I mean.

32:47.35
Bruce Anthony
A lot of people Norman also said Ralph Norman the Congressman also also says she's a good friend. We just disagree. So it was good for her and it was good for the freedom caucus ah Norman ad is she was critical of us for the 20th january referring to the 20 house republicans who opposed Mccarthy's bid for speakership. Remember she did. She wasn't riding with the freedom caucus when they were going with going against speaker mccarthy going for the speakership right? So they made things really hard so much so that Kevin Mccarthy is on thin hours then ice. Every day he's a speaker because one of the concessions that he made was that he could always be brought up for a vote. He could be ousted at any time that he pisses off these members. The members don't have enough to oust him but they have enough they had enough to make his life difficult and she didn't ride with them with that so they are like look. She got to go but calling loan bobart a little bee word on the house floor was a final straw mind you if this is actually true and she did call lor ah bobart a bee word on the house floor. This is something that the go op is supposed to bring to the table as a whole because. This is breaking the rules of decorum on the house floor. But it's not going to happen. You know why because Kevin Mccarthy Rodsworth calls him calls her a little rock star I didn't see those are that's not a exact quote but it should be an exact quote. Um.

34:15.21
Bruce Anthony
So you know norma goes on to say you know she opposed us for she. Ah, she was a against us for the mccarthy's bid speakership. She had different opinions on different things. The 20 of us that wanted to just felt like we disagreed and it's fine, but she's very vocal and but not really with us anymore. Ah, she's playing it off like I'm not sweating these people because I've outgrown them and she has she's now part of the mainstream political process in the g op and I don't know where that's really going to go because she's not she's not bringing anything to the table but bluster bluster and she is popular with the go op base because she is a trumper I don't know how long it's gonna last for her but I just thought it was funny that these hardliners are kind of turning on each other and kicking people out of groups this infighting within the gop I guess I guess is really good for democrats but. By and large it's bad for the country as a whole It's bad for the country as a whole because we we need more than 2 political parties. What we truly need is one on ah all the way to the right one all the way to the left and the one in the middle. Because the one in the middle will actually get things done whether you agree or disagree with moderate ah Democrats and moderate republicans or whatever they call them the centralist Democrats or whatever in politics. It isn't all mine none of yours. It's it's a give and take it's a bargaining.

35:45.67
Bruce Anthony
And if you're not going to be bargaining. You're not going to get anything done and is detrimental to this country and for all the flaws this country has and you know I talk about the flaws of this country. The idea of America has always been that beacon of hope and. I don't know call me a masochist or whatever I still believe in the idea of America I still believe in the idea that we can maybe get there but we just got to have some common sense to be willing to work together and be willing to compromise not compromise our beliefs. That's not what I mean but. Compromise our stances on certain things to get things done because there is a lot of commonality of Democrats and republicans and liberals and conservatives there are there are some ways to meet in the middle. Everything doesn't have to be completely black or white Margie Taylor Green I don't know if she's seeing that but she's definitely seeing that being all the way to the far right and being associated in this group was not good for her politically in the long run and so she a't tripping that the freedom caucus kicked her out and the freedom caucus ai n't tripping that they kicked her out either. You know what for all of that. It is what it is.

36:03.35
Bruce Anthony
All right I had to get my sister in here for a rare Tuesday episode and I wanted to get her perspective on ah this next topic that we're going to talk about what upis and then just chilling just when to get your perspective on. Ah this very very important topic too.

36:13.54
J. Aundrea
What up bretta.

36:22.60
Bruce Anthony
Ah, not only the black community but to all communities. So I got one of my friends sent me this me I don't know if it was a meme but something like that from Instagram and it said you can only watch 1 year of black movies and there are 1990 s movies.

36:24.78
J. Aundrea
M.

36:31.38
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

36:40.63
Bruce Anthony
And they give a list of the movies for each year so I'm a list real fast and then we'll talk to talk about it and we're watching on Youtube I'm actually going to have the list running right now so that you can follow along with what movies are where because this might be a little tough to follow on the audio podcast.

36:47.61
J. Aundrea
Um, didn't care.

36:58.63
J. Aundrea
Right.

37:00.55
Bruce Anthony
So it's routine 90 The movies are house party mo better blues 1991 the movies are house party 2 boys in the hood. The 5 heartbeats new Jack City and strictly business I mean just okay.

37:03.84
J. Aundrea
Okay.

37:13.90
J. Aundrea
Top tier.

37:18.69
Bruce Anthony
9092 the movies are juice class act mo money boomerang and malcolm x and 1993 the movies are see before what's love minutes to society poetic justice and sister act two and night

37:24.57
J. Aundrea
M.

37:33.67
J. Aundrea
My just. What's love got to do with it. That's the full. Yeah yes, yes.

37:38.11
Bruce Anthony
Right? What's love. It's a teen turn movie teen turn movie and 1994 it's fresh crolyn Jason's lyric above the rim a low down dirty shame.

37:47.40
J. Aundrea
And just to make a note one of my I would say it's in my top 5 maybe top three films is crookly is one of my favorite films. No.

38:00.10
Bruce Anthony
Huh I don't think I don't think I've seen that since it came out. Yeah I know I know and Ninety ninety five is dead presidents waiting to exhale higher learning vampire in Brooklyn and Friday I will say vampire in Brooklyn. Highly highly underrated and a Murphy movie is and that's more reason for people to go watch vampire in Brooklyn all right and 9096 it set it off. Don't be a menace a thin line the preacher's wife and fat beach.

38:18.99
J. Aundrea
Written by Charlie Murphy

38:25.53
J. Aundrea
That.

38:34.88
J. Aundrea
Then Land between love and hate I don't know why either.

38:37.60
Bruce Anthony
I don't know why? yeah and I don't know why fab beach is on. There are nineteen I don't know 1997 is bas love jones ease by you soul food and booty call.

38:47.90
J. Aundrea
This is when we're starting to get into our and this is this is the start of our like romantic comedy phase that we get into in the late 90 s and early 2000

39:03.16
Bruce Anthony
Ah, 9098 it's belly the players club house Stella got a grooveback why do fools fall in love and he got gain. No I mean ah no I think 1990 s it started a hip ho film because house are.

39:09.98
J. Aundrea
This is the start of our hip hop Era hip hop Film era.

39:20.82
Bruce Anthony
House parties specifically.

39:21.10
J. Aundrea
No I mean well they were really the only hip hop artists making movies right.

39:28.51
Bruce Anthony
Ah, no I mean you got 91 you got boys. Let me let me let me finish it. Let me finish this and 9099 you have in 2 d the best man, the wood and life art. So like I said if you're watching a Youtube page during that whole scenario.

39:34.32
J. Aundrea
Um, go go.

39:46.30
Bruce Anthony
Ah, during that whole rundown I had a graph up there showing you guys what? what? And who's who I just want to say to piggyback off what you're saying if you go 9090 one 92 you have kitten play you have ice cube you have ah ice t ah.

40:04.10
J. Aundrea
Yeah, but I feel like boys in the hood in New Jack City were films and and I feel like belly players club things like that these those are movies.

40:04.20
Bruce Anthony
And all of those movies.

40:10.20
Bruce Anthony
Hit ok and other ones aren't films.

40:18.89
Bruce Anthony
Okay, so you're the you're the director. What's the difference between a film and a movie. Okay, what is your? what is your own definition. What is Jay's definition of what a film is and what a movie is.

40:24.50
J. Aundrea
Oh this is just my own thing. It's not an.

40:33.94
J. Aundrea
To to me a movie is for entertainment only and a film actually has some substance but that's just my own how I delineate the 2 in my mind or different. Yeah.

40:43.51
Bruce Anthony
Okay, okay, okay so what do you think? ah is the best year because because as a rundown the 90 s which is what what was an explosion of black movies in the ninety. S.

41:00.69
J. Aundrea
Um, yes, yes yeah.

41:00.88
Bruce Anthony
But I will say that it starts to go downhill as far as substance is concerned as you get to the late 90 s ah but if I had to choose like you only have you can only choose 1 year and those are the only movies that you can watch all the other movies you cannot watch ever again.

41:11.56
J. Aundrea
M.

41:20.26
J. Aundrea
Yeah I agree um it starts to it starts to taper off a little bit around around the Ba's era I'm a ah you know.

41:20.52
Bruce Anthony
What year are you choosing.

41:34.89
J. Aundrea
And by the time fat beach comes out you we're getting. We're getting a lot of goofy black movies. But we're also getting a lot of ah so we're in our romantic comedy Era like I said like we're getting a lot of romantic comedies. We're getting the best man the wood.

41:35.75
Bruce Anthony
Look.

41:49.22
Bruce Anthony
What I mean what did the romantic ah where is the best man. The best man is Ninety nine is I don't think the wood is a room is a wood a romantic I I don't think it's a romantic comedy I mean less is.

41:55.55
J. Aundrea
The 99 we got the wood. Ah yeah, it is romantic comedy. It was about getting if it was there. It was like following these friends from high school to college I mean high school to adulthood.

42:12.66
Bruce Anthony
Middle school. They started to miss. It was middle school Eighth grade dance.

42:13.17
J. Aundrea
And then was it all in. Ah, yeah, it was kind of it was kind of a coming of age but it I was I would call it a romantic comedy. There was.

42:25.96
Bruce Anthony
Ah, if it was romanticism a friendship I think it was a friendship comedy but me and my 2 boys literally went to that movie to go see that movie and we were we walked out and I was like yo that's us because I was big mike I was the one who joined them after they had been friends for a while.

42:38.27
J. Aundrea
E.

42:42.90
Bruce Anthony
And we walked out of it and we was like yo that's us and I was like yeah it is us that's that's that's our story. But I think of the wood not as a because they don't even pay attention to that I mean aside from Mike Epps yes Mike Epps aside from Mike Epps character ah

42:44.70
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

42:55.85
J. Aundrea
E. Yeah.

43:01.20
Bruce Anthony
At the end they don't really express that the relationships are really about the friendship and not about the love interests. But I get what you're saying though I get what you're saying.

43:09.80
J. Aundrea
That's true. Yeah, we got why do fools fall in Love Stella Got a groove back I mean why do fools fall in love That's more of a biopic. Um.

43:18.24
Bruce Anthony
Yeah I don't I don't consider that a romantic comedy either.

43:24.52
J. Aundrea
Now. Love Jones That's in a class by itself. That's just top Ti romance I don't even think that's a comedy as well I was more of a romantic drama. Um, but just top tier. My choice though is obviously going to be in the early ninety s.

43:32.48
Bruce Anthony
Yeah.

43:40.11
Bruce Anthony
Yes.

43:43.30
J. Aundrea
Um, because we were just getting some really hilarious movies. Some really good films and my year is gonna be 1992 because I can watch classic mo money and boomerang over and over I have.

43:54.26
Bruce Anthony
Okay.

44:02.58
Bruce Anthony
Ah.

44:02.74
J. Aundrea
Over and over and over again and not need anything else.

44:05.81
Bruce Anthony
Not need anything else. So my 2 years of choice and it was tough to narrow down was 91 92 and and I finally got mad and said I'm not gonna play this game I'm not gonna choose I'm going to choose everything that I want this is stupid but but in the context of of these movies.

44:15.49
J. Aundrea
Um.

44:20.19
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, yeah.

44:25.98
Bruce Anthony
My friends that sent that they really um, they were going back and forth one said 91 another one said ninety two I would choose I think I have to choose 92 because

44:31.23
J. Aundrea
M.

44:42.94
Bruce Anthony
Out of all the kitten play movies house party is the most important but class act is the funniest one and how do I know this how do I know this I literally just watched it last night I watched watched last act last night

44:48.69
J. Aundrea
Um, class act is hilarious.

44:56.15
J. Aundrea
You watch classic Lots Yeah and and that's how I knew I said how am I going to narrow this down.. There's so many years where they have movies that I Love. Um. Because my favorite year musically is actually 1996 Um, but as far as movies in in film. Yeah, it's gonna be 92 because you got the drama you got juice and Malcolm X for Drama classic and Mo money for comedy.

45:11.70
Bruce Anthony
Okay.

45:28.90
J. Aundrea
Boomerang for romance I mean you got it like it's got everything you need if you could only watch that one year I have everything that I need in 1992

45:41.20
Bruce Anthony
Yes, you do and I agree with you 92 is a year but it is reallyly tough to push 91 out because the 5 heartbeats. Ah the 5 heartbeats in New Jack City like so one of my friends.

45:42.99
J. Aundrea
Is tough. Yeah I've seen dozens of times and strictly business. Please do not discount one hump to hump.

45:57.21
Bruce Anthony
So my boys the ones who sent this to me was like all right? you get those strictly business out and I wanted to I wanted to choose violence and I just didn't in a group chat because I was like I'm not I'm not going to convince them otherwise because they probably haven't seen this as a comeback. Yeah.

46:01.96
J. Aundrea
Um.

46:08.65
J. Aundrea
Yes, yeah, no watch it again. Yeah, watch it again. Ah because it's just no watch it again.

46:15.99
Bruce Anthony
I'm going to watch it tonight going to watch it tonight. Yes.

46:26.76
J. Aundrea
That's why I would encourage your friends watch it again because you didn't You didn't really get it and now you're going to get it now that you're an adult you go to really get it. You got to really get that corporate the stifling corporate culture.

46:28.46
Bruce Anthony
Watch it Again. Yes, and class act.

46:43.28
J. Aundrea
And just wanting to break out and have fun. You're gonna see an adorable young Hallie Berry I mean Wayman Tensdale the up tightness of his character is so funny. Ah Tommy Davidson

46:49.82
Bruce Anthony
Oh God yes.

47:02.61
Bruce Anthony
Holly is having holly string in these movies. Well no, she just did ninety one 92 right because she was in no I'm talking about like a string of stuff like 91 ninety two ah was she in New Jackson no she was in um.

47:02.92
J. Aundrea
Wonderful.

47:07.69
J. Aundrea
No, she was in bats. Okay no shoes on strictly business.

47:21.54
Bruce Anthony
Strictly business and she was in boomerang nes it until later but this is like when we discovered holly berry strictly business is like oh it's hollyberry boomerang. It was like oh it's Holly Barry

47:26.41
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

47:38.64
Bruce Anthony
But even then she wasn't the main she wasn't the main sex andable actress in that movie was still Robin Givens but yeah I mean you got some of these other. What do you think is the most important movie I actually my favorite.

47:41.88
J. Aundrea
It was Robin Givens yeah

47:51.74
J. Aundrea
Her.

47:56.90
Bruce Anthony
Denzel Washington movie is the equalizer but the most important one I think he did the best acting in Malcolm x because I forget it'stenzo washington I think that's that's the best acting he's ever done I don't know why people love training day so much. He's just being himself. You just don't know that side of him.

48:02.57
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yes.

48:11.82
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, um, he he of course deserves the Oscar he's deserved the Oscar for many films many times over um, but yes, but I don't think you can discount.

48:14.56
Bruce Anthony
Malcolm x he was Malcolm.

48:27.81
J. Aundrea
Films like boys in the hood menace to society and higher learning which I just which I just watched ah which I just watched higher and learning maybe a couple months ago it was on and I watched it again. Um.

48:30.91
Bruce Anthony
Um, what is.

48:38.80
Bruce Anthony
Because we were talking about it. Yeah.

48:45.69
J. Aundrea
I don't think you could discount those 3

48:48.31
Bruce Anthony
I've recently just watched fresh and that's a really really good movie.

48:54.30
J. Aundrea
Oh I can't remember when I so I probably saw fresher 94 and then didn't see it again.

48:59.70
Bruce Anthony
Ah, Sam is star Samuel L Jackson ah the young kid big Mike Big Mike from the wood is he's a young kid and and fresh. But what's the best. What's the best movie out of all of these in your mind.

49:09.27
J. Aundrea
And.

49:18.95
J. Aundrea
Um, the best You can't that you can't the worst fat Beach three I don't know what's on here.

49:22.79
Bruce Anthony
Ok, let's go with the worse. It have just get right saying that I don't even know why I've made this list. Why I didn't make this list I I don't know it. Yes, it's ah it's It's horrible.

49:35.49
J. Aundrea
Why is it on here. Why and I and I would be honest I didn't like don't be a menace while drinking your juice in South Centralhood that I didnt i't like it.

49:41.41
Bruce Anthony
It is horrible. I didn't yeah I didn't I didn't think that the wanes brothers when the Waynes Brothers Marlin and Sean started doing their own movies I didn't think they got good until they got into scary movie.

49:59.71
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah.

50:01.46
Bruce Anthony
I didn't think them't be a minister south central like matter of fact, 96 now because set it off in and a thin line I can't get rid of that year I'm trying to think of what year can I just absolutely get rid of um I don't think there is a year that I can.

50:09.70
J. Aundrea
M.

50:16.20
J. Aundrea
I can I could do without 98

50:21.89
Bruce Anthony
Ah, nope I can't get rid of the players club or he got game. Bernie Mac is absolutely hilarious in the players club a nope but not will not get rid of that. Ah.

50:25.19
J. Aundrea
I I I could I could I could take I could take 98 out I could I could live without 98 I'll tell you why I can't live without 1994 and it's not just because of Crook lives because of a low down dirty shame. Which I also saw recently um and above the ram sure that's really your thing but a low down dirty sp. Oh Keenan Keenan ivory waynes to me is the funniest way ins because he yeah he makes the funniest film.

50:44.91
Bruce Anthony
Um, which and above the realm.

50:55.42
Bruce Anthony
And.

51:04.40
J. Aundrea
To me I I think I think he's the funniest I think he I think he's the funniest as far as that his body of work.

51:05.27
Bruce Anthony
Okay, ah oh you think he's the funniest out of all the wayss I um.

51:19.94
J. Aundrea
Especially the films that he's done on his own there. There's some of my fan now I hey I I love more money I Love more money.

51:25.25
Bruce Anthony
You like him at day you like Damon wanes is hilarious among money. Okay.

51:33.92
J. Aundrea
I don't necessarily think Damon is hilarious and mo money I think he plays more of a straight man.

51:38.55
Bruce Anthony
Okay, okay, but do you think Keenan is the funny one in low down dirty shame or is it Jada Pinkett I look

51:47.43
J. Aundrea
Is's Keenan you cannot watch it again. He is ridiculous.

51:52.42
Bruce Anthony
I'm gonna watch I'm gonna watch strictly business or lu down a low down dirty shame tonight I don't know which one but that's what I'm gonna watch night all right? but this this segment has run long. You didn't give me what you thought was the most important movie but you did give me the most important year which is 92

51:58.30
J. Aundrea
Yes, please watch again. Oh the most the most important movie I would.

52:10.28
Bruce Anthony
And I agree.

52:16.81
J. Aundrea
I think you might be surprised but I would say boys in the hood was the most important film. Um, because it just in my mind John Singleton changed black cinema giving us this level of realism.

52:21.70
Bruce Anthony
Um, this.

52:29.00
Bruce Anthony
Okay.

52:35.83
J. Aundrea
That we really didn't get before that you know we had with black exploitation and stuff it really wasn't you know it was a bunch of pimps. No and Kung fu and stuff like that like this was a real didn't know Kung Fu Well but this is a real portrait of life. Um.

52:44.28
Bruce Anthony
That didn't know confu. Well yeah.

52:54.70
J. Aundrea
In the hood but also showing a diverse diversity of black people in the hood you have educated people. You have people who wanted to go to college. You had dope boys and everything in between it was it was just a real portrait of black life at that time.

52:58.30
Bruce Anthony
Yes, yes.

53:05.65
Bruce Anthony
Yeah.

53:11.77
Bruce Anthony
And how society pushed people that that come from all these different walks walks of life that want different things out of life into the same neighborhoods and having to deal in that reality of.

53:12.13
J. Aundrea
in in Los Angeles So.

53:23.40
J. Aundrea
M.

53:30.33
Bruce Anthony
Having nothing outside of these neighborhoods in those neighborhoods and the boys in thehoods when they were in those neighborhoods you didn't see any stores you see any shops you need to see any job opportunities. You have to leave the neighborhoods to to go do that So in these neighborhoods. Um, they're almost trapped together and you have these.

53:34.71
J. Aundrea
In.

53:46.23
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah.

53:48.52
Bruce Anthony
Converging ideologies of life and and having to navigate that and you see tragedy and how certain circumstances come about not because of the choices that you may be because of the environment that you're forced to that you were forced to kind of live in so you know what.

53:49.51
J. Aundrea
M.

54:01.75
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, yeah.

54:07.40
Bruce Anthony
The way you broke it down I absolutely 100% agree with that and I'm going to say that that is the most important movie. Yep and and fat beach can go to hell but no business. But on that note, this is actually the end of the episode.

54:14.00
J. Aundrea
Fat Beach There's no business being on this list.

54:25.39
Bruce Anthony
So ah, what do you want to tell the people out there and the low down dirty shit Actually try it people that are not of the black community. Go watch all these movies except for Fat beach.

54:25.89
J. Aundrea
Um, oh ah, go watch strictly business.

54:36.72
J. Aundrea
Yes, don't watch flat fat beach please no those are not good representations of us or or our community please don't watch either 1 of those please.

54:41.58
Bruce Anthony
Or baps or baps don't watch either one of those.

54:47.87
Bruce Anthony
Though no yeah, don't do the booty call almost made the list but Jamie Fox is hilarious in that and it's is coming out party. But on that note until next time I holler.

54:55.64
J. Aundrea
It yes.