Sibling Happy Hour: A Candid Discussion on Bariatric Surgery, Gun Violence, and Relationship Dynamics

00:04.39
Bruce Anthony
On today's episode is' the sibling happy hour with my sis. She actually came through. We're going to talk to her about her surgery. We're gonna talk about these shootings that's going on in America and we're gonna talk about dating and trust but first things first.

00:29.22
Bruce Anthony
What up obsess. First of all, how are you doing? Yeah I was talking to a couple of fans right? came on.

00:30.28
J.Aundrea
What a brother he I am in pain.

00:41.72
J.Aundrea
Me who.

00:45.78
Bruce Anthony
And they were like is your sister going to be on today and I was like it you know I think she's doing it for spite because said that she was going to come one and I told her that she wasn't so I feel like she's doing it for spite but she's here.

00:49.94
J.Aundrea
Yes.

00:55.94
J.Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, you wouldn't know by my face that I am an excruciating pain is not excreciating I'm feeling better I'm better. Yeah, no, no.

01:02.91
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, all right now I will say okay I will say you ain't never been one for pain like not never so how bad is it? How was the surgery.

01:15.61
J.Aundrea
Now.

01:22.59
Bruce Anthony
How is the recovery. How are you doing break it all down for the folks.

01:25.38
J.Aundrea
So the surgery was good. it's quick it's it's um the gastric sleeve I think the surgery takes about an hour hour and a half um is done laparoscopically so they're not like cutting me open. They made 7 like one inch incisions in different places on my stomach and then they just stuck the instruments in and then they do the operation using the da vinci robot. So. It's real quick. It's easy. Um, they have me on some very nice painkillers I don't know fan anybody has ever had delauded but it's heroin. It's heroin.

01:57.64
Bruce Anthony
I've heard about it.

01:59.99
J.Aundrea
Ah, it's legal Legal heroin but the and the staff at shout out to Pete my hospital but the staff absolutely top here. Um, they really took care of me so that whole time Great experience was I am paining. Yes. Most of the pain comes from in order for them to see what they're doing. They have to fill you with gas to like blow you up so they can see yes and so that gas that gas is constantly moving around in my abdomen. It's it's painful.

02:23.67
Bruce Anthony
So it's like you're being bloated. That's a horrible feeling.

02:34.34
Bruce Anthony
A.

02:36.28
J.Aundrea
And only way to get rid of I mean I'm just burping I mean that's really, there's nothing else. You could do burp and farts. Um, that's that's you know's that ladylike but it is what it is um but I think my recovery is go I'm I'm getting better each day. So yeah I feel like.

02:50.42
Bruce Anthony
Okay, as far as pain and recovery which is worse this or covid. Yeah, that Covid went no joke.

02:54.41
J.Aundrea
Ah, feel like I'm doing good.

03:06.36
J.Aundrea
Covid Covid Covid had me out like this this I'm up and I'm walking around you know, ah the first day or so that I got home I was sleeping a lot but now I'm up I'm walking around because you gotta.

03:18.17
Bruce Anthony
E.

03:18.35
J.Aundrea
Prevent blood clots and things like that so you gotta get up move and but Covid Co had me out I was out I was down for the count because that was whole body ache as Oppos to just my abdomen. Everything.

03:24.52
Bruce Anthony
Um, near.

03:28.80
Bruce Anthony
Yeah I've never I've never been and you know I've had all the sicknesses I had mono and pneumonia at the same damned at the same damn time for a month for a month

03:36.49
J.Aundrea
Yeah.

03:42.22
J.Aundrea
At you have time? Yeah, yeah, don't know what right.

03:47.54
Bruce Anthony
And that was horrible but I made it through right? Obviously I'm still here I'm still here I'm still standing I don't know what's up with these movie references today and I don't pop culture references but covid literally I remember talking you to y'all. We all did a ah video chat I caught for those of you that don't know I caught covid on my birthday. That's when the heart of it came was on my birthday so we were all video chatting in the morning on my birthday the whole family and I was like yeah tested positive like it was it took like one second for that covid.

04:10.10
J.Aundrea
What.

04:18.51
J.Aundrea
With her.

04:24.74
J.Aundrea
Yeah, you don't have to guess when you take that test. You don't have to guess if you have covid they say oh wait 15 minutes not necessary. It pops up immediately? yeah.

04:25.39
Bruce Anthony
To just pop up there I was like I got covered covered and you were like na now you immediately. And everybody all y'all were saying yeah well your day of shot. You're gonna be sleeping I was like nah I was determined I made my breakfast I was like nah. No I'm good. You know I'm saying I'm gonna pour me out some drinks I'm gonna I'm a fight through this within an hour of hanging up I was like let me just go ahead and take a nap.

04:42.62
J.Aundrea
Here.

04:49.90
J.Aundrea
You know.

04:56.62
Bruce Anthony
I did not get out of bed for the rest of the day that I had to pull myself out of it to to walk crypto it was I've never I've never been texted like that before in my life.

04:56.75
J.Aundrea
Yeah, yeah.

05:03.38
J.Aundrea
Yes. And I've never not wanted a dog more in my life because the fact that I still regardless had to take care of her. It. It was torture. It was an absolute torture. But.

05:12.34
Bruce Anthony
Hit. Yes.

05:19.32
Bruce Anthony
Now What's it like having mom there because for those of you that don't know Mom flew down to take care of you which is this is a funny aspect about Mom and I know she's there. She might be listening in on the background.

05:27.37
J.Aundrea
Was both a.

05:36.47
J.Aundrea
She probably is yes um.

05:37.51
Bruce Anthony
This is a funny aspect about mom when we were kids and our mom's a nurse when we were kids. It's not like she was the comfort and tight when when we got hurt or something like that mean when you got that nail stuck in your hand or worse yet mean when you got stung by the B Mom was like stop all that hot.

05:50.55
J.Aundrea
Um, yeah, yeah.

05:56.78
Bruce Anthony
So I can see where it is but now if something' going on she she dropped everything at the drop of a dime to come and take care of us and it's just like well what we grow Now we don't really need you take care of us I needed you to take care of me when I was that little kid and I got that being.

06:04.15
J.Aundrea
No.

06:12.00
J.Aundrea
No I need I stillll need it now now and is is to say it's the same best side manner She gets the job done. But that's the point does Mom get the job done. Yes, okay, are you gonna feel all warm and fuzzy inside. You know, probably not.

06:15.88
Bruce Anthony
It it. What? what.

06:31.20
J.Aundrea
Where is the job going. Get done. Are you going to feel better by the time she leaves. The answer is yes. So.

06:34.58
Bruce Anthony
Give me some examples give me some examples of her bit side manner of.

06:39.78
J.Aundrea
I got I got cus out earlier today. Ah what you need to do you need to be up and walk in since you up get it up. Go walk 10 laps around the island. You know it's it's like that. It's that like okay, we'll since you're a sweetie honey angel why don't you why don't we. Walk some laps together. Sweet bye is.

07:00.58
Bruce Anthony
It's always what you need to do you know I hate that expression Mom and dad have ruined it. We were having fun plan. You know, just having a good time or glad y'all got so much energy or.

07:11.78
J.Aundrea
Oh.

07:14.39
Bruce Anthony
What y'all need to do is go upstairs and go clean up your room. How did that come about. We was just sitting here. Just keep having fun. Why why we got do work because we havent fun.

07:16.94
J.Aundrea
Had did that and I have fun like kids What that's how it is but am I feeling better? Yes, yeah, that you know that she.

07:32.14
Bruce Anthony
That's good. That's the most important thing. Ah.

07:35.34
J.Aundrea
And over me at night not making a sound and then I look up Mess Seer and I jump scare and then she's like it's time for you. Take your pain medicine you know, but was she right? Yes, so.

07:41.50
Bruce Anthony
Um.

07:45.49
Bruce Anthony
Wait a minute she she cathy baton is she Kathy Bates you from misery why wait a minute why why is she standing over top of you.

07:54.12
J.Aundrea
Ah, a little job done.

08:03.71
Bruce Anthony
Hip with a with a finger under your nose are you just wake up. You'd be like ah mom what you need is time you take your pain medication. Ah.

08:04.73
J.Aundrea
To make sure I'm still that's important. That's a perfect. Yes, yeah.

08:19.77
J.Aundrea
Yeah, but you know she was right? it was time. Yeah I think it was like ten thirty yeah Yeah he was like ten thirty yeah

08:23.23
Bruce Anthony
This is in the middle of the night or was it just regular nighttime. Okay, okay, all right? So what are some of the like what can you eat right now.

08:40.44
J.Aundrea
So I'm a clear liquid diet so water any kind of no alcohol. Yeah, um, but you can do like mix ins like crystal light or you can half it with like 100% juice as long as there's no sugar can't handle sugar yet.

08:42.72
Bruce Anthony
Um, vodka. Okay.

08:56.95
Bruce Anthony
Has it a hundred percent juice if it's no sugar.

08:58.40
J.Aundrea
Um, they don't have they have sugar-free juice.

09:08.50
Bruce Anthony
Ah juice. But it has sugar in it life you have oh so they there's okay, okay, all right? okay.

09:08.87
J.Aundrea
No added no added sugar. Yeah but there's no added sugar like there's just a natural sugar that's in the fruit juice. Yeah, um, so just anything that says no sugar added and I look at says zero grams of sugar. Um, so I got some jell-o I got a little mug here. This is got a chicken broth in it that I've been sipping on. Yeah I it's not the best but basically any clear I got some popsicles um and then my protein shakes.

09:41.70
Bruce Anthony
How long do you have to do that. Okay.

09:44.91
J.Aundrea
Two weeks and then two weeks after that I get soft or pure aid foods basically baby food I can eat baby food because you got them. They took 2 thirdds of my stomach so it's got to heal first I can't eat anything too hot or anything too cold.

09:52.65
Bruce Anthony
Ever clear.

10:03.90
J.Aundrea
I'm still letting my stomach heal. So I can't have like real harsh foods I also can't eat a lot I can do about four ounces at a time so most of the time though I can't even do that. Ah before I start feeling some tightness I'm like that's it I'm full. That's it. Yeah, your mom be like drink the whole thing.

10:12.10
Bruce Anthony
A.

10:23.97
J.Aundrea
Ah, like this there's nowhere for it to go you mean they Don is this is done have done.

10:24.27
Bruce Anthony
Um, oh like So how long until you can have like regular food.

10:34.16
J.Aundrea
I think it's like week five. You're doing like soft foods so I can do like scrambled eggs you ma potatoes stuff like that and that's like week five and six so like after six weeks you get start to.

10:43.84
Bruce Anthony
Mashed potatoes.

10:51.79
J.Aundrea
Eat regular food as you can tolerate it but a lot of people. Um, who've had the surgery or similar surgery says carbs are just out. Um, they don't feel good in your stomach because they expand and so any rice pasta breads that you used to love they like it's not gonna feel good.

11:01.64
Bruce Anthony
A.

11:10.24
J.Aundrea
Is not going to feel good to eat it. So yeah, don't be able to do it. Yeah.

11:14.38
Bruce Anthony
That's how I feel on a normal basis I use imposa and some bread I my stomach on Sunday this was a this was my chea day I had donuts and and chicken fingers for breakfast.

11:23.83
J.Aundrea
He here? Well we all know you're a chicken finger eating but we establish that last episode.

11:30.14
Bruce Anthony
With Champagne pick.

11:43.18
Bruce Anthony
Look I'm tell you That's what she said? That's that's yeah, it was hilarious to me in the moment too. Wish she said it. Ah so obviously I had you know donnuts and chicken fingers and then I forgot what I had for dinner. Ah.

11:43.38
J.Aundrea
That is still to me hilarious. Yeah. Choose the play who.

11:59.68
J.Aundrea
A.

11:59.93
Bruce Anthony
Oh I had chinese food when I tell you that um by Sunday night I was laying in bed and my stomach had expanded to the point where it was just straight painful and it did not go away until Tuesday night

12:06.73
J.Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

12:14.37
J.Aundrea
Yeah, so that bloated like painful feeling is how feel all the time since the surgery. Yeah and you could just feel it moving every time I get up or sit down laid out and then of course you know the places where the instruments went in.

12:21.43
Bruce Anthony
Damn.

12:33.43
Bruce Anthony
A.

12:34.11
J.Aundrea
Still really sore. Um, so but other than that I'm all right I know I'm I know I'm healing I know it's gonna take a while to heal completely. Um, so I'm just taking my time with it I'm not letting anything else stress me out. I Try to answer my phone and answer text. But if y'all not get a response for me is because I don't feel like talking and I'm just gonna focus on my recovery like I Just just yeah, um.

12:58.90
Bruce Anthony
I haven't bothered you I said I think I sent you one I think I only initiated one text yesterday and this morning I initiated one yesterday and then this morning cause I was like so you sent me a topic I was like yeah okay, we'll we'll see what happens on thursday.

13:12.69
J.Aundrea
Yes, there.

13:17.99
Bruce Anthony
And so I sent you to Texas morning and I was like so what's the verdict. There wasn't the exact text but it was something like that and he was like oh I'm doing the show and I was like are you okay to do the show I'm doing it damn it I was like okay you doing it for s spite.

13:22.98
J.Aundrea
Yeah know I'm doing it I'm doing it. Yeah I thought I said I'm doing a show and I'm doing it Damn it I'm I'm a woman of my word and I said last week that I was gonna do the show. Am I uncomfortable right now. Yeah I know but hey the show must go on I.

13:46.57
Bruce Anthony
And so she's here folks so that's my sister in the surgery you have 1 parting shot to talk about. You know, anybody thinking about anybody that's out there. That's thinking about it at him and in hahn whether or not to do it. Give them your perspective on it.

14:06.30
J.Aundrea
There's a lot we can come up with a lot of reasons why we shouldn't do anything right? like that we can always come up with an excuse the important thing when you're trying to get your life together in any way not just physically, but in any way when you try and get your life together is to have.

14:08.54
Bruce Anthony
You.

14:23.44
J.Aundrea
Ah, reason why and it can't be something superficial or I'm trying to have a hot girl summer. Well okay, but you can always put that off for next summer or summer after that or the summer after that like it's got to be something real. And substantial enough to make you want to change your entire life and so because this is a change that I'm gonna make for the rest of my life like diet exercise. This is gonna be a part of my life forever now this.

14:50.50
Bruce Anthony
Um, for a ver.

14:55.68
J.Aundrea
My stomach is gone baby this' no turn it back like it's it's gone like there's no turn back here. So I think you got to ask yourself. What is the reason why you want to do It is it enough of a reason to change your entire life and if you feel any. Even an inkling that you won't be committed to this. Don't bother wasting your time and money because you really have to commit to it and you really have to be serious about it and if you know you're just gonna sabotize yourself or that's gonna cheat a little bit or whatever don't bother because you're not serious and you're not really gonna put the work in.

15:16.66
Bruce Anthony
A.

15:32.10
J.Aundrea
That you need to put the work in in order to be successful. That's it.

15:33.60
Bruce Anthony
Preach.

15:43.99
Bruce Anthony
All right? Si as as the fans like to say I bring him up and down and back up again. So this is a down part. We got this verlicose this right? This is what was it the grizzly at King's dominion

15:55.10
J.Aundrea
Um, so Rolla coaster.

15:58.90
J.Aundrea
Now that was one you get stuck on but I I know it's talking about.

16:02.24
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, okay so you know I'm talking about So we' about to talk about these shootings and and and and and I know I got to get specific because their shootings all over the place.

16:07.13
J.Aundrea
And.

16:13.34
J.Aundrea
Right.

16:17.56
Bruce Anthony
This week alone there were 3 instances where people were shot I want to say wrong place wrong time. But that's could be any situation. They were just literally in the wrong place by accident and got shot first one was ah.

16:28.74
J.Aundrea
Yes, my.

16:35.70
Bruce Anthony
And Kansas City Young Black Man Ralph Yourll out okay with okay then it went off all right now I don't know what to i' know what you're doing. Okay so Ralph.

16:38.14
J.Aundrea
And a revolver and I sorry my phone went off I to silence it and it went off. Yeah I had the volume all the way down. So I don't know what happened.

16:55.42
Bruce Anthony
That's the reason why I turn mine on airplane on so it just just doesn't happen. yeah yeah you know yeah I'm not a buffoon all the time. Ah so Ralph y'all got shot by Andrew Lester right outside of Kansas City and this was a situation where a young black man.

16:59.29
J.Aundrea
That's more I'm doing it I Just did it? yeah. And.

17:13.74
Bruce Anthony
Came to adore the door of a house that he thought that he was going to pick up his younger twin siblings rang the doorbell and waited Andrew Lester 85 year old white man came to the door shot him in the head then.

17:19.53
J.Aundrea
For whom.

17:29.40
J.Aundrea
E.

17:32.52
Bruce Anthony
As he fell down to the ground shot him in the arm slammed the door. Okay, that young man crawled to 3 houses for help. He did not get help into the final house. The third house and even in that situation. They told him to lay down on the ground. With his hands in it air and this is a young man had been shot in the hit in New York Kalin Gillis and her friends were trying to find a party a house party and they were in an area in Upstate New York

18:03.99
J.Aundrea
Yes.

18:09.90
Bruce Anthony
They're kind of in the wooded area. Don't have good reception and they had turned down this driveway to turn around to go back into another direction and Kevin Monahan let loose. He didn't wait to see who was there they were just turning around his driveway. He let loose with a couple of shots.

18:21.77
J.Aundrea
Dot.

18:29.25
Bruce Anthony
Hit Kalin she's dead twenty years old then we go down to Texas and ah they don't give all their names but ah young girls that were in a competitive cheerleading competition. We're in a parking lot.

18:31.54
J.Aundrea
Um, yeah.

18:43.74
J.Aundrea
Oh.

18:45.78
Bruce Anthony
1 of the girls got out of her friend's car when did something came back. She accidentally got out got into the wrong car. She got out of that car without any altercation or anything went back to her. Friend's car. The person his name was.

18:52.64
J.Aundrea
Yes.

19:03.39
Bruce Anthony
Pedro Rodriguez Junior came up to the car with his gun and started letting loose Peyton Washington 1 of the young cheerryleaders is still in intensive care I believe she said still in intensive care. These are 3 instances in one week

19:12.56
J.Aundrea
Yeah, and and Ralph is home and recovering physically but live. Yeah.

19:22.98
Bruce Anthony
Ralph is home and cover physically um, 3 3 instances and and all of them aren't racially motivated so we can't go along that factor the the first one is absolutely racially motivated. Um.

19:36.98
J.Aundrea
Yes, that old asked white man saw this young black kid and just immediately shot him and according to Ralph what Ralph told police in the hospital is that it was untrue. Lester said that? ah. Ralph had reached for the door handle. He's like I never even touched the door and when he shot me and I was on the ground he said don't come around here. No more or something to that effect.

20:04.76
Bruce Anthony
Yeah I have I have I want to get to that but I have a larger issue I want to get to Andrew Lester but I have a larger issue um that I wanted to talk about and it's just.

20:18.77
Bruce Anthony
I Don't know when we got to this point where human life is just we don't feel like it's important at all and I'm not talking about everybody I'm talking I'm generally speaking we are letting loose with shots.

20:27.91
J.Aundrea
The right. Yeah, yeah.

20:37.50
Bruce Anthony
Just the other day I forget where it was a young girl I think it was down in Florida maybe in Florida young girl basketball went into a neighbor's lawn ah by accident the neighbor went over shot her and a father and he's on a run.

20:53.58
J.Aundrea
T.

20:55.81
Bruce Anthony
Ah, this this disregard for human life I don't know where it's really coming from and you really only see these things happen in America do other people die from gun violence in other countries. Absolutely but here in America that's the american way baby. We're gonna shoot people. And and these aren't stand your ground type situations right? because there are situations where somebody's trying to break in your house and you got to let loose and that is what it is and respect that but this yeah Ralph wasn't doing anything he was ringing on the doorbell it was his mistaken house. Ah calin.

21:19.91
J.Aundrea
Say.

21:28.46
J.Aundrea
Yeah, yeah.

21:32.76
Bruce Anthony
They were just lost I don't know how many times I've been lost back in the day before there was a gps later and ladies and gentlemen. You would get lost right? I don't know how many times I would get lost in neighborhoods trying to find a friend's house or a party or something like that pulling this somebody's driveway just turn around. Now that I did that somebody would just let loose not run out. He didn't run out and and confront them find out what was going on. He just started shooting I'm talking about um Kevin Monahan up in New York he just started shooting and a young man pedro rodriguez like who I don't.

22:00.16
J.Aundrea
No.

22:08.44
Bruce Anthony
These are young teenage cheerleaders like they showed the picture of Peyton she's like this little itty bittty thing I don't understand how you would get so angry that you just go. You're gonna point blank range shoot people in the car. They have no way to.

22:10.99
J.Aundrea
Yeah.

22:26.78
J.Aundrea
Here.

22:27.70
Bruce Anthony
Defend themselves. They're not a threat to you and you just letting loose and and the talk of these weren't Ar fifteen s so we can't say they are a R fifteen s but what we can say is it's just too easy for people to have guns. People should be able to have guns. But. If. It's not so easy to pass your driving tests. Maybe it shouldn't be so easy to get a gun and I know plenty of people that have failed driving tests I ain't gonna name no names. Yeah I was alluded to that.

22:50.59
J.Aundrea
Right.

22:58.40
J.Aundrea
I mean I'm one. Um I I am what? um technically I did fail my driving test and he gave me my license anyway. Um, because at that point I was just grown and he's like you know what? it's good enough.

23:02.17
Bruce Anthony
But I went go name no names.

23:07.72
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, well.

23:14.22
Bruce Anthony
Where.

23:16.24
J.Aundrea
And so that is me another problem and I was talking about this with our brother earlier is the issue of the stand your ground law. It's laws themselves that these states have It's essentially given people carte blanche to.

23:27.97
Bruce Anthony
A.

23:35.10
J.Aundrea
To just enact vigilante justice I mean in all of these instances if there were not stand on your ground laws. Everyone would have called 10 1 you didn't have to answer the door. You didn't have to come outside. You didn't have to go after this young lady if you thought. These kids were up to no good That's what 9 wants for that's what the police is for but because we have these standing your ground laws and I think about 35 states that are in addition to self-defense laws that we have so like why do you need stand your ground and self-defense laws. You don't staying ground just gives people like I said carte blanche to just enact their own style of justice and I'll tell you when I did um, gun safety training. You know what? our teacher said was. You do not pull your weapon as a first resort. It's the last. It's the absolute last if you can't get away if you can't call the authorities if there is just literally nothing. You can do and it's your life versus theirs that is the only time you pull your weapon and when you pull your weapon you better, be ready to discharge it like it's not a threat.

24:48.85
Bruce Anthony
Here.

24:51.13
J.Aundrea
That is not a threat. It literally can take ah the purpose of a gun is to take a human life. That's the point a gun is there's no other purpose for a gun. Yeah, you can go hunting with them. Blah Blah blah. But the reason why they were manufactured. The reason why they were invented was to take human life. Um, maybe both the 15 Yeah.

25:11.37
Bruce Anthony
Well we kind of knew this during George Zimmerman I mean we knew this what what was that ten years ago now ten eleven years ago ah Lebron James was in Miami so it was somewhere between 14014

25:26.16
J.Aundrea
And.

25:29.13
Bruce Anthony
Right? So yeah, but we we've known that because that was a bullshit case I'm not supposed to be cussing on this but whatever I'm upset now. Ah that was a bullshit case in and of itself because you're chasing me I'm going to defend myself because I'm whooping that ass. You can shoot and kill me.

25:33.70
J.Aundrea
And yeah. Yeah, yeah, person who had the right to stand their ground was trayvon.

25:46.87
Bruce Anthony
But I saw a right I you're not going to like this. You're not going to like this next take and I'm talking specifically about Andrew Lesster oh before I get to the Andrew Lester I did a um.

25:55.19
J.Aundrea
Okay.

26:04.11
Bruce Anthony
And this is gonna go to my point. It's gonna roll into Andrew Lester so on Monday all that stuff popped off right? Ah, the shooting with ah Ralph happened the week before but the the shooting of Kaen happened.

26:09.20
J.Aundrea
On.

26:20.57
Bruce Anthony
Like that weekend. So Monday that was the first thing on the news and on Monday they finally decided to charge Andrew after all these protests and they realized that these people ain't go go away because Andrew went home that night. So on Tuesday morning I said I'm gonna do a little.

26:31.72
J.Aundrea
Um, yeah.

26:38.13
J.Aundrea
Here.

26:38.91
Bruce Anthony
Case study. So I went on foxnews.com because surely they're going to have articles on on what's going on in the world today. So no it it was a.

26:50.21
J.Aundrea
So you determined to hurt your own feelings.

26:56.65
Bruce Anthony
You're going to understand where I'm going with this once I explain it so I go on foxnews.com and sure enough. The first article is something about Biden did something illegal like I expect that from Fox News second article Kalin they they they discussed to calin.

27:09.11
J.Aundrea
Right. Yes.

27:15.99
Bruce Anthony
Ah, scroll down I keep scrolling I keep scrolling I keep scrolling and I see things about Antonio Brown giving an interview by why him and time Brady isn't cool I keep scrolling I keep scrolling nowhere on there. Do I see Andrew Lester or Ralph right? Ralph y'all.

27:31.14
J.Aundrea
And.

27:35.30
Bruce Anthony
Don't see anything and it all hit me because if you start to the information's coming out for people close to Andrew Lester and the cops already knew that it was racially motivated during last weekend right? He looks like the type of person that just.

27:48.46
J.Aundrea
And work.

27:54.50
Bruce Anthony
Binges right? conservative right? Wing conservative media and if you're on Fox News and I'm scrolling I'm scrolling they damn show was talking about the kids in Chicago and downtown while and out but they damn sure we're not going to talk about Andrew Lester shooting so they'll portray.

27:57.85
J.Aundrea
M.

28:11.30
J.Aundrea
Right.

28:14.38
Bruce Anthony
Black people and brown people in a negative light and if you only consume that and you're not interacting with people that people of color you're only interacting with white people because this is all white neighborhood that he was living in right? okay.

28:16.10
J.Aundrea
Yes.

28:24.84
J.Aundrea
Oh.

28:32.13
Bruce Anthony
And you're only interacting with these people and you're consuming this media. You will absolutely believe that and I do believe that he was in fear of his life because he portrayed this young black man as what's portrayed. On Fox News or newsmaxs o in as the the threat to your safety. He didn't see this young brilliant honor student that's in like scholastic special programs and plays instruments.

28:55.85
J.Aundrea
Right.

29:06.42
J.Aundrea
Yeah.

29:09.60
Bruce Anthony
He didn't see that kit what he saw was a black person that from everything that he reads and watches is a threat and they won't get any blame for it. But the news organizations are responsible for this just as they're responsible for January Sixth just as they had to settle for seven a half million for a deformation and there's more lawsuits coming the media that you consume what you what you watch and consume.

29:29.65
J.Aundrea
Um, he had.

29:43.52
Bruce Anthony
Can absolutely distort your reality and I won't put it all on right wing media because I have some people that are close to me that are constantly sending me articles or reals or something like that and I'm like God Damn like I I know.

29:44.41
J.Aundrea
Yeah.

30:00.59
Bruce Anthony
What they're sending me to to have been the case right? because for content for the show I'm always consuming media all different types of media. But it's all different types of media. It's not 1 continuous thing. So if you're watching.

30:02.00
J.Aundrea
And yes.

30:08.49
J.Aundrea
Here.

30:18.50
Bruce Anthony
1 continuous thing all the time I've seen people in the black community that have always been friends to all races start to try to start to turn on white people because of what they're seeing in there. Algorithm from whatever social media that they're following of just all the if you if you only get legislators trying to take away trans rights trying to eliminate lgbt q community trying to force children to have.

30:37.15
J.Aundrea
In.

30:55.36
Bruce Anthony
Ah, babies. Even if they're 10 years old because as ah as a congresswoman and damn it Oklahoma I believe it was a congresswoman Oklahoma said the woman's body was meant to give birth and the life of that baby is more important.

31:05.85
J.Aundrea
Um.

31:12.13
Bruce Anthony
Then whatever that girl is going through the 10 year old rape victim by the way. Ah, if you're only consuming the the ted cruises and and the ah um, what's my boy, the santos and and the trumps if you're only consuming and you're only seeing that that will rile up.

31:13.55
J.Aundrea
You know.

31:23.66
J.Aundrea
Dissented.

31:31.82
Bruce Anthony
Anger and as my man Yoda says anger leads to hate. So I'm not giving a pass to Andrew Lester he needs to pay for what he did but also some of these media companies need to be paying for what they're doing.

31:35.16
J.Aundrea
A.

31:40.96
J.Aundrea
Now.

31:49.40
J.Aundrea
Yeah.

31:51.42
Bruce Anthony
And social media companies that are that are creating these algorithms to give you more of what you want to consume instead of more of what ah more of a variety of what you should be consuming. Um I'm not giving him a pass on that I'm not I'm just saying.

32:02.47
J.Aundrea
Yeah, yeah. No.

32:10.57
Bruce Anthony
Understand how it got to this point and it's only going to get you're going to see more and more situations like this.

32:14.86
J.Aundrea
Yeah, and and honestly beyond that my my issue is that this idea of standing your ground. That's my issue because if he did all of these things that you're saying and he felt threatened.

32:22.10
Bruce Anthony
He looking.

32:30.81
J.Aundrea
By this now image of a black man that's standing on his porch. Why not call the police why open the door. You don't have to open the door just because he write the doorbell right? But my point is.

32:36.22
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, well where he he opened the door to shoot him. That's that was a sole purpose. Actually no he I thought he shot him I thought he shut him through the glass door.

32:49.60
J.Aundrea
He shot him through the glass. Yes, yes.

32:53.48
Bruce Anthony
And then opened the door to shoot him in the arm and then told him don't come the audac that's some bold at audacity you shot the person in the head you shot him again in the arm you might not realize you shot him in the arm you may it thought you hit him in the body and then said don't come back right.

33:08.36
J.Aundrea
What's sad is that with sadders that this kid had to go to 3 different houses to get help.

33:11.59
Bruce Anthony
That That's the reason why I brought that up and so I feel like you remember there was a good Samaritan log years ago I'm sure that's not in the case anymore. But like if there was a good Samaritan law like those people should be charged.

33:22.20
J.Aundrea
Um.

33:25.42
J.Aundrea
Yeah, absolutely that was a child who had been shot in the head.

33:29.31
Bruce Anthony
Literally it. He's not a 16 year old child like I was when I was 16 when I look like a grown man. He looks like a child.

33:36.54
J.Aundrea
Yeah, he looks like a child. Yeah, he was. He's not some 7 8 483 pound linebacker. Okay, he was a sixteen year old boy.

33:45.52
Bruce Anthony
I put first of all I know you exaggerate but don't none of that exist. That's bigger than Andre the giant. Okay so 10

33:54.67
J.Aundrea
This also so Andre the giant big show type kid like this. It's it was a it was an average. He is an average sixteen year old boy who has met on I mean that might give me pause.

34:05.43
Bruce Anthony
You got black Andre to giant covered to the door outside I can't let this that yes that would give me pause now.

34:13.86
J.Aundrea
So anybody that made him big that might give me some pause too. But the thing is I'm not gonna answer the door.

34:23.76
Bruce Anthony
The only reason why I would get the gun is if I feel like they're about to come through the door I'm a go get the gun and the phone I'm talking about if ah if what Jay describes as the seven foot 8 black andre the giant come to the door I'm go good. Go umm, go go get the gun but I'm also on go grab the phone and.

34:36.72
J.Aundrea
Um, yeah, yeah.

34:43.36
Bruce Anthony
Um, ah the gun is if you try to come through that door right? But that's.

34:44.31
J.Aundrea
If you try to come through the door dash so ass. But I'm not going to open the door and it's just like the issue with Peyton Washington the cheerleader she had gotten back into her car or her friend's car.

35:00.23
Bruce Anthony
It wasn't even her. She wasn't the one that she was just sitting in the car. It was the the witness said I had gotten into the wrong car I got back into my friend's car I rolled down the window and was apologizinging and he just let loose peytonton had Payton Peyton

35:08.40
J.Aundrea
Here.

35:13.84
J.Aundrea
Yes, I was there? Yeah and and the fact that you went grabbed the gun walked around to the drive side waiting for to roll the winter down to just start shooting into the car.

35:17.97
Bruce Anthony
Was just in the car with France.

35:31.71
J.Aundrea
And it's the in. It's this idea that human life is so valueless that these minor things that even if they were trying to steal your car that is not that is not equate to the death penalty your little raggy as camry.

35:37.35
Bruce Anthony
Yeah.

35:51.70
J.Aundrea
Ah, 88 Camry does not qualify for the death penalty. It just doesn't sir but ah Mr. Lester Alden old man chochkes in your house probably smells like broccoli.

36:05.70
Bruce Anthony
I.

36:06.33
J.Aundrea
Ah, none of none of none of the things that he would have stolen there which I don't think you have a lot of anything none of the things that he could have is worth the death penalty. There's not death penalty. You don't get to take someone's life. Luckily Ralph did not pass away. Luckily.

36:12.38
Bruce Anthony
Um, no.

36:22.82
J.Aundrea
Um, Peyton she's still in the I see you but has not passed away. It would be.

36:26.10
Bruce Anthony
But Kalin did and you know what was sad about you know was sad about that. Her boyfriend was in the car with her. He's like he did an interview I'm have to live with that for the rest of the life just because I turned down the wrong street and that turned down the wrong street like you turn down the wrong street and like.

36:36.96
J.Aundrea
You.

36:44.40
Bruce Anthony
Okay, so like in DC and Baltimore you turn down the wrong street and it'd be the wrong street but people I ain't gonna just start bucking at you this was there. They weren't expecting any danger they and they were.

36:50.63
J.Aundrea
Um, no.

36:57.48
J.Aundrea
No, you know how many times I bustle you in somebody's driveway all the time.

37:03.95
Bruce Anthony
We bust a you in somebody's driveway ain't no big thing now I've been in a house where somebody but bus a you we in the driveway and I'm like what the hell's going on. Okay, they just had to turn around you go you you go look go out there and look. But as as a as they're driving away. You don't let loose and and that.

37:11.11
J.Aundrea
Um, yeah, yeah, you can look.

37:19.70
J.Aundrea
No.

37:22.70
Bruce Anthony
That young person died all it is to say it and I understand your point that you trying to make would stand your ground and you're right? My point still is Fox News did not report that they didn't.

37:36.45
J.Aundrea
No, or if they wouldn't because there's no way to spin that story. There's no way to spin it. What's the way to spin it.

37:41.50
Bruce Anthony
They they they didn't even and it was breaking get it is. There's absolutely a way to spin it because Lester you can you can spin it if you're Fox News you can spin it as lester said he tried to open up the door and only and the only proof that you had that he didn't. Is him and his parents saying that he wasn't trying to and and the reason why Fox News isn' talking about this because I saw the interview where the um it wasn't a da it was a da it was a d the da gave her interview when they decided to press charges. And the questions that they got does. He have a criminal record talking about Ralph does he have a criminal record. Is there any history of violence in his background I might almost cussed on this episode. Ah I'm like you you gotta be kidding me? no and that's the reason why Fox News is not going to report it because they can't find.

38:22.58
J.Aundrea
And.

38:38.99
Bruce Anthony
There is a slant. There is a slant but he doesn't fit the criteria because he's too pristine clean like you can't find any fault you could find a fault for me if I was sixteen years old he had a little you know he had a couple of run-ins with the law right? then you could you could say something like that. But with him.

38:39.90
J.Aundrea
There's no.

38:44.46
J.Aundrea
Over.

38:51.74
J.Aundrea
Nina. Yeah, yeah.

38:58.58
Bruce Anthony
There's nothing there so they're not going to report it and that's what pissed me off it was oh you're showing all these black and brown people when they do bad and we do be doing some bad sometimes we ain't innocent all the time them kids in Chicago downtown Chicago that was running wild smashes stuff and Robin and just.

39:06.20
J.Aundrea
A 0

39:18.30
Bruce Anthony
Yo that I cannot defend that in any way right? that that needs to be reported. We need to know about that. But also people need to know that young black kid at the wrong house picking up his younger twin siblings got shot in the head all because he was black. Oh you don't want to report that.

39:21.90
J.Aundrea
Um.

39:34.73
J.Aundrea
You know.

39:37.81
Bruce Anthony
It doesn't fit the narrative that you want to get across to your people because the only thing that you want to do is scare all your people that this great enemy is coming to get you.

39:48.28
J.Aundrea
And the thing of it is that makes it so heartbreaking is that they don't even believe this oh Tucker Carlson all those ah they don't even believe it and they're calling so much damage. He knows.

39:52.95
Bruce Anthony
No, they don't well I I do believe Tucker believes it Tucker believes it.

40:05.65
J.Aundrea
He knows the stuff that he's saying is BS though and that was when that was when them text messages were leaked where you could see. Okay, he knows he knows. He's not stupid it's not stupid man

40:06.75
Bruce Anthony
Sometimes that was different that was the. He knew that he knew that Trump was not telling the truth about election fraud in an election. He knew that but I asked. Oh yeah, yeah, now they don't.

40:25.94
J.Aundrea
You know them, they all know what's making them money do not care at all about the consequences because it's very easy to just pop a Ambien and go to sleep and pretend like oh my one little news segment.

40:38.96
Bruce Anthony
Hit is that is it.

40:45.27
J.Aundrea
Could not possibly be responsible for all of these things.

40:49.58
Bruce Anthony
Oh but that's a but that's generally easy for most people to do most people can can pawn off their wrongdoings as I didn't cause that that wasn't that wasn't on me most people don't take responsibility. Ah.

40:52.81
J.Aundrea
Um, yeah.

40:57.92
J.Aundrea
But not people very rarely take accountability for their action.

41:03.20
Bruce Anthony
I think I'm the only one in the world.

41:07.83
J.Aundrea
On that note segment time.

41:19.36
Bruce Anthony
All right says for this final segment. We're gonna talk about this Tick Tock video that you sent me and I don't have it because it's too long I'm just gonna give everybody elseynopsis of what happened? Yeah, it 8 parts of long so got a girl they're dating all right. They've been dating for a little while.

41:23.79
J.Aundrea
Right here. Yeah, because there's like 8 parts to it very long. Yeah.

41:39.30
Bruce Anthony
She decided to play prank on him. Ah she deleted all of his created players all his my players on Mba 2 k he freaked all the way out slamming a computer down crying.

41:46.10
J.Aundrea
M.

41:52.70
J.Aundrea
And.

41:57.48
Bruce Anthony
Telling her that it's over. She's thinking. Why are you? What are you talking about is over. This is a joke. He's not taking it as a joke when you sent it to me so that's ladies and gentlemen. That's the premise of the video when you sent it to me I was like.

42:01.96
J.Aundrea
Yeah.

42:09.99
J.Aundrea
Yeah.

42:16.91
Bruce Anthony
Oh she's wrong for this but I know most women because I've dated them and I play video games and they say why are you playing this silly game now I play it solely for stress relief. But there's legitimate income in these games. There are tournaments there are leagues.

42:21.50
J.Aundrea
M.

42:29.84
J.Aundrea
Um, yeah, yes.

42:36.23
Bruce Anthony
E Sports is a real thing. Oh yes.

42:36.82
J.Aundrea
You can make your money on twitch that just broadcasting there is and and it's my understanding that he was earning money through playing 2 k.

42:46.70
Bruce Anthony
He well so I did a little research on him. He had 3 my players my players are your creative players the basic principle of it. Is you start out with like a low score. Right? Like your player has a low score say maybe like a 20 your goal is to get to a 99 but it's a long process and you have to spend money to get to that point if you don't spend money. It takes you even longer. But you had to spend money to get these bonus rewards but you still got to put in hours and hour hours and hour hours of work.

43:04.92
J.Aundrea
So yeah.

43:20.72
Bruce Anthony
If you get to the point where you have a player in the 90 s you can make real money and all in leagues. You can make real money and playing other players online. You can make real money just streaming you plan on Twitch. There's real. There is real money.

43:32.17
J.Aundrea
You.

43:40.23
Bruce Anthony
And when I talk about money I'm talking about 6 figures 7 figures. There is money out there for these games and he had not 1 not 2 but 3 my players all in the 90 s so not only did that take an extreme amount of work to get there.

43:45.81
J.Aundrea
Yeah, yeah.

43:55.70
J.Aundrea
Yes.

43:59.37
Bruce Anthony
He was also getting that money because those players are are hard to get to so when you send that to me that was my initial reaction. Oh she's mad foul for this but there was a therapist that followed up the video afterwards.

44:03.11
J.Aundrea
Yes.

44:09.32
J.Aundrea
E.

44:18.10
Bruce Anthony
And she gave some stuff that I didn't even think about. Do you want to tell the people What? what? Basically the basic premise of what she said or you don't remember do you? No no, no, no, no, no, no no I saw it afterwards so you didn't see that part and maybe you didn't see that part. Did you see what the therapist said.

44:25.79
J.Aundrea
Um, did I send that to you or you saw another video.

44:32.62
J.Aundrea
Okay, okay, no.

44:37.71
Bruce Anthony
No, okay so you didn't see that part. The therapist said basically the the basic premise of what the therapist said was is that she didn't respect what was important to him that although she thought it was trivial.

44:52.35
J.Aundrea
Um.

44:57.19
Bruce Anthony
The fact that he had put so much time and effort and work in it was important to him and her erasing it made made it seem didn't make a scene showed to him how insignificant what he did was to her. So.

45:12.87
J.Aundrea
Yes.

45:16.48
Bruce Anthony
It would be like for ladies and gentlemen out there. It would be like if you you're married or you're in a relationship you have a partner or whatever and you both work but you come home and you make this really fancy dinner maybe because your partner had a bad day or is a special occasion. And your partner says oh that's nice as you did that I'm gonna go to Pizza Hut or I'm gonna go get taco but I want to eat this tonight just completely disrespecting the work that you put in minimizing what you did and I was like oh.

45:42.29
J.Aundrea
Yeah, yeah.

45:49.50
J.Aundrea
You don't have to like what I made but at least acknowledge the work that went into it.

45:55.30
Bruce Anthony
Right? So I didn't even think when she brought in I was like she said what I was thinking but I I didn't have the expertise to say this is what it was and you find that often like I find that.

46:07.10
J.Aundrea
And.

46:12.34
Bruce Anthony
That often. But I find that with women that a day because I play video games and they're like you're a forty year old man. Why are you playing video games differences to make to you why I play video games. Yeah, well like why do you do? the things that you do right? like don't disrespe but well was yoga.

46:18.20
J.Aundrea
Um, why do you meet? you know, right? Why do you do? yoga. That's why why do you? you know I mean but it's like it's something that you enjoy.

46:30.76
Bruce Anthony
Right? You know and Youin't got to like it but but damn it if you with me, you go damn show respect it. You gonna respect me.

46:36.97
J.Aundrea
Yes, and and especially to me it didn't feel like a prank. It felt malicious because you have been a witness to how hard this man worked to get those 3 players into the 90 s and you knew. How much it meant to him where you even got the idea your mind what would happen if I erased them. It felt malicious to me and it's it's just the disrespect that people have like I said you don't have to like what I do you don't have to like. That I play video games but you see how much of my time I invest in it. It's clearly something important to me therefore it needs to be a have a modicru of respect from you.

47:22.10
Bruce Anthony
A.

47:30.39
Bruce Anthony
Yep So I said at the top that this is dating and trust it was is dating is not dating it Well somewhat trust you trust a person enough if you're dating them that they will have respect for you. But it's really dating and respect. It's respecting one another just because.

47:33.50
J.Aundrea
Ask? yeah right? yeah.

47:47.11
Bruce Anthony
You think that it's silly or not I I dated a girl one time and and I was and she would not spend the night over my place she would drive home no matter what to go take care of her cat to me I've had cats cats are cool. You can leave them alone at night.

47:58.78
J.Aundrea
And. Yeah.

48:06.92
Bruce Anthony
And I don't understand why you gotta race home to go feed this cat when you could have left the food out. Well she'll get lonely. She'll she'll get anxious and distress and and then yeah, that's when I had to realize I was like oh okay, like say less because.

48:14.50
J.Aundrea
Um, right that past her baby. That's it.

48:25.75
Bruce Anthony
There's a bunch of people out there that them never had dogs and they will be like why do you do this for crypto why you do that for the crypto. He's just a dog. It's It's my dog is my dog is like my child is my dog is like my child. It's not the same thing. Yes, it absolutely is.

48:34.45
J.Aundrea
Isn not just a dog. Yes, you don't understand how much work and money and time we invest in our pets. These are is not just a dog if you ever come to my house talking about Ronnie is just a dog.

48:45.58
Bruce Anthony
Right? you. Walk out look you had that kid for 3 maybe 3 years I didn't had my dog for 13 years don't don't tell me, it's the same It's not the same It's not the same It's not the same.

48:52.61
J.Aundrea
You walk your ass right? back out my house. Right? Right is not the not the same not on the same level way to o kid gets to 13 and then you tell me if we're on the same level. We're not.

49:09.50
Bruce Anthony
And we still won't be on the same level because at 13 year old you can leave home by itself. Go off and go do what you wouldn't do I'll still have to take care of that dog like he was a toddler.

49:18.37
J.Aundrea
But there are too many toxic relationships out there where the 2 people do not respect each other yes, you may have passion for each other. You may be attracted to each other. You may like hanging out.

49:27.00
Bruce Anthony
Yeah.

49:35.76
J.Aundrea
That doesn't mean that you respect each other. It doesn't mean that you look at this person and be like I Really respect you and what you're doing and who you are. It's a lot to get to that point you don't just automatically respect ah somebody off the bat so to get to that point takes a lot of work.

49:35.81
Bruce Anthony
There.

49:50.32
Bruce Anthony
No.

49:54.12
J.Aundrea
And there's too many people out here dating people. They're attracted to great but y'all value systems are off and you don't respect each other.

50:02.59
Bruce Anthony
Well, the volume sisters are off because I don't a lot of times and I don't think they realize what it is that they want. Ah so ah I have a friend of mine and he is.

50:07.18
J.Aundrea
Right.

50:17.51
Bruce Anthony
Always talking about how I'm turning down women and I do for those that are close to me I turn down when right left. It's not like I'm saying I'm Blair Underwood or damn I just I just dated myself I don't I don't know I don't know who is a hot.

50:18.28
J.Aundrea
M.

50:28.25
J.Aundrea
Stop Blair Underwood you know you did say Michael B Jordan I think he's well his.

50:36.95
Bruce Anthony
Who's a young hadie right now now I will never say Michael B Jordan because I got I got legitimate I got legitimate beef with Michael B Jordan it's only in my mind but it's legitimate be but okay Michael B Jordan I'm no I know I'm no Michael B Jordan whatever but you know some women you know, find me.

50:46.79
J.Aundrea
Family. Yeah.

50:55.30
J.Aundrea
A.

50:56.54
Bruce Anthony
Appealing and ah I'm always like Nah I'm not interested in that like he's been out with me when women have hit on me and I'm like no I'm not interested in it and his in his mind. He's like but she's hot and I was like there's more to being with somebody.

51:13.69
J.Aundrea
Yeah, yes.

51:15.95
Bruce Anthony
And just that physical attraction like I'm I'm not I'm not interested I had a few conversations with her. It's not gonna work out. Why do you know that because I know what triggers are and like I know what certain people say to certain questions that I ask them and I'm like oh okay.

51:25.10
J.Aundrea
Um, yeah, you.

51:34.50
Bruce Anthony
This is what your mindset is that's cool I respect you we can be friends I can't date you I I'm at a point now in my life I do have to admire the person that I I have to admire them. Um, that admire that's.

51:45.35
J.Aundrea
Yes, yes I have to have I have to have respect for the person that I'm with and I've dated a lot of people I had no damn respect for and that's when that's my fault but you know but you know sometimes.

51:52.68
Bruce Anthony
This respect and admiration. Yeah, well yeah, but everybody does that.

52:04.20
J.Aundrea
Everybody is dated somebody worked at Kenny Shoes I mean that's they found. That's this for ah but you know like it there. There's there's times you've dated people. You don't have respect for but I think a lot of it comes with experience age time where you just realize.

52:06.50
Bruce Anthony
No, no, no, no and everybody else.

52:23.96
J.Aundrea
Where where you're red what are red flags for you. What are green flags which you'll tolerate what you won't tolerate which you'll accept what you won't accept.

52:31.10
Bruce Anthony
But I think the key to all of it and because you're right with all of those things but the key to all of it is aren't you okay being by yourself because if you're okay, being by yourself that means you won't be searching for something to fill the void and and I hate when I talk to people.

52:39.26
J.Aundrea
We are.

52:45.67
J.Aundrea
Exactly.

52:51.50
Bruce Anthony
And and I'm like so are you dating and he's like yeah like so what? why are you dating I'm looking to find somebody to marry. Okay, let me tell you what's wrong with that concept in and of itself you're looking to find somebody that's married that means that that's on your mind which means that you'll that more than likely you you'll find try to fit a what is it.

52:58.60
J.Aundrea
Okay.

53:09.35
J.Aundrea
Oh.

53:09.87
Bruce Anthony
Square Peg and round hole. Yeah, um, because you're because your ultimate destination is to get to this point what you should be saying is I'm dating and I'm hoping to find something that would last for a while. But.

53:15.14
J.Aundrea
Yeah.

53:28.23
Bruce Anthony
Um, not gonna rush into anything I'm gonna take my time to see what's out there but that also means you had to be okay with being by yourself too many people out here. Not okay, being by yourself and the reason why you said that you saw maliciousness in her actions.

53:30.16
J.Aundrea
Yeah, yeah.

53:43.43
J.Aundrea
Same.

53:46.95
Bruce Anthony
Because I can guarantee you he was spending a lot of time playing the video games and she felt neglected in her mind. Did she express that to him maybe did she express it to the point where he actually heard her I don't know is that his fault for not listening. Maybe.

53:53.94
J.Aundrea
Um, maybe.

54:00.19
J.Aundrea
And.

54:05.98
Bruce Anthony
Could he could He also acknowledge the fact that yeah you out here doing a grind in a hustle but that you also need to give respect to the person that you're with cause that that person that you with needs time I'll never forget and and I know I bring her up often but she taught me a lot of life lessons. So.

54:13.83
J.Aundrea
And.

54:22.55
Bruce Anthony
My ex-wife taught me, there's a lot of things I learned there's a lot of things I matured in in my life while we were together this is before we got married but we're engaged and were playing the wedding I I had progressed in my career to the point where I was starting to make some real moves.

54:40.40
J.Aundrea
On.

54:42.35
Bruce Anthony
But at the time I'm making real moves. There is it's very time consuming and there would be times that we would be eating dinner or something that was our time to eat dinner watch Tv and I would run off to the computer to respond to emails this is before like.

54:46.73
J.Aundrea
Yeah.

55:00.74
Bruce Anthony
Cell phones had emails but really, you had to run in the computer in 2 emails. So I would disrupt whatever we were doing to go take care work stuff what she did was she wrote me a letter because she knows that I when I read out I'll focus in on that and I'll absorb. She wrote me a letter.

55:02.46
J.Aundrea
Yeah.

55:17.59
J.Aundrea
Um, your group.

55:19.48
Bruce Anthony
And in that letter she did not say you're spending all your time working you neglecting me, she started off by saying I'm so proud of you. You were making big moves. You're chasing your dreams I am so happy for you and then she was like also I would like a little bit more your time.

55:23.28
J.Aundrea
And.

55:30.84
J.Aundrea
Oh.

55:38.34
Bruce Anthony
Because you're spending a lot of time doing this I told her I read it. She gave it to me I read it and I said say less that's a done deal I Completely agree with you. Okay, but you got a had a type of relationship where you could talk and be honest with some people and be receptive. So.

55:49.76
J.Aundrea
You can have it? Yeah right.

55:57.91
Bruce Anthony
I'm not giving her a pass for what she did but could but is he probably at fault for some of this toxic relationship as well. Yeah, yeah, take take the last last I heard that's what it took I've never seen 1 person tango I never seen the 1 person take her.

56:04.53
J.Aundrea
Yeah, it takes 2 to tango yeah, it would look real weird I mean I think you could do it but I don't know how those dips are gonna go.

56:16.13
Bruce Anthony
I think.

56:22.94
Bruce Anthony
I said we was gonna bring it up I don't know I don't think we brought it up. It wasn't too many jokes on this but would you still recovering. You ain't pain. It ain't go be too many laughs when somebody is' in pain. You just get what you get and I this plan like see that's the reason why we a't cracking jokes.

56:23.70
J.Aundrea
I Don't know.

56:30.17
J.Aundrea
Um, yeah.

56:36.33
J.Aundrea
Yeah, don't mean we laugh. But yes, yeah listeners I care about you.

56:42.83
Bruce Anthony
Because my sister side hurt but she here for y'all because if if y'all don't get well yeah that plus she care about me because I told you last week if they don't get the sibling at Happy hour is a ruckus. It is a ruckus.

56:55.29
J.Aundrea
Yes, my lord.

57:01.73
Bruce Anthony
But on that note says what do you want to tell the people out there.

57:05.00
J.Aundrea
Main we don't want to deal with the police but just call now one one I rather deal with the police than y'all just call now one one I'd rather get a Baton upside my head and tastesed.

57:16.14
Bruce Anthony
She. Maybe.

57:24.65
J.Aundrea
And walk away with my life. Maybe I rather take my chances with the police and that's saying that as a black person in America then come up against a regular white dude with a gun just call the police leave me alone.

57:32.50
Bruce Anthony
Like.

57:44.20
J.Aundrea
Yeah.

57:44.82
Bruce Anthony
Knowledge I don't think people get where that's coming from but that's ah how I drink my juice in the hood and South Central don't be a minister to.

57:53.35
J.Aundrea
Is don't be a minute while drinking juice is so something in the hood I don't remember something. Yeah.

57:59.23
Bruce Anthony
In south central. It's some like that. It's it's a wans brothers movie. But on that note Al Holla