Loneliness, Race, and Romance: Exploring the Ressa Tessa Story

00:11.11
Bruce Anthony
Welcome First of all welcome this is unsolicited perspectives I'm your host Bruce Anthony here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaped today's society join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts subscribe to our Youtube channel to watch our video podcast. Rate review like comment share share with your friends share with your family hell even share with your enemies on today's episode it a sibling happy hour redo I'm here with my sister Jay Andrea we're gonna be delie dadling a little bit and then we're gonna talk about this viral sensation. Risa. Tisa but that's enough for the intro. Let's get to the show.

00:57.47
Bruce Anthony
What up says I can't call it look. This is a for real happy hour because I'm lit and you are lit So we we don't know where this show is gonna go.

00:58.51
J. Aundrea
What a brother.

01:04.13
J. Aundrea
Yeah, no, it's really, ah, starting off the rails like it's because ah because of what you just said I'm I'm saying that in response to what you just said.

01:13.36
Bruce Anthony
Why why you say starting off the rails.

01:21.98
Bruce Anthony
Well okay, well look to the listening and watching audience we ain't gonna be quick with our responses today because we're little inebriated but it's the happy hour and it's a special edition the redo right.

01:26.23
J. Aundrea
It. Ah yeah.

01:34.27
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, it's literally the title of the show guys. Yes.

01:38.73
Bruce Anthony
Ah, it was good to see you in person I know people are gonna be asking. Why didn't y'all do the show in person because I don't had the equipment to do that. We don't but we don't have the equipment to do it being. You have got art.

01:45.13
J. Aundrea
We do, but we just logistic the logistics of every I mean.

01:56.38
Bruce Anthony
Behind the scenes ladies and gentlemen me and my sister were going back and forth about. Do we have the equipment to do it live and in person Yes, sort of no kind of okay so that's that's really the answer to the question can can we get the equipment to do it in person. Absolutely that's not a problem I can set that all up.

02:13.17
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

02:15.79
Bruce Anthony
Did we have the capability to do it in person this weekend. Maybe ah, all right? Okay, maybe we did but it would have meant more work for me in postproduction. Okay, exactly.

02:19.35
J. Aundrea
Yeah, we did.

02:27.93
J. Aundrea
But what's I have to do with me.

02:32.65
Bruce Anthony
That's is ladies and gentlemen. That's our relationship right there. That's our relationship right? Okay, whatever.

02:34.42
J. Aundrea
Like that seems like something you know it's a personal problem that you work out on your own but that doesn't mean that we couldn't have done it. We definitely could have and so ladies and Gentlemen Bruce has robbed you of that. So yeah.

02:48.93
Bruce Anthony
Nice Yeah, with yeah, what are you talking about? what are you talking about? yeah that is crazy. Don't be saying it.

02:55.93
J. Aundrea
Ah, yeah now I'm just kidding. But no I think I think that the live or in person show I think that's cut I think that's coming.

03:05.31
Bruce Anthony
Yeah I mean it's coming. It's just not the way that you want to do it when you were here like I said it's more work for me I want to do it so there's a smoother transition after we filmed the episode but that's giving people too much Jay what was that? Ah I got to be roscoe I'm gonna get to that.

03:11.60
J. Aundrea
E.

03:18.23
J. Aundrea
Yes, yes, yes, he's been a hit this entire trip. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

03:21.11
Bruce Anthony
Um, we get to the other thing that I was going to talk about but I got to meet roscoe that little bugger I'm telling you all he is of course he has because he's freaking adorable now he could be Michael Jackson

03:37.44
J. Aundrea
How could he be Michael Jackson

03:39.40
Bruce Anthony
Really cute as a kid and not grow up so cute na no I was going I went on a.

03:42.81
J. Aundrea
Michael did that to himself he did he went through a slight ugly phase but but but by a time he got to the thriller album.

03:52.11
Bruce Anthony
Slight that wasn't slight that was real ugly.

04:01.72
J. Aundrea
I Mean yes, off the wall He was ugly on that album cover. He was ugly um, but by the time we got to you know thriller he if he had just stopped there. No he continued to hack at his face.

04:02.89
Bruce Anthony
Yes.

04:11.93
Bruce Anthony
I think he did stop there. Okay, maybe he did maybe he did but homeboy in his teenage years I was I fell down a slippery Youtube slope last night of listening to old Jackson stuff because there's something that popped up on my feed. They had cast all of.

04:21.77
J. Aundrea
Mia now.

04:26.78
J. Aundrea
Oh lord.

04:36.20
J. Aundrea
Okay.

04:36.92
Bruce Anthony
The Jackson Brothers and they were showing side by sides of the Jackson Brothers as the Jackson Brothers the Jackson the guys playing the Jackson Brothers as they were during the victory tour and oh my god yeah, the minor Jackson the Michael Jackson biopic and oh my god.

04:46.70
J. Aundrea
This is the Michael Jackson biopic okay yeah

04:56.59
Bruce Anthony
The casting phenomenal as far as the look so I fell down a rabbit hole just listening to the Jackson songs and sure enough when Michael was about sixteen Fifteen sixteen yeah he was ugly he was ugly so that's what I was talking about with Roscoe Roscoe is a door.

04:58.33
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

05:07.23
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yes I believe he will um because he is my son.

05:13.59
Bruce Anthony
Might be the cutest puppy I've ever seen in my entire life is he always gonna be that way. It's the question. Let's hope okay all right? um half.

05:24.20
J. Aundrea
So ok I don't have ugly children. So I think you will I think it'll be a handsome young gentleman. Oh with everybody with everybody. Everybody has has cuddled him today.

05:33.80
Bruce Anthony
How is he a hit.

05:41.90
J. Aundrea
Um, he's gotten so much Love that he is exhausted. So he's ah in a crate in the sleep. Um, but everybody he was a hit with everybody everybody thinks he's adorable I listen I walk into homes and he just disappears from my arms.

05:46.81
Bruce Anthony
I.

05:59.67
J. Aundrea
And I don't see him again until I'm about to leave. He just is passed around and he loves it and so yeah, he's definitely. He's been a hit. It's adorable. Yeah.

06:01.42
Bruce Anthony
Um.

06:05.80
Bruce Anthony
Even his little bark is cute her her hair. Yeah, even this little bark is cute. All right. You showed me something on Tiktok or Instagram about this game show.

06:17.96
J. Aundrea
Yes.

06:20.86
Bruce Anthony
And can you explain to the audience. What the what this video was as you sent to me or you that you show me.

06:26.56
J. Aundrea
So it's a game show. Um on hulu called the floor and I don't eat I don't know anything about this game show I never heard of it. Um, but Saturday night live. Did a parody of the show and everybody thought oh it's just a Saturday night live exaggerating? Yeah and no, it's not so basically.

06:47.15
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, it's just satire.

06:55.92
J. Aundrea
It it it What it appears to be is they show pictures of people and you have to go back and forth with you and your opponent identifying the person in the picture.

07:05.77
Bruce Anthony
A.

07:07.84
J. Aundrea
Um, and it could be anything but it's it was always famous people whether in you know, entertainment or politics or whatever and the video was a compilation of white contestants. Um, answering you know who's pictured in the. In the picture and at every time a black person was featured they would pass Oh for sure.

07:34.88
Bruce Anthony
Now I'm sure they did cuts I'm sure there were some people that that that did know who these black celebrities were but it was overwhelmingly there were right? So you know I mean that's hey.

07:42.22
J. Aundrea
Yeah, but enough of them didn't that they were able to make this Tiktok video.

07:53.98
Bruce Anthony
Ladies and gentlemen I'll be real honest, if you put Margo Ruby in front of me Robbie in front of me and I don't know Dakota fanning I might not be able to tell a difference between the two. So i.

07:59.58
J. Aundrea
yeah yeah I definitely won't be able to tell between ah her name is Jamie she's an actress Jamie something but she was in like Joe dirt.

08:13.35
Bruce Anthony
She was in Joe Dirt and she was in my name is Earl I know or at least I think that's who you're talking about her and Margo Ruby looking I'm trying to.

08:16.76
J. Aundrea
Yes, yes, yes, as exactly? Yeah yeah, if you put if you try to put them that at you lost me and them with 1990 s k christtina appleyate I can't tell him apart.

08:25.98
Bruce Anthony
Now. Why I understand Christina appleate because of married were children. She has a distinctive because I have was such a fan of marriage with children and don't shoot me the babysitters dead. What was the movie that she was in don't tell mom and babysitter is dead which by the way.

08:45.71
J. Aundrea
Don't tell Mom the babysitters dead. Yes, hilarious. You know what that see I think that's something I'm going to do this weekend is watch. Don't tell Mom The Babysitter's dead.

08:51.46
Bruce Anthony
Hilarious I don't know if the movie still holds up. But I'm gonna assume that it does hey look going back and watching old 90 s movies. Not a bad thing. But the reason why I brought this up is because Jamelle Hill and for those of you who don't know Jamele Hill jamellle hill got her start being a sports writer. She has our own podcast un bothered. She's a media personality now I have been a huge fan of hers going all the way back to I don't know ten fifteen years ago when she was on partner interruption. No not partner shirt around a horn. Um, just a brilliant brilliant writer. She posted something on her Instagram and responds to the video that you sent me and I want to read it for the audience and for you because I think she had a very interesting perspective and take on this.

09:29.77
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

09:35.72
J. Aundrea
And get okay. Okay.

09:45.81
Bruce Anthony
Right? So this is Jammele Hill you can see her ah Instagram at jamalle hill at Jamal Hill alright she says it wasn't until I was in college at Michigan State that I realized how little a lot of white people knew about black people and frankly, their lack of curiosity about us in general. It was then that I also realized that white people were completely capable of designing a life where they didn't have to know anything about black people at all black people have had to learn white people because so much of our survival and existence depends on what we know about them. So while this is amusing speaking about the video she says so while this is amusing. It is also an unfortunate reminder of our precarious. How precarious our space in the world can be and I thought yes yes, there are so many times where.

10:33.46
J. Aundrea
Yeah, she's absolutely right.

10:40.83
Bruce Anthony
And this isn't a knock on white people living their lives because people people surround themselves with what's comfort and what's familial. Ah.

10:48.72
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah.

10:53.43
Bruce Anthony
Black people hang out with black people white people hang out with white people with Spanish people hang out with Spanish people Italian people hang out with Italian people Asian people hang out with Asian people gay people hang out with gay people transgender people hang out with transgender people you identify with your tribe by and large generally speaking so that in and of itself isn't a problem.

11:05.00
J. Aundrea
Right.

11:12.24
Bruce Anthony
What is a problem is when the majority can so literally segregate themselves So much point where they don't even know black celebrities because black existence doesn't have to be included in their life.

11:20.62
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah.

11:27.71
J. Aundrea
At all. They can consume media that does not include us whatsoever.

11:31.62
Bruce Anthony
Exactly yeah and that's the reason why the uproar with Beyonce joining the country music got such backlash from certain people in that community once again I say certain people not all. There was a lot of people that completely embraced it.

11:39.85
J. Aundrea
Here.

11:48.18
J. Aundrea
M.

11:50.16
Bruce Anthony
Because it's Beyonce's major stars only Goingnna bring more eyeballs to your genre of music but some people were like no this is ours and like first of all, it's not yours second of all, um, you can't put a claim on anything if this is America.

11:52.72
J. Aundrea
Right? Yeah, bright.

12:03.50
J. Aundrea
Now.

12:07.51
Bruce Anthony
And we're all share share alike because it's a melting pot. Guess what? it's a Milton pot. We all have our hand in it and can take claim to what is americana so it's just it's interesting to me that.

12:10.53
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah.

12:24.24
Bruce Anthony
So many of my white friends. Don't realize that that they don't have to deal with race and they say to me. Why do you always talk about race because it's a part of my existence only because you make it no because Society makes it a part of my existence.

12:29.19
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

12:35.80
J. Aundrea
And.

12:41.95
J. Aundrea
And what they have to understand is that the ability to live your life in such a way where race is not a factor is white privilege. It's the definition of it.

12:44.10
Bruce Anthony
I'm a proud black man.

12:58.72
Bruce Anthony
That's what we talk about when we talk about white privilege is that you don't have. There's a whole world that you don't have to even be bothered with if you don't want to be bothered with and and we we don't have that option. We really don't.

13:09.40
J. Aundrea
Um, now now.

13:14.51
Bruce Anthony
And we don't have that option to assimilate like so many other minorities have that ability to do don't get it twisted Italians American Italians when they got here were extremely discriminated against So what did they do they assimilated into the culture they changed their names.

13:19.70
J. Aundrea
Right.

13:26.26
J. Aundrea
Oh. Yeah.

13:33.97
Bruce Anthony
They they got rid of the accents after a certain generation. They they almost denied their italian heritage to assimilate because that's what they were told to do all the while America is saying.

13:35.38
J. Aundrea
M.

13:41.29
J. Aundrea
Cultural Heritage. Yeah.

13:50.94
Bruce Anthony
Bring me everybody and it's a melting pot. It's a melting pot when you assimilate into whatever is American culture and I still technically can't figure that out.

14:00.13
J. Aundrea
You know I've always hated the term melting pot because the visual that I get is a bunch of different ingredients being added to a pot. Great Yeah, bring me all. Ah.

14:03.78
Bruce Anthony
A.

14:13.28
Bruce Anthony
Um, yeah.

14:16.57
J. Aundrea
But what comes out is one meal.

14:19.96
Bruce Anthony
Um, it could be delicious though.

14:22.31
J. Aundrea
Yeah, it could be but it it just invokes this idea of yeah we want all these different ingredients but we want to see one meal so you have to be this. This is how you have to assimilate. In and to be considered an American Yeah, you can come here but you have to join this one meal.

14:41.57
Bruce Anthony
Oh.

14:50.42
Bruce Anthony
Um, yeah, you dropped the bar right? there.

14:53.28
J. Aundrea
You had it so that it just always gave me that image and so I always hated the idea I'm like I think you guys are thinking melting Pot is a good thing and it might not be.

15:05.28
Bruce Anthony
Now Well because I mean you add your flavor to an overall dish when you are a melting plot but you lose your essence.

15:17.30
J. Aundrea
Yeah, you use your end, you lose your individual identity. You've now become a part of this 1 thing called America this business ah known as America.

15:18.76
Bruce Anthony
Um, yeah, near.

15:27.31
Bruce Anthony
Oh no here she go again, but no so I just thought that was really interesting and I wanted to bring it up because I love when brilliant people do think pieces on something that can make people something That's so simple. But.

15:45.25
J. Aundrea
Um.

15:46.60
Bruce Anthony
Is often overlooked and can make people really think and so people will constantly say you guys always talk about race on your podcast and it's you know you can learn something if you want to? we're trying. We're trying to give you a perspective of which either you haven't sought out.

15:57.46
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

16:05.82
Bruce Anthony
Didn't know that you weren't us looking for it didn't know that you were ignoring it or you were trying to learn more you came here, We're gonna give it to you if you want to learn. We'll teach you we'll show you what it's like for us if it's.

16:16.40
J. Aundrea
Who.

16:22.80
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah.

16:24.84
Bruce Anthony
Something that you're interested in if you're not interested in it then you're not really interested in the bettering and the moving forward and the progression of America and I really can't have a conversation with you. So if you're annoyed by it I are you know I'm just telling you my experience. So.

16:37.29
J. Aundrea
I mean I don't understand why in their minds. The idea of bringing up or talking about or having a dialogue about Race. Has this negative connotation to it. Ah well I do know it's because it makes them uncomfortable. Nobody else is uncomfortable talking about race except what people.

16:55.53
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, yeah.

17:01.87
Bruce Anthony
Well no I think a lot of people are uncomfortable talking about race. We just don't find a problem with it. But there are some black people that are uncomfortable talking about race that can I think everybody can if they choose to.

17:06.21
J. Aundrea
No I don't think so. But they can though. I Don't think everybody can right? That's what I'm saying there the the the the reason me talking about my blackness may.

17:21.54
Bruce Anthony
I Think everybody can if they choose to live in that discomfort. Yeah.

17:33.11
J. Aundrea
Ah, is is got some negative connotation to it is because it makes you uncomfortable that it doesn't mean it's not because what I'm saying is actually a negative thing. It's just simply your own discomfort and so now.

17:41.52
Bruce Anthony
Right.

17:51.20
J. Aundrea
Anytime we try to have conversations about race. It's got this. It already has this dark Cloud hanging over it and nobody wants to do it and nobody wants to face it. But it's just there is There's nothing wrong with having the conversation. There's just nothing wrong with it.

18:05.26
Bruce Anthony
No, there isn't.

18:09.48
J. Aundrea
It's just a small sag of the population has some discomfort and so that means that all of us have to act like we're not walking around here black and brown and that it means something to walk around here black and brown.

18:21.98
Bruce Anthony
Um, right right? You know where actually see a parallel in this conversation and we'll move I we will get to Reese's pieces okay we will.

18:34.68
J. Aundrea
That's again I told you several times in preproduction. It is Resa Teasa you gonna put some respect on her social media handle. You still did it.

18:39.32
Bruce Anthony
Ah, could I just like Reese's pieces I Reese's tsis no disrespect now I said tsis I said to I put the t on it. Not a p well tsa piecea.

18:50.98
J. Aundrea
Resa Tsa no

18:58.36
Bruce Anthony
Okay, but but going back to the race composition. You know where I see a lot of parallels with this and especially when my white male friends and I are talking you know the other place where they find extreme discomfort ah racism and then feminism.

19:05.10
J. Aundrea
The.

19:16.50
J. Aundrea
Ah.

19:16.69
Bruce Anthony
Oh my god when me too I is me too still out. There are there still hashtags me too now or is it kind of has petered out but like George Floyd petered out but when me too was out there pumping.

19:24.46
J. Aundrea
I Think it's petered out.

19:34.56
Bruce Anthony
Oh my God So many of my white male friends got so agitated. It was like okay I understand like it's like it's a big deal women are being mistreated but like I'm so tired of hearing about it I'm like bro like shut up and just listen like the.

19:47.75
J. Aundrea
Well, you're agitated because you just found out. You're a predator. Yeah, no, you just found out. Not you I'm saying the those no those.

19:53.91
Bruce Anthony
Well, ah they found out that I Okay well no because I've take it what i' take the white male out of it I'm taking just male and and to to realize.

20:05.74
J. Aundrea
Yeah, the the reason the reason why any man hearing about women fighting back against sexual harassment finds it uncomfortable to talk about is because you just found out that you're a predator because whatever story.

20:21.00
Bruce Anthony
Ah.

20:22.26
J. Aundrea
Is out there. Whatever a woman is sharing her story. It sounds real similar to some some things that you've done I almost I almost did but I real I remember this is not the after hours I almost did it.

20:27.00
Bruce Anthony
You was about to cus I I saw it in your face this not. It's not after Hourss but you all I saw to your face. Yeah know that you right? you didn't you didn't applaud you.

20:40.60
J. Aundrea
But then I didn't and I would be uncomfortable too if I found out that I was a predator.

20:46.80
Bruce Anthony
So yeah, take take race completely out of it. Take gender me as a Cis male when me too came out I had to really take a hard look at myself now I can honestly and. Openly say that that I believe there is no woman out there ever. That's ever dealt with me that will say Bruce did something untoward. Well onward there's degrees of debt right.

21:12.17
J. Aundrea
M.

21:17.46
J. Aundrea
Yeah. I Get your meaning. Yeah.

21:25.59
Bruce Anthony
You get my meaning right? Ah ladies and gentlemen out there. Let me just point out that I'm a very respectful man and I treat women with respect I Just want to put that disclaimer out there. But the the thing that the thing there was a story that a woman that I read.

21:33.58
J. Aundrea
Will psa for you guys.

21:44.47
Bruce Anthony
And the woman said that that she came over to a guy's house and I've had many women over my house and I'm not a small guy. Not a small guy so she said in this story that she went over to a guy's house and she did things with them for fear that.

21:48.37
J. Aundrea
Er e.

22:03.25
Bruce Anthony
If she decided not to that he would harm her because she was in his place alone and he was a big guy and and I had to look at myself and I had to be like yo I'm a giant guy and I often invite women over to my place will.

22:05.15
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

22:19.84
J. Aundrea
Ah.

22:23.42
Bruce Anthony
For several reasons one I don't like going to other places. My place is comfortable. That's ah 2 I got a full bar. So everything that you need I got you know I say an uberri to bring us all the food. So why do I need to go anywhere just come on over I got a nice couch.

22:25.47
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, right.

22:38.18
J. Aundrea
Trifling. Ah and.

22:39.74
Bruce Anthony
You know, nice nice Tv got 2 Tvs if you want to watch something I want to watch something we can both do that. It's comfortable over here. So ah basically I'm selfish basically I'm selfish. Ah.

22:45.84
J. Aundrea
Ladies and got a you got to you got a catch over here. He'll take you nowhere to do nothing but waste your time.

22:58.11
Bruce Anthony
9 or wasting the body time look I have a lot of female friends. They'd be telling about the dudes they dayating and I know that I'm a catch because some of you dudes out of here are trifle in. But no, there's been a lot of times where I've had women over and I'm just like yo did they do things because they were in.

23:03.40
J. Aundrea
Me.

23:16.82
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

23:18.90
Bruce Anthony
Fear not that I put not that there was anything that I did to put them in fear but just a mere situation and presence of me. He's kind of like Dennis from and ah.

23:27.67
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, always sunny here. Yeah.

23:31.55
Bruce Anthony
It's always sunny if in Philadelphia and Philadelphia was like it's the implication but I wasn't given no implication. But it's the implication and so I was explaining that to some of my guy friends and and some of them. Ah and not black or white just all of them and some of them just didn't get it.

23:46.85
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, yeah, because they just found out that they're a predator.

23:49.65
Bruce Anthony
And I was like yo. Okay, they listen to the show right now I'm not trying to call them all predators.

23:58.42
J. Aundrea
So if the shoe doesn't fit Then why are you so upset.

24:01.52
Bruce Anthony
So well I mean sometimes a shoe can fit and it could just fit real tight and be uncomfortable.

24:08.51
J. Aundrea
Yeah, you just found out your predator because some story came out and you heard it and you thought for a second that sound like when I was messing with Denise now.

24:19.44
Bruce Anthony
Not denise now was it Denise hotable. Okay because I would have love to mess with Denise Huxtable still Messs what I still mess with Denise Huxtable

24:26.95
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, so that's that's one hundred percent the only reason to get upset over people fighting back against sexual harassment and assault this is the only reason is because you've just found out. You're a predator. And you can handle that.

24:45.85
Bruce Anthony
Oh so basically ladies and gentlemen. This first segment was ah making you feel uncomfortable making you make you live in that discomfort and hopefully hopefully you take a step in that discomfort look around and realize.

24:54.30
J. Aundrea
Ah.

25:03.61
Bruce Anthony
Um, maybe there's some changes I can make I don't know that's just my thoughts but I've had a lot to drink and I don't know where that's gonna go but up next we're gonna finally talk about Resa tisa.

25:24.22
Bruce Anthony
A says we gonna finally get to it. Reese's pieces Reese's teassis tsa reesa resaessa are we reesa tea. What will you explain to the people that are that do not know.

25:27.44
J. Aundrea
Now again I need you put so respect on that lady's social media handle. It's recentesa.

25:40.79
J. Aundrea
A.

25:43.22
Bruce Anthony
Ah, about reesaessa who Risaessa is and and why we're deciing to talk about it today.

25:47.82
J. Aundrea
Ladies and gentlemen on February Fourteenth of 2024 the world as we know it changed forever because the first of what would become a 50 part.

25:55.50
Bruce Anthony
Valentine's day

26:00.96
Bruce Anthony
But forever.

26:07.79
J. Aundrea
Series on Tiktok dropped on the page of a 1 resa teasa and it was called who the f did I marry who the f did I marry is Resa teasa.

26:14.18
Bruce Anthony
Oh.

26:19.81
Bruce Anthony
Who.

26:27.17
J. Aundrea
Recounting the year and a half marriage she had to a pathological liar a pathological liar is not a liar. They are not a compulsive liar. They are something way and far beyond that it is is a mental.

26:32.44
Bruce Anthony
Yeah.

26:40.78
Bruce Anthony
Um.

26:43.79
Bruce Anthony
Well I mean there's still liars and compulsive liars. But but they're beyond that. Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah.

26:44.75
J. Aundrea
Illness they're beyond that. Yes, um, pathological Liars lie about stuff that don't nobody even care about and.

26:55.73
Bruce Anthony
A.

27:01.62
J. Aundrea
This story was particularly crazy because he involved other people in the lies. Yes, Realtors brokers. Ah.

27:09.70
Bruce Anthony
Right? Well did he.

27:19.43
J. Aundrea
He involved he they went to a car dealership like he involved her in these conversations that he was having with his brother every morning before while they were getting ready for work. He involved other people in the lie.

27:30.49
Bruce Anthony
Of The. All right? So ladies and gentlemen the long stretch of the the short of the story is this woman gives these tiktoks explaining how she met this man during the pandemic they got married and his world of lies began to Unravel. Ah, to the point where she absolutely did not know this person at all and it struck a core with a lot of people because it was entertaining. She she took full responsibility for her naivete or compliance.

27:55.81
J. Aundrea
And. Yeah.

28:12.35
Bruce Anthony
Or complaisance complete current complicity in the situation. He lied about everything where he worked who he was his background How many siblings he had how much money he had.

28:12.40
J. Aundrea
Ah, yeah for her complicity her her complicity.

28:24.65
J. Aundrea
Where he went to school.

28:27.92
Bruce Anthony
Where he went to school what he did for a living before he met her um his his previous marriage because he had previous marriages. Um, just he lied about everything So fifty part series. It's.

28:39.94
J. Aundrea
Ah.

28:43.71
Bruce Anthony
On Youtube somebody decided to put all 50 parts into one long video when I say long video it is 7 hours long now you told me about this probably a ah week beforehand and then you said a couple of days later I want to talk about this and I was like okay, oh yeah, we can talk about it and I clicked on it and I was like.

28:48.64
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah.

28:53.69
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

29:03.11
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah.

29:03.16
Bruce Anthony
There's a lot of parts to this I don't feel like watching all of it you like just watch the first couple and so I sat down. Um and I watched the first couple of tiktoks that was put together on this Youtube channel where all 50 of the episodes were put together I watched a couple of the a couple of the parts.

29:17.47
J. Aundrea
Um.

29:21.93
Bruce Anthony
And then the next thing I know 7 hours later I was finished um the idea somebody somebody somewhere in the social media landscape brought it up the idea that we are a microwave society and that we need things.

29:21.97
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, yeah.

29:39.11
J. Aundrea
Yes, right.

29:40.27
Bruce Anthony
Instantly and it had to be short to grab attention spans this disproves all this hell Tiger King a lot of these Netflix documentaries disprove all of this if it's entertaining. It doesn't matter how long it is people will watch it. This was 7 hours and I did it in one day ah and it was just a woman.

29:51.17
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, yeah, same.

29:59.87
Bruce Anthony
Explaining about her life and it was a crazy situation. Ah, but also it points to the loneliness people have.

30:02.14
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, so crazy.

30:10.53
J. Aundrea
Yeah, and how it can make you do some crazy things.

30:16.39
Bruce Anthony
Yes, the the the the wanting of a romantic mate romantic partner is so strong with people and everybody out here listening. This will Resonate. You will do things out of your moral compass out of your social aspect or philosophy of life because.

30:49.73
J. Aundrea
M.

30:55.38
Bruce Anthony
You want a romantic partner or you're lonely. Everybody's done it I've gone back and looked at and relationships is like why did I put up with that because at that time I wanted a romantic partner and that was the person that I chose this is gonna be my romantic partner. So I.

30:56.25
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

31:10.86
J. Aundrea
Right.

31:14.17
Bruce Anthony
Put up with a lot of stuff that I would not normally put up with in these series in these parts. She openly says I know he was lying and I let him get away with it because well he was paying on. He was paying the bills and then that's 1 thing he gets a lot of riff.

31:20.43
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, he was paying all the bills. Yeah, um.

31:33.85
Bruce Anthony
Legion gets a lot of ref. That's the guy that she decided the name she named him legion on her posts. He paid them bills now did he go broke paying them bills. Yeah, he did it looked like it but he paid them bills and he's homeless.

31:37.85
J. Aundrea
Yes.

31:43.26
J. Aundrea
Yeah, you did This seems like it. Yeah, he ended up homeless. So yeah.

31:53.50
Bruce Anthony
He's homeless. So what did you? What were some of you are let's let's dig deep. The funny is the funny right? like he was lying. He told some incredible lies. He always had an answer for something like that's funny. That's surface.

31:56.72
J. Aundrea
Right.

32:04.73
J. Aundrea
Yes.

32:09.71
Bruce Anthony
But what were some things that you saw below the surface that you were just like Wow. Okay, she she's going through it or she put herself through it.

32:17.97
J. Aundrea
Yeah, it was a lot of she put herself through it. Um, but it was like you said earlier kind of the power of loneliness and really oh.

32:25.96
Bruce Anthony
I Didn't say that that eloquently I didn't say the power of loneliness that you coined that and that was that's I wish I would have came or with that power of loneliness. Yeah, that's that's pretty good. Yes.

32:33.97
J. Aundrea
Yeah, it sounds like a 80 s ballad the power aloneness. Oh.

32:44.45
Bruce Anthony
Ladies and gentlemen y'all just heard my sister's voice. Yeah I ain't know she was a singer singer. She's life for real the singer singer I hum she sings. Yeah I can help we were talking about the the indepth versions of.

32:54.90
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah.

32:57.86
J. Aundrea
Ah I forgot what we were talking about? Yes, yeah so yeah, the like I said the power of loneliness and and it also.

33:04.63
Bruce Anthony
Risa Teasa and more than just a surface lying.

33:16.00
J. Aundrea
Speaks to the indoctrination in christianity of like this traditional family value. Um, and I think a lot of people who are like her are like the way that she was at that time kind of need to stop.

33:23.84
Bruce Anthony
Um.

33:35.33
J. Aundrea
And think about the reasons why they want to be married the reasons why they want a partner is it because you really do want to build with someone and have.

33:41.55
Bruce Anthony
Um.

33:50.99
J. Aundrea
You know a family with someone or is it because you're gotten to a certain age and you believe that this is what you're supposed to be doing and when she said um I was desperate.

34:09.75
J. Aundrea
I Wanted to get married and I thought it was my turn. Yeah and what it meant is she had been watching her friends and family get married and no and she didn't have a.

34:11.27
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, that my turn hit hard.

34:28.17
J. Aundrea
A prospect for that at the time and wanting to also participate in that ritual. But but does that mean you want a marriage you want to get wanting to get married doesn't necessarily mean you want a marriage.

34:32.90
Bruce Anthony
I.

34:39.45
Bruce Anthony
Um.

34:44.51
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, the pageantry of getting married right? and you could always throw a party you can get together with somebody and throw a party. Ah.

34:45.90
J. Aundrea
You want a party right? You want to you want a party like your friends had a party you want a party like your cousin Tiffany had a party and you can't stand her and you're upset. She got her party before you got your party.

35:03.63
Bruce Anthony
Right? because Tiffany always been a hoe. We knew that she was back in the day but somehow she found somebody to turn a holee into a housewife. Why can't why can't ressetesa.

35:17.17
J. Aundrea
Ah, you know why because he's 82

35:19.96
Bruce Anthony
not not 82 but he but he he using that viagra though. Oh Otis is using that viagra I don't know why his name is Otis it just sound like.

35:21.80
J. Aundrea
One foot in this world and one foot out you know what? she's after.

35:36.85
Bruce Anthony
An 82 year old man that used viagra would be named Otis or Bruce or Bruce.

35:37.13
J. Aundrea
Is yeah is Otis Green here shot out to any 82 year old out there named Otis Green I love you ah yeah

35:49.14
Bruce Anthony
Oh it's great. Why now? Um I find it I had to rewind it as I was listening to the parts ladies and gentlemen I truly recommend going and listening to it. Um, because I think it's an eye open experience for. Everybody as far as teaching us perception verse reality and um the thing that really tripped me out was I had to go back and rewind look at timelines and in this timeline they went out on a date in march.

36:10.39
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

36:24.85
J. Aundrea
Yep m.

36:25.73
Bruce Anthony
2020 pandemic heart happens. They've known each other for two weeks and they decide to shack up during the lockdown because they're based in Georgia and they decide to move in together after knowing each other for two weeks within 3 within three months

36:29.91
J. Aundrea
E.

36:38.27
J. Aundrea
Right? insane.

36:43.63
Bruce Anthony
They're engaged and expecting and I'm just like look the pandemic was a crazy time your boy entered and some situations during a pandemic that were interesting.

36:44.21
J. Aundrea
Yes. Yeah, you? Yeah, we all did yeah we were all a little bit crazy.

37:01.11
Bruce Anthony
To say the least right? They all a little crazy but your boy would not have moved in with somebody in two weeks right like I would at least had kept my own place and be like hey man like.

37:06.84
J. Aundrea
Yeah. No dad was insane.

37:18.93
Bruce Anthony
Quarantine They didn't say that you couldn't drive on the roads and go to places you could still go to the grocery store. You could still go get gas. Some people still had to go to work so you could still had your own place and still drove to see each other.

37:20.84
J. Aundrea
Right? Rightpe yes I don't know why they thought this was a good idea now now now here here's the thing.

37:34.41
Bruce Anthony
And then and she really enjoyed it because he was paying all the bills right.

37:40.89
J. Aundrea
Here's the thing though she should have known from day one and i'mma tell you why the moment she went over to his place for the first time. Yeah, but he's a book because he's supposed to be the regional manager.

37:44.52
Bruce Anthony
Oh okay. He was just in the little Studio. What's wrong with a brother in the studio but he had none a condiment not condominium.

37:59.90
J. Aundrea
Of a condiment company I said condiment company.

38:05.84
Bruce Anthony
Right? But I'm saying So what does that have to do he had just moved. He had a story for that. He just moved it to the area and they were helping him find a house and he had an approval level for approval an approval an approval letter woo that alcohol kicking in that ah that approval.

38:21.23
J. Aundrea
Um, Lord you're right? Yeah, a little bit from Column a and a little from Column b.

38:23.91
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, I'm ah good I'm good I'm good I don't know if that was speech impediment or if that's just alcohol of both and a little from Column C and I don't know what the hell is in Column C but um I don't know what that meant but but he had an excuse he had that letter.

38:36.22
J. Aundrea
I. Oh.

38:43.10
Bruce Anthony
Of loan approval from chase bank saying that he was approved for $700000

38:46.20
J. Aundrea
Now the moment she saw that letter she shouldn't know it was fake because it said dear comma Mr. no period Mccoy no comma.

38:50.64
Bruce Anthony
Well he showed? well.

39:01.13
Bruce Anthony
Who's gonna art who is really gonna who's gonna really look at an approval letter of that heart. Well, that's you.

39:04.85
J. Aundrea
Me the moment I look at it I'm but like why's the punctuation off. Yes yes, and that's how people get husled and that's how people get hustled by spam emails and and letters and things like that.

39:09.90
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, okay, you would I wouldn't even notice that the punctuation is off not everybody is an English major Yeah okay.

39:23.94
J. Aundrea
But the the whole punctuation is all his full name was nowhere on that letter now it said Mr Mcco it didn't have an account information it to have nothing on it except.

39:25.72
Bruce Anthony
Um, yeah, well I was it.

39:43.40
J. Aundrea
A copy and paste Chase logo at the top. The punctuation was all off I've never in the history of my life seen a pre-approval letter that looked like that that read like that.

39:44.77
Bruce Anthony
So.

39:56.95
Bruce Anthony
Well if you've never seen a pre ah preapproval louder then you know that might work.

40:03.45
J. Aundrea
Y'all need to read more? yeah.

40:09.80
J. Aundrea
Ah, ah yeah, and she want the the key is she wanted to believe it.

40:10.57
Bruce Anthony
Um, I mean look he had an excuse. He had a line for absolutely everything he showed. Yeah, she wanted to believe it people. Will believe a lie because they want to believe it when when my college girlfriend that Jezebel that hussy when she cheated on me and she was telling me all the stuff that didn't make sense to me.

40:22.85
J. Aundrea
E.

40:28.60
J. Aundrea
Oh lord. Okay.

40:41.87
Bruce Anthony
And I let it slide I let it slide because I wanted to believe the lie and didn't want to believe that she was creeping but she was she was creeping.

40:45.60
J. Aundrea
Right? But but but inherent in wanting to believe something quote Unquote is the knowledge that you do know the truth and you choose that your your.

41:00.77
Bruce Anthony
You know some she says it and she said it every time she said Lord y'all there was something it just didn't feel right. It was like yeah you knew what it was You knew what it was and that's ah so when I was watching this.

41:03.41
J. Aundrea
Purposefully choosing to ignore it.

41:10.22
J. Aundrea
Yeah, you knew what it was. It's called a lie.

41:17.67
Bruce Anthony
I found Parallels in my own life. Not that particular instance but signs that my body is telling me my mom. My intuition is telling me this particular situation then always had to be dating. It could be business ventures. It could be friendships. It can be.

41:20.28
J. Aundrea
By.

41:25.81
J. Aundrea
Oh.

41:35.96
J. Aundrea
Going to? yeah.

41:36.22
Bruce Anthony
Going down and a road right? making a turn your body kind of lets you the intuition kind of lets you know, look some right here ain't right? and and as I'm watching this there were so many times that I'm listening to her and I'm thinking to myself. You know what I really need to listen to my.

41:45.29
J. Aundrea
Um, and.

41:54.57
J. Aundrea
Yeah, right.

41:55.10
Bruce Anthony
Intuition a lot more because there has not been a time when my intuition has been wrong. There's some, there's something that's in us that recognizes when there's a lie when there is danger. We have a six sense.

42:08.54
J. Aundrea
No, it's called it. It's called our brains. It's called. It's called no, it's called our brains. It's called that we see something we know what it is. We recognize it.

42:12.51
Bruce Anthony
We do we ignore it I went not always called our Brian this.

42:25.70
J. Aundrea
And then we decide I didn't see that and we move on with our lives.

42:33.51
Bruce Anthony
So not even subconsciously you're saying consciously. We're like um then see it. Don't want to recognize it.

42:35.63
J. Aundrea
Yeah, so that feeling in your oh it's a feeling in my gut is because you already know with your brain. What the truth is.

42:45.70
Bruce Anthony
Yeah I feel I don't know I don't know if I feel bad yeah I feel bad I've turned a new leaf in my life where I'm really really happy being alone almost to to my detriment. Almost to the point where like somebody Goingnna have to break down the walls and pull me out because I'm like look I can do better all by myself. Yeah I know that's a I know it's Tyler Perry play but I can so like I really there's extreme comfort in being alone and I'm cool with it.

43:03.20
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, yeah.

43:18.41
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

43:21.60
Bruce Anthony
But not a lot of people are and so a lot of people are lonely and that's 1 thing that I'm not is lonely. So I'm trying to identify with a lot of things that she was saying and the reason why we're talking about this is because I think.

43:24.65
J. Aundrea
M.

43:38.95
Bruce Anthony
That her story will resonate with a lot of people because so many people do things because they are lonely that y'all know y'all know you do not want to be on that dating site. You're on that dating site swiping right and left because you are lonely and you are.

43:39.65
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

43:57.41
J. Aundrea
E.

43:58.20
Bruce Anthony
Bor and you need to take a step back because I have so many female friends and they've done this and I tell them you need to stop going on them Dana sites and just find yourself just be by yourself for a little while because what's gonna end up happening is is you're gonna meet somebody. And there's gonna be an initial spark and you're gonna be like this person is great but this person isn't great. They just felt that loneliness that you had and then when they can no longer feel that loneliness that you had you're gonna become disinterested and for those true social paths.

44:23.40
J. Aundrea
Oh.

44:35.38
Bruce Anthony
They ghost those people the real honest people and I'm not saying I'm a social path but I have ghosted a lot of people in my lifetime. Um, but but the real honest people will say look this isn't working for me and you hurt a person because maybe they were ready.

44:40.88
J. Aundrea
Er.

44:49.66
J. Aundrea
You right.

44:51.76
Bruce Anthony
Maybe they were looking for something and maybe they were into you because they felt that you were into them. But really, you was just fill a void of loneliness and so that's what she was doing I guarantee you if we weren't in a pandemic. She wouldn't have settled for that.

45:01.28
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

45:10.46
J. Aundrea
Ah, yeah, absolutely think she would have um yeah he he he was checking all the boxes for her and the boxes were he's alive. He's um.

45:11.62
Bruce Anthony
Okay.

45:20.80
Bruce Anthony
Time out. That's.

45:25.70
J. Aundrea
Mostly male. But that king that concludes the list. Okay and he checked that that was a bonus That's why she move let him move into her house after two weeks

45:31.94
Bruce Anthony
He's a laugh at he's mostly mail those are boxes and no any paid the bills and he paid the bills that was a key thing that was a key thing. Ah.

45:45.95
J. Aundrea
She was always gonna marry him because he was what alive and mostly male. Okay because she told you she did I don't think she did this out of loneliness I think she did it because of a societal pressure on women to get married. She said I was.

45:52.31
Bruce Anthony
Um.

46:04.30
Bruce Anthony
I think desperation.

46:04.59
J. Aundrea
Desperate I wanted to get married and I thought this was my turn.

46:09.56
Bruce Anthony
Well I mean I think that I think Loneliness is part of a desperation.

46:15.75
J. Aundrea
Um I don't think she I think it is that social pressure on women to get married to be a wife and to have children but it's it's.

46:21.55
Bruce Anthony
There is that and men and men. It's not. It's not solely women. It is. It's also men. It's for men to get ah to find a wife to have children to continue on their legacy.

46:35.14
J. Aundrea
But it's more socially, upset acceptable for a man to wait longer than it is for a woman once you hit a certain. It is usually around 26 people start Asking. We you gonna have baby when you're gonna get married.. What are you? Yeah, Why used to single men could be single into their forty and don't nobody say nothing.

46:55.16
Bruce Anthony
Look her iron alright not true. That's not true. That's not true. That's not true at all I get that question and I've been getting that question for the last ten years Bruce when you gonna get married again. Bruce when you gonna have kids Bruce when you gonna do that. It happens for men too. It does it happen later. Yes, it happens later for men than it does from women but I can tell you from a male's perspective. It does still happen people still ask you and then when people ask you? it's.

47:16.65
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah.

47:23.33
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah.

47:33.19
Bruce Anthony
Don't you want to have kids don't you want to continue on the legacy and I always say I don't really think that's the reason to have kids if if the if the the reason to have kids in your mind is to continue you on a continue on a legacy. That's a real narcissistic way of looking at things.

47:38.56
J. Aundrea
Now it's a terrible reason to have children.

47:50.50
J. Aundrea
M.

47:52.52
Bruce Anthony
Ah, why does my legacy mean so much that it needs to continue on first and foremost there isn't anything that I'm not saying that I'm not important and but in the grand scheme of things when I close my eyes.

47:58.67
J. Aundrea
Royal.

48:05.45
J. Aundrea
Right. M.

48:10.39
Bruce Anthony
And take my final breath and well I be as important as a president now know maybe one day I might want to run for president. But I don't know right? So I don't know what my legacy is so I yeah you have okay here. Go.

48:15.39
J. Aundrea
E. Because I'm have chosen violence this entire episode I'm a keep on I'm a a reload and put in a new plit. Okay.

48:29.55
Bruce Anthony
Okay, here we go do do you die Go hit what what I make you laugh about.

48:39.55
J. Aundrea
I Lost my train of thought because you made me laugh because ah I don't know you to say in a real low voice for some race it? yeah.

48:48.50
Bruce Anthony
Oh that anytime you say I but choose violence and I'm just like okay go hit Oh my God I was talking about legacy and children and and yeah, okay there we go all.

48:56.25
J. Aundrea
Okay, what was the last thing you said that'll trigger my memory are correct correct. Yes, okay, so the only people who make the legacy argument are people who don't have 1

49:06.00
Bruce Anthony
If.

49:13.65
J. Aundrea
Because you are your legacy. It is not on my children's responsibility to carry on my legacy. What about their own.

49:14.99
Bruce Anthony
No okay.

49:27.10
Bruce Anthony
So many people have children and they and they expect them to be miniature versions of themselves and and that can absolutely happen right? I look at our parents and we are we all of us. Not.

49:36.64
J. Aundrea
That's.

49:41.59
J. Aundrea
M.

49:44.36
Bruce Anthony
Exact carbon copy menture versions. Even though I do very much look like my father physically very much look like my father. But um I'm not a carbon copy I have a lot of his characteristics.

49:49.52
J. Aundrea
M. Yeah, yeah.

50:01.40
Bruce Anthony
Um I have a lot of my mom's characteristics. So do you? So do our brothers So we're not carbon copies I would say we're evolutions of of them and that's what I think you truly want your kids I don't have kids. But if I did have kids I would want them to be the next evolution.

50:09.86
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

50:20.76
Bruce Anthony
Of me a somebody who thinks somebody who is open minded somebody who is naturally loving to all until there's a reason not to be loving and then at that point you can throw some hands.

50:30.41
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, yeah I um want my kids to reflect themselves. They yeah.

50:43.15
Bruce Anthony
If.

50:47.76
J. Aundrea
I am not going to put my baggage on you if I have a legacy it will be because of the things that I've done most of the time the people who talk about that are people who don't have 1 Or the legacy that they do have is not a good one and they're hoping that the next generation can repair it. But I think I think we need to start letting children. Be individual people.

51:14.84
Bruce Anthony
Um, only half now.

51:19.76
Bruce Anthony
Yeah I agree what is your final thoughts on Resa Teasa what did you learn from this.

51:30.25
J. Aundrea
I Learned about pathological Liars I mean the lengths like it it to to me that is I mean not to me to the dsm four. It's ah it's a mental illness because it's. It's Beyond Compulsive. It is it if I don't even know what word you could use Um, but this man lied about every thing but the only reason.

51:49.42
Bruce Anthony
Yeah.

52:02.00
Bruce Anthony
The ada.

52:08.57
J. Aundrea
That he was able to do so is because she decided that she was gonna be okay with that because it was her turn Damn it she didn't seen everybody else walk down a and now it's my turn and I'm willing. To legally bind myself to a human being who would knowingly and willfully get my hopes up knowing he will not come through.

52:44.80
Bruce Anthony
There.

52:46.10
J. Aundrea
When he never had to it was enough that you paid to but you could have told her you were really a forklift driver because guess what a forklift driver's salary is paying all of her bills.

52:53.25
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, she would have been okay with that.

53:03.26
J. Aundrea
So you could have said that you chose otherwise or actually he didn't because he has no control over it I Truly believe I've seen his video since then of course he was outed. Um, even though Riesaesa used ah the.

53:06.34
Bruce Anthony
Right.

53:21.45
J. Aundrea
Nickname that she had come up with um he would he ended up being outed by another tiktoker and um, he has consistently lied to the public since that that he has a Netflix deal.

53:33.34
Bruce Anthony
Ah, right.

53:37.28
J. Aundrea
Um, and it's going to be his story getting out of it getting out there. It is that he's get you know all this stuff that he ah he tried to post his bank statement and if you Google bank statement. The first image to pop up was the image that he posted so he still lying to America.

53:57.42
Bruce Anthony
Yep yep, right? So all right on that note, that's it for this show. I don't know how it ended up will find out. Because ah, we're both a little inebriated but I hope you guys enjoyed it Jay. What do you want to tell the people out there.

54:19.59
J. Aundrea
Oh now? um ah Apple of day does not keep the doctor away people really need to stop saying that I don't know but it just I'm just saying.

54:26.32
Bruce Anthony
I Who said that a where did that come from. Okay.

54:33.94
J. Aundrea
And there are some euphemisms that I'm just like that's not even that's not even possible and it's not even a thing.

54:38.92
Bruce Anthony
It's not a thing. No I think that was the farmers putting some stuff out there. But on that note, thank you for listening. Thank you for watching and until next time as always a holla.

54:44.24
J. Aundrea
Yeah, it's.