Friendship's Fabric & Political Threads: Platonic Love & SOTU

00:03.95
Bruce Anthony
Welcome First of all welcome this is unsolicited perspectives I'm your host Bruce Anthony here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaped today's society join the conversation by following us wherever you get your audio podcast subscribe to our Youtube channel to watch our video podcast. Rate review like comment share share with your friends share with your family hell even share with your enemies on today's episode is the sibling happy hour I'm here with my sister Jay Andrea we're gonna be talking about friendships katie brits crazy ass. And is it fair to snitch on somebody that could be cheating on the internet but that's enough for the intro. Let's get to the show.

00:58.10
J. Aundrea
What up bretta.

00:58.91
Bruce Anthony
What obsess I can't call it I can't call it except for this is allergy season and is it. It's in full. Ah fact.

01:06.80
J. Aundrea
Yes, full effect does effect all of it Rex on effects and effects and on the record all of it. That's the words that I've said my whole life.

01:13.15
Bruce Anthony
Rex effect. I Have to think those were the words. What's roscoe up to because because to put y' allll behind the scenes as usual because that's up not put what's behind the scenes in front of the camera or texted my sister and before the show.

01:32.60
J. Aundrea
Um, ah.

01:35.40
Bruce Anthony
And she threw her phone to uranus. So I As soon as she logs in I'm like hey you know what's going on. Why aren't you answer my text now uranus.

01:35.16
J. Aundrea
Yes, I Just wish you'd pick another planet.

01:46.40
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, or at least pronounce it uranus all right.

01:53.10
Bruce Anthony
All right? Neptune she throws her phone to neptune. Okay, because that's the farthest planet since they you know declassified pluto and then she jumps on to tell me you know I got to hide everything from roscoe and that's just basically what it is.

02:01.24
J. Aundrea
Pluto's a planet damn it.

02:06.74
J. Aundrea
Yes, well he's three months old he's teething so everything goes in his mouth. Everything doesn't matter what it is pine cones rocks the remote my phone all the thing. Yes, yes.

02:19.72
Bruce Anthony
My finger my arm here they were little sharp as little teeth.

02:25.65
J. Aundrea
Oh my hands are my hands are covered in wounds because I'm I'm just now getting him to like acknowledge when I'm like no no biting and he'll he'll keep snapping but then he realized ok she she's serious. So yeah.

02:31.20
Bruce Anthony
It's.

02:42.42
Bruce Anthony
She's serious now.

02:44.50
J. Aundrea
So but he still buys the hell out of poor roney ah every day every day she does it does not discourage him 1 bit but he got his come upance I had to go into the office.

02:48.25
Bruce Anthony
Ah, Roney don't be beating that ass.

02:55.48
Bruce Anthony
Is.

03:02.73
J. Aundrea
On Wednesday Ah so I dropped him at our cousin's house who has his sister of a female from the litter and she runs rough shot all over him and so he got to play in the backyard and basically.

03:09.40
Bruce Anthony
In here.

03:16.70
Bruce Anthony
Um.

03:20.96
J. Aundrea
You know, get his little good last beat for the afternoon and ah he he just went right to bed when he when I got him home. He was so tired he was so done.

03:25.55
Bruce Anthony
Um.

03:30.52
Bruce Anthony
Now So I learned from my friend who's a dog expert quote unquote that it's never a good idea to adopt siblings because they already had the Pac mentality and you want.

03:39.14
J. Aundrea
Um.

03:49.66
Bruce Anthony
The dog you want to be the leader of the pack in your household right? But if they already have a pack mentality if you look at a lot of times where dog owners were attacked by their dogs or attacked by multiple dogs. They tend to be siblings from the same litter. Well I mean.

03:50.47
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

04:01.44
J. Aundrea
Um.

04:06.81
J. Aundrea
Ah, yeah, that makes sense. Yeah, that actually makes sense because she clearly is above him in the food chain the way the way she be on his ass.

04:07.47
Bruce Anthony
Obviously if if they're siblings. They're from the same litter. Um, so it's it's.

04:17.95
Bruce Anthony
I.

04:23.63
J. Aundrea
Ah, on him. But.

04:23.72
Bruce Anthony
Well do you have anything in particular that you want to address before we get to some of the the stuff that we got going on before we talk about friendship friendship.

04:37.72
J. Aundrea
Yeah I've and I've I got notes I got notes on that. Um, yes, why I got notes a I got notes on the whole show. But I got I got like 2 3 pages of notes on friendship.

04:39.83
Bruce Anthony
On friendship. Okay.

04:49.95
Bruce Anthony
On good God. Ah.

04:52.36
J. Aundrea
Well, ah well I went back and I listened to you sent me a clip of a podcast I went back and listened to the show and read the related articles. So I can get the full picture of what she was trying to say and and and I'm prepared. But.

05:04.16
Bruce Anthony
Ooh. Okay, so you are well prepared.

05:09.62
J. Aundrea
Actually I'm surprised you're not leading with your news. We have 5000 subscribers well the show is called yeah ah solicitor perspectives from Bruce Anthony and that's the show.

05:14.59
Bruce Anthony
What's my news. Okay, that's our news. Not my news actually is the show called that because on on several.

05:28.58
J. Aundrea
All.

05:32.30
Bruce Anthony
Several different platforms is just unsolicited perspectives and and the logo says with Bruce Anthony and yes ladies Jim it is my show but it there's been a part of me that has just just dropped the with Bruce Anthony part

05:34.29
J. Aundrea
Um, what? yeah yeah.

05:45.77
J. Aundrea
What everybody know I mean everybody knows a sure show I mean you are Bruce Anthony and there are some episodes where it's just solely you so it would be right? So it would be really weird for people to not know that it's your show.

05:49.50
Bruce Anthony
Yeah I am Bruce Anthony it's a lot of episodes where it's just solely me. Yeah.

06:02.93
Bruce Anthony
Well yes, what.

06:05.12
J. Aundrea
But but the official name of the show has the with I feel like on social media like there's a asterisk like and then the footnote says with Bruce Anthony yeah

06:14.15
Bruce Anthony
Yes, yes, that's true, the logo and everything associated says with Bruce Anthony but it you are a part of unsolicited perspectives a big part of it. Some would say the most important part and I would.

06:21.98
J. Aundrea
You write.

06:32.77
Bruce Anthony
Sp dead it there'd be people like this people like I Really like your show and the interviews I Really love when your sister's on the show and I'm like yes, okay, are you.

06:34.40
J. Aundrea
I I would dispute that Also ah guys I'm really on a fraction of the shows. Um, like.

06:47.99
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah.

06:52.31
Bruce Anthony
You make sure to listen to everything though because I be I'll be dropping some when it's just me I'm long windded and I'm a go roundabout way to get to my point I get like I hate that you gave me that analogy what you state it I was like yes yet.

07:03.64
J. Aundrea
Um, very Rachel Madowesque

07:08.35
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yes.

07:11.20
Bruce Anthony
Um'm bringing in everything I'm giving you a complete story and in that story. There's an endpoint and I land the endpoint every time even sometime I get sidetracked and forget what my endpoint is somehow with my rambling I get back to it. But anyway.

07:17.84
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

07:24.70
J. Aundrea
But but because ultimately we know where we're going I I don't know every single street I turn on but I know I make a left with this light. You know what I'm saying like do I know the name of the Cross street. No I don't.

07:28.83
Bruce Anthony
We know where we're going. We just don't know how we there.

07:35.52
Bruce Anthony
Right? exactly. A a a.

07:43.78
J. Aundrea
I know I make a laugh at this light and I'm a get where I need to go I I I know landmarks will get there. That's the point. Yeah.

07:49.89
Bruce Anthony
Right? We're getting there. But yes, so actually we're over 5000 now we're we're close to 5300 now um we actually hit 5000 we're recording the show on Thursday we hit 5000 I think Monday morning.

07:55.67
J. Aundrea
Since that's the same.

08:06.75
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, yes.

08:07.30
Bruce Anthony
I think I sent you the text? Yes I sent you the text Monday morning. Um that we had hit 5000 the software that tracks that didn't recognize it until a couple of days later and then they sent me that little.

08:17.65
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

08:21.59
Bruce Anthony
Thing that I posted if you follow us on social media. You will see a little picture that I posted my sister took the picture of me. Um, you see her great photography I love the picture I'm just not happy about about the way I look in it. Okay I feel like I look fifty seven thousand years old ah I feel like.

08:27.64
J. Aundrea
Um.

08:34.39
J. Aundrea
But you do you? Absolutely don't ah.

08:40.95
Bruce Anthony
Ah, felt I felt like you could see the allergies on my face that you can't deny. You can see the allergies on my face you can see I'm suffering Those pictures were a clear identifier that Policyen season is coming because it's here it is in full effect here. Yeah.

08:44.66
J. Aundrea
No no.

08:53.15
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

08:58.38
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, but to see me real puffy the next month and a half two two months of me being real puffy because these allergies is killing me. But yes, we're we're at 5000 I'm really excited about it because we doubled what we did in the entire 2023 we doubled that number in two months

09:03.65
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

09:17.66
J. Aundrea
That's crazy.

09:17.70
Bruce Anthony
And 2024 so yeah we're growing. We're growing and I know that we're growing because we're getting a lot of hate hate is gonna hate all right? So okay here we go. What.

09:22.50
J. Aundrea
We're growing people. It's happening. Yeah I Love it. Yeah I mean. Ah so it's is is funny. Ah so as you know. Ah, over the weekend. My home was vandalized. Oh I don't have no I don't have no pro but ah by Persons unknown even though I I don't know who specifically did it but I know who's responsible I will get my look back I'm putting that out on here on the show I don't care.

09:42.30
Bruce Anthony
Ah I didn't know that we was gonna put that on air. We we gonna talk about it listen.

09:54.47
Bruce Anthony
Now Don't do no, you don't know who's responsible. You will not get your lick back. This is going across the world. Okay, there's people in other countries that saying.

09:58.30
J. Aundrea
And.

10:05.81
J. Aundrea
I know it I I know even if they aren't responsible I'm holding you responsible period. So ah, but my my house was vandalized and it was funny. Ah where I was talking to our younger brother. And ah he was just letting me know that some of his friends were concerned and seeing if I was ok and and 1 of them said I don't know seems like his sister got a lot of enemies and that's the more I hear about the like the hate that I I get for the things that I say on the show.

10:33.21
Bruce Anthony
And and.

10:41.23
J. Aundrea
The more I'm like that might be accurate that might be.

10:43.12
Bruce Anthony
Well wait a minute hold on where are your enemies coming from that I mean they're not coming from the show like your your your place wasn't vandalized because of something that you said on the show. Yeah.

10:53.41
J. Aundrea
No I Definitely know that's not the case. Um, no, ah but it just when you said that thing about you knew we were growing because of the amount of hate they were getting um but it just reminded me of when the press.

11:02.19
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, yeah.

11:08.16
Bruce Anthony
Look let me let me tell some check the reason why you got some enemies is the reason why I think you can't pinpointed on specific people are the cause of this vandalizing.

11:08.30
J. Aundrea
Like the sister got some enemies. Yeah.

11:22.36
J. Aundrea
And it and you know what's so funny I literally do nothing I rarely interact with other human beings and so ah, the fact that this happened I find it just incredibly strange and ah.

11:39.85
J. Aundrea
I'm I'm not a person with enemies I don't have any I'm a principled person and that that kind of person ah will get hated on but for me for me a lot of times. It's the Principal and I will stand on a hill and that will be a Hill I will die on and I don't give a damn.

11:45.17
Bruce Anthony
Yeah.

11:55.94
Bruce Anthony
Know yeah, that's true. Well let the audience know how you're doing how you're doing because that the house was vandalized Sunday night early Monday morning and everybody listening to this is gonna be like and you told her that you that y'all hit 5000 subscribers

11:59.15
J. Aundrea
Um, I said what I said I ah I am well um, yes.

12:15.51
Bruce Anthony
It was after I called and talked to my sister The my main concern was my sister.

12:18.30
J. Aundrea
Yes, yes, and also ladies gentlemen and everybody in between and our outside of that as well. I I needed some good news so I was a hundred percent fine with.

12:31.79
Bruce Anthony
Yes.

12:37.17
J. Aundrea
Anyone calling me during this time with good news. So um, but I am I'm fine. You know obviously I was really pissed about it. Um, yeah, but you know I'm not a cowardly person. Um.

12:46.83
Bruce Anthony
Understandably.

12:54.31
J. Aundrea
So I just don't have respect for people who do things like this when I say I'm going to get my look back. Please no I don't i' I'm not ah ah, criminalb guys like I'm not going to I'm not goingnna vandalize anything I'm not Goingnna do I'm right.

13:10.76
Bruce Anthony
You're not I am man. Yes, yes.

13:13.75
J. Aundrea
Yeah, and I and I and I know a lot of goons too. So but first of all and they in our family I am related to them. Yes, ah, but but no I'm I mean legally like through the through the proper channels that is how I operate That's how I've always operated. I will operate through the proper channels. But I'm I'm not gonna let it go? yeah.

13:34.46
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, no, you shouldn't let it go. We dont we gonna get out there and then I'm gonna be there. We had to work out some logistics with some other people. But I'm goingnna be there either at the either next weekend the weekend after the weekend after that within the next three weeks I'm gonna be there.

13:44.41
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah.

13:52.17
J. Aundrea
Okay.

13:54.29
Bruce Anthony
I've already decided instead of going I was gonna plan a trip ladies and gentlemen to go to New Orleans but instead of doing that I am well somebody suggested it to me that that I said oh I'll go in October around Halloween and then somebody suggested to me. Yeah, that's probably a better idea anyway because.

13:58.29
J. Aundrea
I I feel like you should still do that and not word.

14:07.50
J. Aundrea
M.

14:13.76
Bruce Anthony
It's go be hot as hell next month and I was like oh yeah I guess you yeah like what what is hot.

14:15.54
J. Aundrea
Yeah, it's all hot here. It was hot today. Um is just ah I had no sleeves on that's that's the best way I can describe it and the air conditioning is on.

14:27.96
Bruce Anthony
Um.

14:30.12
Bruce Anthony
For okay.

14:31.84
J. Aundrea
The air conditions on in the house and when I went out with the dogs I I was in a tank top like it's hot.

14:36.44
Bruce Anthony
Well, you know you know damn well when I get there air condition's gonna be on cause I ain't planned I'm not in a sweat box. Yeah.

14:41.17
J. Aundrea
Is I'm not turk I don't turn it off I don't know that's the 1 thing I might not put the heat on because it's like you know, put on a sweater you know, grab a blanket.

14:51.54
Bruce Anthony
Well, you don't need to hear my sister lays the gentlemen and got ah got a electric fireplace in her bedroom. So when I was there ah around on Christmas I walked into that bedroom I was like why is it a signa in here that electric fireplace blazes out.

14:59.40
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

15:05.84
J. Aundrea
Yes, it is. It gets very hot in here. Ah, but but hey Adam had to turn the heat on you know.

15:08.71
Bruce Anthony
The heat from TenMillionSuns at one time. That that's true. That's true. Ah, but you're doing Okay, you're strong but I hate when people say this? Well you're Strong. You can get through this look.

15:23.49
J. Aundrea
And okay, yes, yes.

15:31.20
Bruce Anthony
Also it's not good for your mental health to just try and soldier through stuff. It is okay I'm speaking in general here. It is okay people ladies and gentlemen that you have vulnerability and you feel emotion when some things happen that's not weakness. We are human beings.

15:34.37
J. Aundrea
Yes, yeah.

15:49.14
Bruce Anthony
We are not robots nor are we Spock Spock is from star trek he was it klingon or or no he he was a vulcan he was vocan out. Okay.

15:49.98
J. Aundrea
Right? I I feel no no, he was broken. Yeah, that way you know what you made a you made an effort and I think I think people respect that you know.

16:07.85
Bruce Anthony
No I don't I watch no Star trek.

16:08.65
J. Aundrea
I Know you don't watch a lot Star trek and it and and I'm be honest I say track I don't say Trek I know I know it's not right. It Star Trek Yes, yes for that.

16:16.46
Bruce Anthony
Is it I mean is oh I guess because they trek in across the galaxy in the universe like you don't track A yeah, why where it could be stuck.

16:27.98
J. Aundrea
I do say so you don't Star Trek makes no sense. That's not what they're doing though. They're trekking. They're trekking. Yeah a trek.

16:33.10
Bruce Anthony
No, you could be tracking stars. Ah, they're going where no man has gone before I do remember that do do do do that's Star Trek the next generation That's ah, only reason why I know it yeah is I hate it. This is the reason why I Hate Star Trek the next generation and and ladies Gentlemen. We go get to the friendship thing. We just go move. It.

16:47.51
J. Aundrea
That's still is still a track.

16:55.20
J. Aundrea
I promise.

16:57.43
Bruce Anthony
From the first segment to the third segment because I got to get to create the ass Katie Brit and the second segment we go get there. This is the longest dily daddling that we've done in a while but we go get there but I'm gonna tell you the reason why hate star trek the next generation star trek to next generation came on Saturday nights at seven zero p m.

17:01.99
J. Aundrea
Yeah. Yeah, okay.

17:17.16
Bruce Anthony
First of all what major network show is gonna schedule something Saturday night at 7 pm cause most people are not our home but guess who was at home. The people that watch star trek the next generation in our household and at that particular time look ladies and gentlemen. We didn't always have a lot of money we might have only one good Tv.

17:25.83
J. Aundrea
Yes.

17:34.48
J. Aundrea
Yes, and and that might we did. We're one we're 1 tv yeah

17:35.65
Bruce Anthony
Working that meant.

17:42.80
Bruce Anthony
That changed that changed after a while but it but typically it was 1 Tv and at 6 so 5 every Saturday on tbswcw saturday night main event will come on and I was watching it but I can only enjoy it.

17:58.83
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah.

18:00.46
Bruce Anthony
For 55 minutes never saw a main event in my life. Never saw a main event in my life. You know why cause star trek the next generation was coming on and mom and dad had to watch it and also they had to tape it so that meant that I couldn't even tape the last hour.

18:11.23
J. Aundrea
Yes, yeah.

18:18.71
Bruce Anthony
Ah, wc w said and night main of it I never saw Rick Flair russe in all my life. That's that suck that tras but I never saw made of it in my entire life never because I couldn't even tape it and then and then did.

18:21.39
J. Aundrea
Best That's exaggeration.

18:32.54
J. Aundrea
Ah, yeah, yeah.

18:36.93
Bruce Anthony
Dan would has some weird fixation on I like you know technology pops. You are. You're you're basically an engineer like you know technology right? So you know that we can record something and watch something else on another channel. There is a way to do that? No you go? It's gonna mess something up so just leave it alone.

18:40.85
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yes.

18:51.35
J. Aundrea
You yes because it was very very important that they watch Star Trek the next generation like it was just very important now. No.

18:56.89
Bruce Anthony
So they never saw made the fit.

19:01.81
Bruce Anthony
I get it? No, there's no reruns until the summertime and I don't know if the reruns was in order and you know you it's episodic television. So I get it.

19:10.81
J. Aundrea
You really? yeah, this is before streaming layers where and we're watching it live like is like this these this was not syndication with was when it was on television and you just had to catch it or oh that's it.

19:20.28
Bruce Anthony
No lie and everybody when I asked me if yeah, you missed it and everybody asking me Bruce why'd you play with your wrestling men to you 16 to 17 years old because I used to go act out what I thought would happen in the main event with my wrestler ben. Because I couldn't watch the main of it lie test to recent murder.

19:45.22
J. Aundrea
Ah, but eventually we got tvs in our rooms and it it was 5 did you got to see Rick flair. Finally.

19:50.91
Bruce Anthony
Again then I started being able watching Rick pride. Finally finally when he was real old I finally got to see him a see him in his prime I saw my Dan oh my goodness but speaking of.

20:02.70
J. Aundrea
The.

20:08.38
Bruce Anthony
Prime time television. We have not gotten an opportunity to address the response to state of a union because we were filming the episode but we're going to get to that next.

20:08.88
J. Aundrea
Boy Oh boy.

20:20.48
J. Aundrea
Um.

20:24.48
Bruce Anthony
He.

20:30.33
Bruce Anthony
All right ladies and gentlemen like I said we did not get an opportunity to respond to the state of a union or the response to the state of Union because we will record an episode as it was going on so I didn't find out about everything that happened until the very next day.

20:43.33
J. Aundrea
Have. Yes.

20:50.18
Bruce Anthony
And as I was watching the response to what happened the very next day. The first thing that came to my mind was who the hell is this so right? but but you should here's the thing.

20:59.48
J. Aundrea
Ah, you and me both because I have never heard of this person in my entire life and they yeah.

21:08.43
Bruce Anthony
You should have and I'm going to go down her her statistics in a minute but here's the thing we should have heard from her because her rise to her position is pretty phenomenal from a historic standpoint. It's pretty spectacular now. Um.

21:21.65
J. Aundrea
Yes, yeah.

21:27.13
Bruce Anthony
Her response was also very spectacular just in a very different way. Rights are let me run down who we talking about we talking about Katie Elizabeth Britt she was born February Second 1982 she just had her.

21:29.20
J. Aundrea
From a historical standpoint. Yeah.

21:46.17
Bruce Anthony
Forty second birthday she's an american politician obviously an attorney who is the junior United States senator from Alabama she's been that since twenty twenty three. She's a member of the republican party if you didn't notice that because of her response you should've known that but she's a member of the republican party.

21:48.50
J. Aundrea
Um.

22:05.74
Bruce Anthony
Britt is the first woman to be elected to the US senate from Alabama and the youngest republican woman ever elected to senate so these were the things we were talking about from historical standpoint. It's pretty. It's pretty spectacular one that Alabama is finally sending female senators.

22:24.80
J. Aundrea
I mean hat. Best sad that a sand like that. She's the first you know how long Alabama's been a state.

22:25.00
Bruce Anthony
To Congress and the fact that she's what? um well.

22:42.47
J. Aundrea
Ah I mean damn, but.

22:43.12
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, Alabama has been a state for a very long time I'm I'm not about to look up how long but it's it's been long enough. It's been long enough. Ah ah she was also president and Ceo of the business council of Alabama from 2019 to 2021

22:50.77
J. Aundrea
Long enough. Yeah.

23:02.94
Bruce Anthony
And she was the chief of staff for her senate predecessor Richard Shelby from 2016 to 2018 she was born in Enterprise Alabama I wonder if enterprise alabama is the home of enterprise you know the car rental place could be out. It could.

23:10.64
J. Aundrea
Are.

23:18.14
J. Aundrea
You know, um I fit it could be because because then that would explain the name Enterprise runner. You know I just never understood.

23:21.58
Bruce Anthony
Ah, be.

23:27.43
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, oh or or Enterprise just ah, maybe they maybe they were Star Trek fans. It is so Star Trek Enterprise ladies and gentlemen.

23:34.22
J. Aundrea
I think I think this this is says this is a happy hour. Check a shot every time we reference Star Trek in this episode. Yeah because I feel like it's gonna come up again now. It's go come up again.

23:40.85
Bruce Anthony
Now because we'll be real drunk. Ah no I think I'm done with maybe maybe not Ah, she also worked at a small at a family small business which throughout her youthhood and I just wanted to say you to it.

23:54.67
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

23:58.59
Bruce Anthony
Ah, she graduated from the University Of Alabama where she majored in political science and was elected president of the student governance association and 20 to 13 she received her doctorate from the University Of Alabama School of law ah but like I said not she she loved a look.

24:13.00
J. Aundrea
Cis did not leave Alabama.

24:17.84
Bruce Anthony
Some people just love their state. We don't have that connection to any state because we didn't lived in so many of them. Um, but you know I guess I guess I Love no I don't love no states. Ah, but if I I was thinking about it and I was trying to come around I was like no.

24:23.47
J. Aundrea
Throughout.

24:30.19
J. Aundrea
It.

24:35.47
Bruce Anthony
No I mean I guess I it's not a state should be a state. It should be a state ladies and gentlemen. But I guess I love dc but technically I've never lived in the city limits of Dc but this ain't about me this is about her speech so she was.

24:39.45
J. Aundrea
2

24:44.98
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah is okay, yeah.

24:52.80
Bruce Anthony
Designated the person that gives the response to the state of the union. This is always done no matter who the president is the people from the opposing party choose somebody to get a response to a state of a union we can all remember Tim Scott's response to state of union when he said America was not a racist country. Ah. Tim Scott maybe he'll get out of the sunken place one day. Maybe yeah, he said I outside of for this are there were some normal things in her response right.

25:12.97
J. Aundrea
Um, now because he volunteered.

25:22.47
J. Aundrea
It? yeah.

25:28.71
J. Aundrea
Yeah, ah, right? yeah and that's the way you could categorize it as normal.

25:31.80
Bruce Anthony
She did? Yeah, yeah, there were yeah there were some normal things she did deliver the strong critique of the administration policies which is what she's supposed to do as a republican republican Democrats fundamentally agree on a lot of disagree on a lot of issues.

25:40.14
J. Aundrea
So.

25:46.74
Bruce Anthony
She gave a strong critique on Administration's policies that which she doesn't agree with and the party doesn't agree with she sought to distinguish the gop as the party better position to lead the nation. That's what you're also supposed to do during the ah state of ah the resp responsesive state of union.

26:01.51
J. Aundrea
M.

26:04.71
Bruce Anthony
She criticized Biden's age and you know a lot of people doing that and his policies saying that american dream is currently a nightmare now this is where we hit that curve because everything and pretty much after this turned into. Yeah no so her acting was really poor.

26:15.00
J. Aundrea
It just gets weird.

26:24.68
Bruce Anthony
And um, it wasn't even fit for a movie on to be to be quite honest. Um.

26:28.34
J. Aundrea
It was it was a it was a hallmark Christmas movie by so featur him somebody. You don't know and valerie burelli and maybe and maybe Eric Roberts

26:40.78
Bruce Anthony
I don't know who that is I don't know it all why it though? why why I know who Eric Roberts is ah.

26:46.62
J. Aundrea
Exactly that's the point Eric Roberts is probably her mean boss who wants her to work on Christmas but it's but she's fallen in love with a handy man who wants to take her back to his small town.

26:55.99
Bruce Anthony
Let's.

27:05.58
J. Aundrea
She learns the true meaning of Krista it was bad like like I I couldn't even get through it honestly I watched it it was unhinged.

27:09.44
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, so some oh I did because I thought it was straight hilarity. Um some viewers including unnamed advisers to former president Trump. Were baffled by her response. They questioned the tone and the content of her speech critics within her own party described her responses to go Op's biggest disasters the choice of setting of the speech a kitchen was also criticized some some commentators felt that it it undermined her position as a stateswoman.

27:33.67
J. Aundrea
Oh.

27:44.31
J. Aundrea
That I don't agree with that I I mean I agree with it in the sense that they are correct the way society would view it I but I don't find that let motherhood or housework or any of that can can devalue.

27:44.67
Bruce Anthony
And I can kind of see that and I can kind of well. Ah.

27:52.10
Bruce Anthony
Right.

28:04.15
J. Aundrea
Ah, other accomplishments that you have and caring for your family is I Just don't see how that's yeah, right.

28:07.91
Bruce Anthony
That's right and because what's the alternative. What's the crowd that she's planting. She's playing to republicans right? and like we just said she's a historic senator because she's the first female senator from Alabama. So they're if they're just finally electing a woman they might I'm just speaking generalities here if they're just finally ah, electing a woman. They're finally maybe seeing women as equals. So maybe seeing her and her ah office.

28:24.82
J. Aundrea
Um, right.

28:30.43
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

28:44.51
Bruce Anthony
With all her law books all around would be intimidating to those people who just not too long ago. Didn't have any female senators. Ah her speech was also parodied on Snl by Scarlett Johansson it was very well done. She even said.

28:47.40
J. Aundrea
Um.

28:49.66
J. Aundrea
Right? right.

28:58.48
J. Aundrea
Yes.

29:02.72
Bruce Anthony
Ah, Katie Brent even said that you know she enjoyed the the scarlet Johansson Snl which is the way you're but you're supposed to respond to those type of things.

29:09.51
J. Aundrea
Yes, yeah, you know you're going to get parodied like you're delivering the republican response to the state of the union and an election year. You're going to get parodied on Snl um, it was it started out.

29:18.60
Bruce Anthony
Especially when you give a speech like that.

29:25.58
J. Aundrea
Like you said normal normal Kate and oh I mean her cadence was still a little weird. Um, you could definitely tell that she was acting like or she was trying to act right? Um, and then it just quickly.

29:30.15
Bruce Anthony
A. She was. She was try.

29:44.99
J. Aundrea
Made a pivot and became unhinged and she told a story that felt very out of place but she told a story. Oh you have something to say about it.

29:53.57
Bruce Anthony
Um, over.

29:57.93
Bruce Anthony
Well, it's not out of place in the standpoint of she's talking about Biden's policies and they're criticizing him on his border response which by the way, let me just point it out that they just the senate just was ready to pass legislation to.

30:16.67
J. Aundrea
Um.

30:17.39
Bruce Anthony
Give republicans basically everything that they wanted on border control but because Trump didn't want to give Biden a win during an election gear. He told everybody to vote against the very thing that they had been asking for for 4 years so whatever you want to say the border is now republicans fault.

30:20.40
J. Aundrea
Right.

30:30.87
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah.

30:35.47
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

30:37.28
Bruce Anthony
But so in the context of her critiquing his policies because they don't hold themselves accountable. The story makes sense in that context. No definitely. But.

30:45.66
J. Aundrea
Not the way that she delivered it I mean it was a hard pivot from I'm a mom I'm a wife I've got 2 kids with weird names. Maybe their family names who knows. Now I'm going to make a hard pivot and talk about human trafficking and ah a story that she's told actually on several occasions. Um, that is just.

31:14.77
Bruce Anthony
A. Well, the story is correct. The story is true-ish she she did leave out some key. Well you know what she left out some key details and said things in a way that implied that it was.

31:20.10
J. Aundrea
Incorrect. The story is no she she left out some key details.

31:35.44
J. Aundrea
E.

31:38.16
Bruce Anthony
Happening now without saying that it's happening. She did a very lawyery trick. She made it seem like the story was recent when it was actually twenty years ago ah go

31:42.89
J. Aundrea
Yes, and she and she was she was talking about. Um I do know that the woman's name that they think that she's referring to but I'm not gonna.

31:58.29
Bruce Anthony
Oh it's been confirmed who's who she's referred to so you could say it.

32:00.17
J. Aundrea
Say it on here. Yeah, okay so her name was Carla Jacinto Romero um, and it was um, she testified before congress in 2015 when George W Bush was president.

32:13.53
Bruce Anthony
Now not twenty fifteen 2015 George W was and not president. It happened during? Yeah yeah.

32:20.83
J. Aundrea
I'm sorry it occurred when she was trafficked it occurred during Wbs and then she testified in congress and 2015 um she was trafficked by a pimp not the mexican drug cartels.

32:37.41
J. Aundrea
The trafficking occurred in Mexico Not the United States um so there and and ah and it occurred right? and it occurred under a republican president. But again it wasn't a so a situation that occurred in the United States

32:42.24
Bruce Anthony
And nowhere close to the border.

32:54.28
Bruce Anthony
Okay.

32:57.35
J. Aundrea
Um, so it was very miss I It was misleading um and it just felt like it came out of nowhere and her the change in her demeanor as she's giving as she's telling the story.

33:02.96
Bruce Anthony
Misleading. Yep.

33:16.66
J. Aundrea
Um, about this woman being sex trafficked by the Cartel which again not not what happened, um her her acting is just boy did she but was she possessed.

33:29.33
Bruce Anthony
Yes, Band I'm possessed by the worst actor in the world.

33:35.52
J. Aundrea
By the worst actor in the world.

33:40.45
Bruce Anthony
I mean it was and and you know why she told this story because she's told it so many times and nobody's ever checked. It checked her on it because she's telling it to a crowd who doesn't need or doesn't want.

33:51.63
J. Aundrea
Right.

33:58.69
Bruce Anthony
Typically she's telling it to a crowd that doesn't need or doesn't want to check it. They just want to believe the story right? But when you say that on a national broadcast and you know that it's ah in a response to a democratic president. That means there's going to be democratic response to it. It took.

34:00.82
J. Aundrea
In right right.

34:18.39
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

34:18.52
Bruce Anthony
5 hours for a person to say this story is true, but just not the way that she said it. She's not being honest and then it kind of discredits on top of it. Ah, on top of the horrible acting.

34:27.93
J. Aundrea
You're right? yeah.

34:35.26
Bruce Anthony
It kind of discredits all the points that she was trying to make where yeah there's some, there's.

34:36.69
J. Aundrea
Yeah, because you can you can use real examples of of things that have happened during the Biden administration if you want to talk about the issue with the border and and illegal immigration.

34:54.60
Bruce Anthony
The.

34:56.41
J. Aundrea
Or undocumented ah migration like there are there are real examples that you could use she chose to mislead to clearly mislead.

35:02.92
Bruce Anthony
So here.

35:10.99
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, cause she said that the person that she had a personal conversation with the person and she did not she was with other politicians at a meeting a committee meeting a roundtable where um.

35:13.36
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, throw.

35:26.86
Bruce Anthony
This young lady told her story but it wasn't like she went down there to the border and she was just walking along the border just meeting folks and and somebody was like somebody was like this my story that's well she handed to that. Yeah.

35:27.28
J. Aundrea
Right? right? But that's what she But that's what she said? That's the way that's the way she she presented herself.

35:44.37
Bruce Anthony
Yes.

35:46.67
J. Aundrea
Of like I went down to the border and I sat across from trafficking victims. No, you didn't.

35:54.19
Bruce Anthony
Well she did She said she's had a crosswork she did sit across from work.

35:57.78
J. Aundrea
I Mean it's just it's just it's taking a true story and just pulling out little bits rear and arranging them. So it's It's not a lie lie but it's a lie.

36:12.50
Bruce Anthony
So she didn't put a hundred on 10 She put 1000000 on 10 and for those people that don't understand. We're putting a hundred on ten is one hundred on ten is just exaggerating a story a little bit I may have been what right I might have been walking down the street tripped over my own feet. That's probably the true story.

36:23.22
J. Aundrea
It's making a mountain out of a Molehill right? yes.

36:30.77
Bruce Anthony
But the way I'm gonna tell it is I was walking down the street and this du wanted to start some ruckus so as me and him are tussling my shoelaces got untied and I stepped on my shoe lace and I fell to the ground he was on top of me but with my strength and the fact that I'd be working out so much I pushed them off got on top of him.

36:34.47
J. Aundrea
Yeah. Are yeah right? Yeah yes.

36:49.42
Bruce Anthony
Start a hammer fisting them until the cops came and broke it up now that's putting a hundred on ten that's a lot of falsehoods that's that's what she did. That's what she did I so I mean a lot of people are saying this was damaging to her career look I'm going to go on the flip side to that.

36:58.53
J. Aundrea
Yes.

37:08.58
Bruce Anthony
Our current president was caught plagiarizing in the 1988 or 84 presidential election when he was running straight praise plagiarizing an entire speech.

37:20.70
J. Aundrea
Fair er.

37:26.24
Bruce Anthony
Twenty years later he was vice president 10 years at 1015 years after that he was president right? So her political career is nowhere near from over. However, they should never ask her to act again.

37:31.33
J. Aundrea
Yeah. Now she got she got Scarlett Johansen to play her and and at that I never heard her in my entire life. So that's near I mean you know.

37:45.67
Bruce Anthony
No, but also that's also sad the fact that look we don't I'm not in because she's the first female elected from Alabama.

37:54.51
J. Aundrea
Just a junior senator from Alabama why would I have heard of her.

38:03.43
Bruce Anthony
That's a big deal.

38:04.31
J. Aundrea
That's Alabama's problem that's not mine.

38:06.85
Bruce Anthony
What the next question is has now I'm not even Goingnna ask it. Let's move on boy ah you go down. He was started. You know I said I was going no places had ever been gone before star trek reference.

38:17.62
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

38:23.15
J. Aundrea
There we go I told you to pop up again.

38:26.21
Bruce Anthony
I take a shot are do you want to add anymore to the crazy ass crazy Brett we will here we will.

38:31.62
J. Aundrea
No I Just hope we don't have to hear from her again. But I know we will because they are hoping that well their their intention with asking her was one to improve the um you know, ah the optics of the Republican party to female voters.

38:47.40
Bruce Anthony
Optics.

38:50.64
J. Aundrea
Which don't worry. They go't come out. They've come out in every other election for the wrong party and they don't do it again though. Don't worry, there's plenty of women out here. That'll vote against their best interests.

38:55.28
Bruce Anthony
Ah, yes, yeah, yeah, I Yeah I mean I Well you know why they did that is Because. Republicans have been labeled as the people that hate women with all of this legislation which by the way I'm sorry if you continuously do something then you are that thing right? like you can't deny. It.

39:21.37
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, yeah, yeah.

39:25.69
Bruce Anthony
You can't tell lies every day I'm talking about in general you can't tell lies every day and then say you're not a liar. No if you lie every day Guess what? you a liar if you get.

39:29.90
J. Aundrea
Yeah, there is a lovely little fable about the boy cra wolf that was his ass. It's wos. It's Woofs.

39:38.45
Bruce Anthony
Did he get a by the wolves wolves not the woves wolves.

39:49.37
Bruce Anthony
No I can't stick by that that was just straight ignorance on that note, we're finally goingnna get to it Next we're gonna talk about friends and we're gonna talk about. Can you snitch on people for cheating on the internet.

39:49.98
J. Aundrea
Ah, say what you said stick by it.

40:06.77
Bruce Anthony
We don't get to that next.

40:18.10
Bruce Anthony
All right finally ladies and gentlemen we're going to get to talking about friendship so Hannah Rosen speaks with ah um, Rina Cohen thank you thank you about her book the ah the other significant others.

40:27.45
J. Aundrea
Rhaina Cohen listen

40:35.93
Bruce Anthony
Um, and it stemmed from a conversation that they had had on an article all the way back in 2020 for the atlantic and the question was what if friendship not marriage was the center of life. It led to her writing a book and.

40:48.99
J. Aundrea
Um.

40:52.82
Bruce Anthony
We explore platonic friendship so they had a discussion on the podcast. Um, what is for the Atlantic. Thank you I have my notes right here but cannot read them for some reason I'm blaming it on pollen.

40:58.70
J. Aundrea
For the atlantic is yeah it's called Radio Atlantic

41:10.55
Bruce Anthony
Um, so I'm just gonna play the clip for you guys and then we go discuss it because that intro for it was really bad but this is from the podcast from the atlantic called Radio Atlantic is there a supporting cast to the central play which is marriage. What's wrong with that way of seeing the world. It unnecessarily puts friendship into this really narrow place where it can't play the many kinds of roles. It might fit in a person's life. When you're talking about this the analogy of the supporting cast like I think of the tv show friends and how it ends because like some of the characters get married and move off to the suburbs and at 1 point um you know Monica kicks out her. Best friend to live with her fiance so you know even in. Popular cultural depictions of friends. They are treated as peripheral and you know you're waiting for the spouse to come along. Um, friendship can step in to to play these roles and I think it's especially important at a time when when a lot of people aren't getting married or they're getting married later in life or they outlive their spouse I mean what do we do with that like. Friendship is a kind of relationship that can provide a lot of the fulfillment that we think of as only being for romantic relationships and that I think is just too limiting. It's the way society is set up. Okay, so ah, my bestie sent me this and I thought it was an interesting topic because.

42:35.71
J. Aundrea
Is.

42:41.84
Bruce Anthony
In a way me and my bestie ah platonic friends but we are extremely extremely close and depending on each other wouldn't be the right word but kind of we're each other's ah.

42:47.00
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

42:52.70
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

42:58.19
Bruce Anthony
Not emergency contact but emergency contact in a way like when we're on bad dates. We have a secret thing that that lets the other one know and I need your help right now. Um, and I I thought about it with my relationship with her.

43:00.98
J. Aundrea
And.

43:07.77
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

43:17.30
Bruce Anthony
And when we both got married. There was a time where we weren't as close as we were and then when we got divorced we got back to the relationship the way it was and then it grew even further and then I thought about.

43:22.75
J. Aundrea
The.

43:29.83
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

43:35.13
Bruce Anthony
All the relationships I've had in my life and I've had so many platonic female friends and I have still um, platonic female friends and and I see them My besties has never done this except the times when we got married but I've seen my.

43:40.68
J. Aundrea
Um.

43:49.95
J. Aundrea
2 2 other people. Yeah.

43:53.80
Bruce Anthony
To other people to other people. But I've seen with my other female friends that are strictly platonic that when they get into relationships I hear from them less and less and less and the only thing that I eliminate from my platonic friends because once again.

43:58.34
J. Aundrea
M. Yeah.

44:11.50
Bruce Anthony
All of my female friends. They are platonic but they also understand my sense of humor. So and they have a similar sense of humor. So if there are means that are somewhat sexual I don't mean it's sexual to them I Just mean it funny in in the Grand scheme of things.

44:17.89
J. Aundrea
Um, right.

44:28.10
J. Aundrea
He he asked.

44:30.66
Bruce Anthony
But when they are with somebody out of respect for that relationship with that person I will not send them that stuff just out of respect for that gentleman because if that gentleman sees it. He's gonna be thinking who the hell is this cause not.

44:33.91
J. Aundrea
Yes.

44:48.90
J. Aundrea
You're right? yes.

44:49.98
Bruce Anthony
Not a lot of men are secure in their relationships. Um, and um, other so not a lot of men believe in platonic relationships with with females. That's something that some of my most important relationships are with females because they're the ones who really helped me evolve and grow.

44:56.71
J. Aundrea
And.

45:05.50
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

45:08.11
Bruce Anthony
So I just thought it was really interesting about how we view friendships and it seems like we push away friendships for our romantic relationships and I don't know if that should be the case.

45:23.47
J. Aundrea
Um, you know well first ah, let's normalize saying women instead of females. But and no.

45:30.37
Bruce Anthony
Ah, wait a minute I can't say females now. Okay, it's oh okay, well I thought that was better than me saying girls because I had to just get girls out of my po kind above cavy I just got that out a year ago

45:34.27
J. Aundrea
Yeah, that was outlawed a long time ago because.

45:44.56
J. Aundrea
It's okay to say women I mean men is in it I would think y'all would have gravitated toward that. Yeah.

45:50.30
Bruce Anthony
Ah, no I say when well I don't call every woman a woman because not every woman is a woman some of them are girls because they be acting young and silly.

45:59.58
J. Aundrea
Ah, well death Dress Death's neither here nor there.

46:04.16
Bruce Anthony
I Sometimes I don't call men men sometimes I call them bra or but or boy because they don't be acting like men I don't know what that means this is is a yeah yeah yeah, you could have just said insult.

46:09.70
J. Aundrea
Right? because you but because you mean it as a pejorative an insult. Okay, all right? Well you know, um I'm reminded of something. Um. German philosopher Frederick Nietzsche said that friendship is the highest form of love in it and it's so true. Um, you know back in like medieval times you had and this is true across many cultures. You know where instances where. Like men for example, would become sworn brothers and it and it was literally like a ceremony an actual ritual to become sworn brothers and then you think about you know when your kids you become blood brothers or spit brothers or something like that you know, yeah la not not everybody can do that you know, but.

46:44.81
Bruce Anthony
In.

46:54.44
Bruce Anthony
It was Spit Brothers for me because I was too scared to cut my hand. Yeah.

47:02.00
J. Aundrea
Um, and then she talk you know Rhaina Cohen in in the book talks about this shift away from these very innocent you know platonic relationships to marriage becoming. Really, what is central in our society. Yeah so previously marriage was pretty much exclusively a business contract. It was it was contract.

47:24.19
Bruce Anthony
Because Society teaches us that. Yeah.

47:34.79
Bruce Anthony
Me.

47:37.94
J. Aundrea
Between landowners to increase their well. It wasn't about 2 people being in love and wanting to be together. But when that shift came in society where marriage moves away from becoming just this kind of like economic benefit to. Um, something more romantic than the idea of you know friendships being central to people's how people get their intimate connections became less and less important in the eyes of society and she says you know the.

48:11.62
Bruce Anthony
30

48:15.62
J. Aundrea
Public recognition of friendship is almost like a provocation to the centrality of marriage and that's basically because Society is telling us that what's important is marriage. That's what's important and it devalues friendships. And she was talking about this woman who had gotten divorced and felt you know like she so she was supposed to feel empty right? You just you've lost your partner. You're supposed to feel empty. So she's going out. She's dating not recognizing.

48:41.93
Bruce Anthony
In.

48:49.84
J. Aundrea
She was already fined because she had a community of friends who were fulfilling that need for intimacy for her.

48:58.40
Bruce Anthony
Um, what type of antipacy intimacy not intimacy, but intimacy.

49:00.29
J. Aundrea
Not not these are I'm talking about friendships not tied to sex I'm not talking about friends. She's not talking about friends with benefits.

49:07.41
Bruce Anthony
Every man out here. That's listening has no clue what you're talking about.

49:12.88
J. Aundrea
A friendship not tied to sex I feel I feel that that's I feel that's yeah, well, you're thinking about you're thinking about opposite sex.

49:17.30
Bruce Anthony
Okay, let me let me rephrase that most men out here. Do not understand what you're talking about because my boys.

49:32.20
J. Aundrea
Friendship like platonic male female relationships that that's not necessarily who your bestie is you know I know guys that have more loyalty for their friends for their homies than they do for anybody else in their life.

49:46.29
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, like I mean look we heard that from boonocks homies over Ho I'll just junking i' just joking likes to I'll just joking I'm joking.

49:51.70
J. Aundrea
M.

49:57.97
J. Aundrea
But I mean but I mean I think I definitely agree with her that we kind of we need to divorce ourselves from the idea that your partner is your everything right. They're your best friend your love or your family we need because that's too much pressure on your partner and it devalues the other relationships in your life and I was thinking about this and I'm I'm like she's absolutely right? Not just from.

50:12.40
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, yeah.

50:18.59
Bruce Anthony
E.

50:29.99
J. Aundrea
Ah, you know an emotional standpoint that we don't place enough as a society enough value on friendships but also from a practical standpoint she was talking about um a woman who was there with her friend while she was going through cancer. Um, having to.

50:45.84
Bruce Anthony
It.

50:49.91
J. Aundrea
Lie to the hospital and say she was a relative because otherwise you might not get in to see your friend you know, um there are friends who own homes together raise children together that don't have any say so in in.

50:53.89
Bruce Anthony
There being here. The.

51:07.60
J. Aundrea
End of life choices or and and that could be the closest person to your life like that woman taking care of a friend. She doesn't get ah protection under family medical leave you know and I remember um my best friend.

51:11.96
Bruce Anthony
A.

51:19.11
Bruce Anthony
You right? you right.

51:26.10
J. Aundrea
When she had my godson he was in the nicu for some time and I had to lie and say that I was her sister so that I could be there to support them and and this is my best friend she is my sister you know in a lot of ways and.

51:31.47
Bruce Anthony
Are.

51:39.55
Bruce Anthony
You know? yeah.

51:45.46
J. Aundrea
I I thought about it too from this standpoint like even the term best friend kind of feels like a diminishment and I notice that whenever I talk about my friend I always layer adjectives to describe her like.

51:55.76
Bruce Anthony
Um, love.

52:02.30
J. Aundrea
This is my best friend. She's like my sister's my family like I've know her. She's been my best friend for more years than she hasn't like I always make sure you know what I'm saying I always make sure to add these layers not just to legitimize our relationship as like no this is.

52:11.50
Bruce Anthony
Right.

52:19.68
J. Aundrea
Really an important person in my life but also to kind of to convey the depth of that relationship so you use terms she was talking about um Rhaina Cohen in the book that people often use romantic terms to describe their best friend like.

52:20.73
Bruce Anthony
E. 3.

52:37.39
J. Aundrea
This is my soul mate or my friend crush or like things like that because it creates a through line in people's minds of like oh I understand this is not a casual acquaintance. This is somebody that you love and trust and care about and this is an actual important relationship. That I should place some value on and I have to use these this kind of terminology to get people to understand Yes, this is how important this platonic relationship the amount the the the depth of.

53:02.69
Bruce Anthony
How important this person is to me.

53:15.48
Bruce Anthony
And.

53:15.61
J. Aundrea
The connection that you have and and it's true like she was also talking about there is an attraction when it comes to friendship and it's not again, It's not tied to romantic intimacy. It's not tied to sex. It's literally just. The desire to be around someone you love and care about and I think because nowadays especially with same-sex Um friendships. There's always you know in the past it was seen.

53:33.55
Bruce Anthony
Oh.

53:51.78
J. Aundrea
Mores is this is a friendship now. It's like you have to contend with you know people questioning your sexuality and like the closeness of your relationship and so it moves into this.

53:52.31
Bruce Anthony
E.

54:09.35
J. Aundrea
Fear of like you keeping it more private now like your true feelings about your friends you keep more private now.

54:12.51
Bruce Anthony
I don't think that ah I don't think that's solely for same sex friendships matter. Of fact I think for this is gonna be interesting I'm about to go there I think for 2 heterosexual different sex people being very very close something quite people from the outside question their sexuality if y all are so close. Why aren't all together. Well we don't see each other that way we're friends. Well.

54:35.20
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, yeah.

54:43.54
J. Aundrea
Right? We're friends now.

54:49.64
Bruce Anthony
Is he gay no he loves women are you gay? No I like men I Just don't get it and and this is what I was trying to say earlier at the top. A lot of men This is going to go over their heads because a lot of men don't want no female.

55:01.40
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

55:08.69
Bruce Anthony
Don't want a woman excuse me as their friend because they don't see any they don't see any benefit to it right? There's like right.

55:09.60
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, and they would be so wrong because there's so much benefit in having um, female friendship. So.

55:22.70
Bruce Anthony
So like I said all of my female friends have helped me in my dating life right? help me in my personal life just being a better man. So I forgot what show it was but I posted a clip on Youtube talking about how you know.

55:29.58
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, so.

55:40.45
Bruce Anthony
Having female platonic friends can help you in your dating life and these are the reasons how and I made a comment of when you're platonic when you're platonic friends and you're true friends. Y'all are brutally honest to each other just like any other type of friendship you with your friends.

55:45.70
J. Aundrea
Um.

55:54.18
J. Aundrea
Um, yes, yeah, yeah, yeah.

55:59.26
Bruce Anthony
You're brutally honest with them and you'll tell them there are flaws and and tell them when they messed up or tell them what they're right right? And so this commenter on Youtube was like bro you serious you believe that they're telling you about your error about their errors and dating I don't believe that and I said well.

56:04.15
J. Aundrea
Yes.

56:18.74
Bruce Anthony
You must not have any friends and and because clearly if you had friends when they tell you a story if they're truly your friend. You're gonna have some questions in that story right? And if there if questions if the answers to the questions don't make sense. You're gonna be like a.

56:26.15
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, yes.

56:36.40
Bruce Anthony
You know you was wrong and here are the reasons why if they're truly your friend. You know you was wrong and here are the reasons why or maybe you could have done this instead So true friendships will tell you about the errors. So yes, you can learn something from your friends. No matter what sex.

56:36.44
J. Aundrea
Right? yes.

56:43.78
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, yes, yeah.

56:54.94
Bruce Anthony
They are if they're truly your friends and I look at my boys. You know when we introduce each other to new people we introduce each other hey this is one of my main boys. It's always main. We always say this is one of my main boys. That's my brother.

57:01.30
J. Aundrea
M.

57:06.58
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, and again, it's that layering so that like this is my main.

57:14.22
Bruce Anthony
Known them for this this long. That's how we introduce people That's how they know where they.

57:22.90
J. Aundrea
This is my brother. We've known each other for this long like so that you could get people to understand This is not a casual friendship. This is somebody important in my life that are that was here before you got here and we'll be here when you are long gone.

57:28.75
Bruce Anthony
Right.

57:35.92
Bruce Anthony
And we'll be here at and that's important in relationships I make it a point anytime my bestie gets into a relationship I make it a point to go and meet that man for several reasons one.

57:42.88
J. Aundrea
And.

57:48.84
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah.

57:55.13
Bruce Anthony
I need to meet him and make sure that he's gonna take care of my homie. That's first and foremost number two I need to meet him to reassure him I'm just a friend I'm just a friend right? Yeah, not not not that way not in that way that I'm just a friend.

57:55.33
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Right? I'm just a friend and not in the way that bismarquee was but because not that yeah.

58:15.30
Bruce Anthony
And I'm just afraid so I make that point and I make that point to introduce her like I tell every woman I'm dating. You know my best friend is a female. She's not going anywhere.

58:24.12
J. Aundrea
Yeah, and and ah she told a story in the book and it was a woman who was in a long-term relationship and her boyfriend felt threatened by the closeness. Of her and her best friend and so he would start disparaging her and and it it put a strain on her friendship that relationship's over she gets into a new one and she lets him know off Rip. This is my best friend. This is my day one.

58:52.69
Bruce Anthony
A.

58:57.70
J. Aundrea
She was here before you she'll be here after she is my number one in my priority period get in where you fit in and it it. It's like how many times have people straight up lied to an officcient and their family and friends getting up there.

59:02.40
Bruce Anthony
You need to get in where you fit in right.

59:16.47
J. Aundrea
In front of all the people that you know and love and say I'm marrying my best friend Meanwhile your best friend is standing behind you holding your bouquet about to hand you the ring. Okay I'm not gonna tell that lie. Yeah.

59:27.99
Bruce Anthony
I Because that's a cliche that's a cliche that you want your partner that you're gonna build a family with continue on in life with supposedly to Deaf. Do you part?? um to be your best friend. And in some ways sometimes as the only person on this particular podcast right now that's actually been married I can say that my ex-wife for a long period of time was my best friend now was she my best friend.

59:48.20
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

01:00:01.15
Bruce Anthony
Because I pushed all other friendships to the side so she became the singular focus. Um, but maybe probably I don't know. Yeah.

01:00:01.86
J. Aundrea
Right? right? Probably I think I think people get confused with my partner is my friend and my confidant and the person I spend the most time with.

01:00:18.21
Bruce Anthony
Right.

01:00:21.84
J. Aundrea
But they are not your best friend. You got a best friend. It's been that there's been your homie so seventh grade. That's be your day one. That's your best friend but she said something and it really hit home for me. She said what would it feel like.

01:00:26.83
Bruce Anthony
Right? right.

01:00:41.63
J. Aundrea
To have the most important person in your life be invisible by society and I think there is a shift happening though because people are choosing to get married later or not at all.

01:00:51.17
Bruce Anthony
Um, oh.

01:00:57.31
J. Aundrea
Or just choosing to couple for economic reasons right? because it's hard out here. Listen it's it's expensive to be single right? Um, and so I think there is a resurgence of friendship like ah a resurgence of people finding.

01:01:00.16
Bruce Anthony
Look That's the rich. That's what I'm trying to do right now. Yes, that's what I'm trying to do I'm trying to couple right now for these expenses.

01:01:16.99
J. Aundrea
Chosen family and community because they can fill a lot of they can fulfill a lot of those needs that you think you're supposed to get from your partner Now your partner is is is just your romantic partner.

01:01:33.87
Bruce Anthony
Then it could be your friend as well.

01:01:35.70
J. Aundrea
Like I don't want to devalue. Yeah I mean but like they don't have to be all things to you that that's too much. It's not healthy.

01:01:40.96
Bruce Anthony
Right? That's the that's the main point your partner doesn't have. It's not healthy to put all of that pressure and I would say the the marriages that have lasted that I've seen have made an emphasis on having friends.

01:01:53.87
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, yes, it's so important. Ah, just so that you don't end up becoming just a spouse and a parent.

01:01:58.13
Bruce Anthony
That they go and do stuff with yeah.

01:02:08.70
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, who that that I that I feel like yeah that I feel like is where people end up hating each other in marriages where you just a spouse and a parent and that's your life. Um, because that's not.

01:02:09.83
J. Aundrea
And losing your identity.

01:02:16.84
J. Aundrea
And.

01:02:24.40
Bruce Anthony
Completely fulfilling. Not to say the kids and your loved ones are not fulfilling but there's not a completeness to this and you need to have so outside. Yeah yes, absolutely ah ladies and gentlemen we were going to get to. Ah.

01:02:29.20
J. Aundrea
You have to be complete within yourself. Yeah, you. I Think we can still I think we could quickly.

01:02:42.57
Bruce Anthony
No because I had to play the video and no I could just give us synopsis I could just give us a not let's give them a look. Let's give him a little taste. Let's get him a little taste so there was this video on Instagram going around where this woman was in vegas and there was a bachelor party.

01:02:43.91
J. Aundrea
You know what? guess what guys after hours tune in.

01:03:02.20
Bruce Anthony
Was also in vegas where supposedly the groom had cheated not with her but with somebody that she knew so she went on Instagram and she described the people. Um, she had to clarify the date because she messed up the date in the video but she described the people and said hey look.

01:03:09.42
J. Aundrea
Um, ah.

01:03:18.10
Bruce Anthony
If you're marrying this person just lets you know that he was out here in Vegas doing dirt he was with they was wearing this he was doing this. He's supposed to get married hint then and she just blasted it all out on the internet and I was thinking there were there were questions that was asking.

01:03:20.34
J. Aundrea
So.

01:03:28.61
J. Aundrea
Ah.

01:03:36.77
J. Aundrea
Right? good.

01:03:36.89
Bruce Anthony
Is this cool or is this not cool I don't know how I feel about it I Guess I guess because it don't pertain to me at all I don't care but I wanted to put myself in it to be like how would I feel and I think I'm I'm self-aware enough to know that if. I was the groom and doing something like that and I got caught because somebody did that initially I'm gonna be pissed at that person. But after my marriage is over after some time has passed I know me I would say that was karma because I'm a strong believer in karma.

01:03:56.98
J. Aundrea
Um.

01:04:08.27
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

01:04:12.70
Bruce Anthony
Ah, that's the only witchcraft I believe in it's karma. Ah, um, so I it's witchcraft. Ah, it's not witchcraft I Just talk about Yeah I call witchcraft like astrology astrology and and all that I call that on stuff. Witchcraft.

01:04:14.57
J. Aundrea
So not not witchcraft, but okay is yeah.

01:04:24.30
J. Aundrea
Yeah, no I get it I do it? yeah.

01:04:28.99
Bruce Anthony
Ah, but yes, it's clear to to let me put that out for the audience I'm not this I don't really truly believe his witchcraft but I a strong believer in Karma and and later I can say to myself. Yeah, you know what I deserve that one so that but initially no I would be livid.

01:04:35.48
J. Aundrea
Um.

01:04:40.19
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

01:04:46.61
J. Aundrea
Well yeah, ah the person who did dirt having that dirt exposed on the internet probably is a little pissed off about it. But here's the thing I think she did the right thing you looked out for old girl but you even you even you don't even know her. But.

01:04:55.77
Bruce Anthony
Um, get ah.

01:05:04.77
J. Aundrea
Girl code a sits just to let you know I saw some thanks and I feel like you should know.

01:05:11.48
Bruce Anthony
My thing is this and I'm gonna get killed for this I know I am I'm going to get killed from women from this. My thing is this if it was done before the marriage you end the clear as long as he didn't do it after he said I do he's fine.

01:05:23.88
J. Aundrea
No no, that's not, you're in a relationship. No no, no no, the relationship does not start.

01:05:31.45
Bruce Anthony
And because what if he was just what if he was just saying this my last Hurrah I'm about to be with one woman for the rest This is true. This is.

01:05:42.10
J. Aundrea
When you say I do In fact, the period between when you ask will you marry me and when you say I do is literally the most important time in that relationship because you all are transitioning into your forever. Okay, so you're your yeah you.

01:05:59.80
Bruce Anthony
I Know that now I ah with sometimes hopefully you should be yeah.

01:06:01.30
J. Aundrea
You're doing marriage counseling. You're ah you're yeah you should be. You should be Yeah, you know you're literally trying to get things aligned in an order to prepare for being a spouse. It's the most pivotal crucial important time. It's not the last Ara time.

01:06:14.36
Bruce Anthony
Yes.

01:06:19.73
Bruce Anthony
What the whole time before I met you hold on I I'm not talking as Bruce Anthony now I'm talking about a young Bruce Anthony in his twenty s Bruce Anthony now

01:06:20.77
J. Aundrea
The last ah time was before you met me the last Hurrah was before you met me period.

01:06:37.76
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, yes, you not trying to boldly go where no man's gone before.

01:06:38.99
Bruce Anthony
Too tired in my ad my allgies is is is making me sneeze and cough all the time I don't want to be bothered now there we go take another shot. No I'm not trying to do that. But but okay, so yes, yes, I. I Don't think that what she did was in poor taste and you should have seen the comments the comments from from women. Yes I I believe in her from mid Nouse She shouldn't have said that and men have this stupid code where we don't snitch on other men.

01:07:01.76
J. Aundrea
I Did I read them.

01:07:09.57
J. Aundrea
Threat.

01:07:16.48
Bruce Anthony
Even when even when our connection isn't with that man is with that woman I know I've been there I've had really close female friends that I knew their man was cheating on them and I didn't say anything this I'm talking younger Bruce Younger I didn't say anything to them not to break the guy coat.

01:07:20.37
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah.

01:07:26.29
J. Aundrea
M.

01:07:33.20
J. Aundrea
Um, yeah, right? And that's just not understanding. What friendship is.

01:07:35.63
Bruce Anthony
Who's my loyalty to my loyalty was to her not to him. You see how we brought that full circle that see that was supposed to be the first and the last segment but we went so long daily daddling that we just had to bring it all together in the final segment. It worked out. J.

01:07:45.83
J. Aundrea
Are you.

01:07:54.88
J. Aundrea
And guess what it worked out y'all stop lying to your friends and your family and saying that you marry your best friend while your best friend is standing right? Beside you. It's literally called best man and maid of honor matron of honor.

01:08:01.00
Bruce Anthony
But you want to tell the people out there.

01:08:11.28
Bruce Anthony
Okay, if.

01:08:14.21
J. Aundrea
It's that they're literally a person of honor they're standing right next to you don't don't disrespect that friendship like that. That's all I could say about that.

01:08:23.41
Bruce Anthony
Yeah, some of my friends when I had my little birthday celebration last summer Some of my friends legitimately some people I thought were my friends or they were my friends but they thought that they were closer to me.

01:08:28.74
J. Aundrea
M.

01:08:41.97
Bruce Anthony
Then then what actually was the case um realize how close me and my best you were and literally got jealous and some of the friendships just haven't been the same since and that's that's crazy because like I tell people all the time people that listen to the show. No.

01:08:44.12
J. Aundrea
Ah.

01:08:50.50
J. Aundrea
Yeah, yeah.

01:08:59.40
J. Aundrea
Yeah.

01:09:00.00
Bruce Anthony
Bruce got a female bestie she listening right? now you know who you are I'm a see you in a couple of days because we're gonna hang out. Ah, even though you're being sober right now I don't know how I feel about that. But you live your best life. You feel good about that and I'm not gonna discours it. Yeah I tell lot you know I get drunk for the both of us Ai nt no thing.

01:09:10.41
J. Aundrea
Yeah, you support you support your friends. Yeah.

01:09:18.53
Bruce Anthony
Ah, ladies and gentlemen. Thank you for listening. Thank you for watching? Thank you for supporting and means so much to us until next time as always our holler.