DIY Disasters, JD Vance & Fake Friends

DIY Disasters, JD Vance & Fake Friends
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Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives
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Bruce Anthony: Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is unsolicited perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation to follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts, subscribe to our YouTube channel to watch our video podcast rate review, like comment, share, share with your friends, share with your family.

Bruce Anthony: Hell. Even share with your enemies on today's episode. 

Sibling Happy Hour Begins
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Bruce Anthony: It's a 

Bruce Anthony: sibling happy hour. I'm here with my sis J Andrea. We're going to be dilly dallying a little bit. Then we're going to be talking about JD Vance and then we're going to be talking about fake friends, but that's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show. 

Bruce Anthony: What else is

J. Aundrea: What up, brother.

Bruce Anthony: I can't call it. I [00:01:00] can't call it. I can't call it. I One take. One take Bruce. That's that's, that's what I do now.

J. Aundrea: That's it.

Bruce Anthony: That's what I do. I mean, I've been thinking about it. I've been doing that intro

Bruce Anthony: for at least six to eight months,

Bruce Anthony: so

J. Aundrea: If you

J. Aundrea: don't have it by this point,

Bruce Anthony: Right. The what are you doing? the only thing that changes is on today's episode.

Bruce Anthony: That's the only thing that changes so I do, have to emphasize Enemy

J. Aundrea: yeah.

Bruce's Home Improvement Adventures
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Bruce Anthony: I almost died yesterday.

J. Aundrea: Uh, how did you almost die yesterday?

Bruce Anthony: So you know this, but the audience doesn't know this, that I've redesigned my place. I've got new artwork

J. Aundrea: Yes. 

Bruce Anthony: I am fixated 

Bruce Anthony: on 

J. Aundrea: Trey chic. 

Bruce Anthony: Right, right, right. It is very, I'm trying to, I'll get to, I'll get to what it is. Let me explain the story of me almost dying. So I've become fascinated [00:02:00] with, you know, lights on top of the pictures to illuminate the 

Bruce Anthony: picture, especially at 

J. Aundrea: Portrait lights. Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Thank you. Portrait lights. You know, I ain't that cultured, you 

J. Aundrea: You said you described it very well to the point where I said, Oh, he meant. Portrait lights because you were like the light above the picture that shines down to illuminate like you said illuminate So that let me know he's talking about a portrait light.

Bruce Anthony: I mean, I could be descriptive. Just 

Bruce Anthony: don't ask me what anything specifically is named. Cause I ain't going to be able to tell you.

J. Aundrea: Well, you'll describe it well enough that there'll be no doubt

Bruce Anthony: Right. um, I also put new lamps on the main wall right next to my main painting. And they are, they can kind of transition the legs of the, of the lights move to create different angles that the lights can be on the wall.

J. Aundrea: Okay

Bruce Anthony: I [00:03:00] tried to put the lights on the wall using gorilla double sided tape. And it didn't stick.

J. Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: The lights aren't that heavy. They're only about three pounds. But it didn't, it didn't work because the lights are kind of built weird. Okay, So it just wouldn't lay a flush on the wall.

J. Aundrea: right.

Bruce Anthony: So one of my friends is really good at contracting and stuff like that and building and stuff like that. Kind of similar to our brother.

J. Aundrea: Okay

Bruce Anthony: I'm talking to him trying to get some expertise of how I can put these lights on the wall without using the screws that they came with because I put a bunch of holes in my wall.

J. Aundrea: That's fair. Okay. Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: And an insta hang, which was a thing back in the day, isn't really a thing anymore. Okay.

J. Aundrea: No.

Bruce Anthony: So he was like, use these thumbtacks.

Bruce Anthony: These, like, they're long thumbtacks you can kind of push in instead of the screws.

Bruce Anthony: Um, since you don't want to screw in the wall. I was like, okay, I'll try [00:04:00] that. Bought these thumbtacks, they didn't work. So I had to use the screws. So I'm sitting there measuring it out.

Bruce Anthony: Trying to get everything situated. And the lights came out okay.

J. Aundrea: Oh, okay. Oh, okay. Because the, because that's not your forte. Like putting things together, building things. That's, I was that. I thought that was gonna be the story.

Bruce Anthony: Oh, well, I did not. Well, eventually, I do have some extra holes on the wall because I put the lights upside down, That's, there it goes. There we go. I was waiting for that part.

Bruce Anthony: but that's not where I almost. Yeah, no, that's not where I almost died. okay. So where I died was I got a new painting and light that I put up on another wall and I was putting it up yesterday. They finally came in and I'm like, I got to put it up immediately because I'm just excited.

J. Aundrea: Yes. Yes,

Bruce Anthony: So I put up the painting, and then I realized I don't have [00:05:00] a leveler.

Bruce Anthony: And I remember one of my friends saying, Your phone has a leveler. Well, I couldn't find it. So I downloaded an app. The app didn't work. You had to pay for it. So I downloaded another app, got the leveler. So I put the picture up on the wall, right.

Bruce Anthony: When I step back though, it didn't look like it was level. So I kept putting my phone up there to make sure it was level.

Bruce Anthony: And it said it was level, but to the eye, it looks like a little crooked, but my eyesight is starting to get bad. Cause I'm getting older. That's not where I almost, I don't know how, like, how good your phone is as a level, as

J. Aundrea: opposed to an actual leveler.

Bruce Anthony: Well, no, these, I mean, it, it worked, if it looked crooked,

J. Aundrea: did it?

Bruce Anthony: it, I, I, I, don't know. When I send you the video, you'll tell me. I'm sure you'll tell me. So I put, I put, the portrait light above it,

J. Aundrea: Mm.

Bruce Anthony: and since I already screwed in the other lights on the wall, I said, forget this gorilla [00:06:00] glue.

Bruce Anthony: I'm just gonna screw it in.

Bruce Anthony: But it is taller than me. Right. I can't just stand on the ground and reach up there and I'm pretty tall. So I give me a little, one of the, uh, storage ottomans that I have, cause I don't have a step ladder.

J. Aundrea: Nope. Nope.

Bruce Anthony: I get the storage out of it.

Bruce Anthony: And I, and I set it up in front of the painting, the picture, then I got the light and I'm measuring it out.

Bruce Anthony: And I'm like, okay, this is where I'm going to put it. I step up on the ottoman. It immediately falls over and I went to the side. I catch myself. But I do a double jump on my left leg and my knee been hurting all since then. Since then my knee's been hurting. The light is up. Now that's definitely crooked.

Bruce Anthony: But, but I'm not putting no holes in the wall. That is what it is.

J. Aundrea: That, um, that's, listen, the little storage ottomans, they are not meant to take your full weight. That's not what they're for. At all. [00:07:00] At all. Not only that, it's hollow inside because it's a storage ottoman.

J. Aundrea: It's not, Some pillows Soon as you said, and I know what ottomans you're talking about. Esa, I know he done step up on that, put his full weight on that damn little, little square ottoman. That little cube you got?

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, the little cube I That's what you talking about?

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, that's exactly what I'm talking about. Well, you know what though? you wrong. Because after I checked on my knee. And realize that I'm going to be all right. It was just going to be a little painful. I got my ass right back up on that Ottoman and, it,

J. Aundrea: you

Bruce Anthony: and screwed in the light that screwed.

Bruce Anthony: Hey, look. And the second time I made sure that I stepped on it in the middle, as opposed to towards the edge, which is what I did the first time. But it's up! All the lights except for one. One more is coming in on Saturday. And everything else is up and they're done. But now I got holes in the wall all over.

J. Aundrea: Well, you can, you can [00:08:00] patch those holes. It's fine.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, not me. I'm gonna have to pay somebody to do it.

J. Aundrea: Why can't you do it?

Bruce Anthony: Um, I just feel like it's gonna go awry.

J. Aundrea: It, it won't. It's literally, it's literally like a, like a paste or a caulk and it's for filling in portrait holes and you just fill it in, smooth it out. That's it. That's all you got to do.

Bruce Anthony: Nah, I'm pretty sure I'm gonna screw that up.

J. Aundrea: I forgot who I was talking

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, I'm pretty sure I'm gonna screw that up. Don't, don't, let's not even get started on my fireplace that if I ever move, uh, it's going to fall apart because I got one of those electric fireplaces. And when I built it, I was like, this ain't sturdy.

J. Aundrea: It should be

Bruce Anthony: It's not. It is not.

J. Aundrea: not your forte. It's

Bruce Anthony: No, It's

Bruce Anthony: not.

J. Aundrea: no.

J. Aundrea: And I dunno why. There's directions, do you not

Bruce Anthony: The directions, [00:09:00] there must be something that goes on in my brain.

Bruce Anthony: Did you write? Well, I had problems with, I was really good at math, but. I struggled mightily with geometry.

J. Aundrea: Okay.

Bruce Anthony: So there's something about shapes and space and spatial awareness. Cause even when I played football and basketball, if it was at a distance, oh, I could hit you right on the button.

Bruce Anthony: If you was crossing right in front of me for five yards, I would throw that ball way out the way. So it's something going on there. I don't know what it is. And I get. Instructions, see a doctor.

Bruce Anthony: but they said I had beyond 20, 20 vision. They said, Oh, you have 18, 20 vision or something like that.

Bruce Anthony: And I 20, 20 vision. They said, no, this is better better Yes,

Bruce Anthony: was like, Oh, 

J. Aundrea: are 20 feet away look like they're 18 feet away. That's better.

Bruce Anthony: well, yeah, but that's the problem. They look like the 18 feet away, but they really [00:10:00] 20 feet away.

J. Aundrea: No, no, it doesn't. I'm not talking about your depth perception. I

J. Aundrea: mean, it looks, it's as sharp as something would be at 18 feet

Bruce Anthony: and I'm telling you my depth perception is jacked up somehow 

Bruce Anthony: some way Okay, 

J. Aundrea: Could be an inner ear thing. I don't know. I'm not a physician, but I hope

Bruce Anthony: Somebody in the YouTube comms to tell 

Bruce Anthony: you.

Bruce Anthony: but them them instructions I get instruction the first what was it that I built Oh, it was my little tick tock coffee table that you've seen 

J. Aundrea: Yes, I saw it. 

Bruce Anthony: And it's not that big of a deal, but I got the booklet and it was five pages. I had taken everything out of the box before I looked at the instructions.

Bruce Anthony: I looked at the instructions, it said five pages. I put everything back in the box and said, I'm not going to deal with that today.

J. Aundrea: For five pages, it's not bad.

Bruce Anthony: No, it just looked like a lot. It was a lot of this, this, this [00:11:00] part, this piece A goes into this part, uh, three and three A goes into BC. What is this before Christ?

J. Aundrea: I

Bruce Anthony: I don't know what this is.

J. Aundrea: don't know what to tell you, but

J. Aundrea: you just take your time, one thing at a time. You slowly

J. Aundrea: work your way up to it,

J. Aundrea: and the next thing you know, you're finished.

Michael Ealy, Megan Good, and Jonathan Majors Drama
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Bruce Anthony: well, you know, speaking of something that I hope is finished, I hope this whole black Twitter controversy of Michael E. Lee, Megan Good, and, and Jonathan Majors is over.

J. Aundrea: I hope it never ends. I love it. Like, I've been sending people pictures of Michael Ealy and saying if I send you this, you know what type of time I'm on.

Bruce Anthony: Ladies and gentlemen, if y'all don't know what we're talking about, Michael Ealy is an actor, Megan Goode is an actor, Jonathan Majors is an actor, [00:12:00] and Jonathan Majors and Megan Goode are a couple. They're an 

Bruce Anthony: item. And Michael Ealy and Megan Goode had done Think Like a Man and Think Like a Man 2 together.

Bruce Anthony: They've done movies 

Bruce Anthony: together. And they were at some red carpet party. Award ceremony. They was outside and Michael Ealy goes up to Megan Good lifts her up off the ground hug. And she's just hugging him with joy. And all you do is see Jonathan majors in the distance. Like, this is what we're really doing.

Bruce Anthony: Like, you 

J. Aundrea: Well, no, he's trying his hardest to look unbothered.

J. Aundrea: Like, he's looking at everything, looking down a little pamphlet, adjusting his hat. Like, he's doing everything to not look at them and to seem unbothered. That he looks nothing but bothered and it's so obvious and hilarious. Now, Megan has said before he hugged her, [00:13:00] he daft up Jonathan.

J. Aundrea: They were speaking life into each other, all of that stuff. But that part was cut out.

Bruce Anthony: hell is speaking life into each other. 

J. Aundrea: Just, you know, brother, I'm proud of you. And there, you know, probably telling Jonathan, everything's going to work out eventually, brother. I don't know. I don't know what he could have

Bruce Anthony: okay. Doing, doing, doing black

J. Aundrea: Doing a black greeting.

J. Aundrea: Yes. a

J. Aundrea: black greeting.

J. Aundrea: was like, see you King. You're doing it. All right. You out here. All right. I'm proud of you. Like that kind of thing

Bruce Anthony: I'm just trying to be like you. 

J. Aundrea: I'm trying to be like Yeah. So apparently that happened first. And then he went, but honestly, their body language and their positions, I don't know how he, he came up to him. How did Michael come up to Jonathan first?

Bruce Anthony: Okay.

J. Aundrea: she's standing up, but it looked like he ran straight to her, so I

J. Aundrea: don't. 

Bruce Anthony: if y'all have [00:14:00] never seen this video, just Google search Michael Ely, Megan, good hug. 

Bruce Anthony: you will find it. 

Bruce Anthony: and y'all will know what we're talking about. And, and even if he did dap him up,

Bruce Anthony: it's the fact that he grabbed this woman.

Bruce Anthony: Lifted her all in the air, 

Bruce Anthony: her legs, not only did he lift her in the air, Megan's good legs bent.

Bruce Anthony: In other words, he kicked her 

Bruce Anthony: heels off 

J. Aundrea: She kicked her

J. Aundrea: heels 

Bruce Anthony: leaned into the hug,

J. Aundrea: And it's just how awkward. First of all, Jonathan Majors as he is want to do looks like a hobo and he's, he's dressed like a professional hobo. And he just looks, it's like, he's, his eyes are looking everywhere, but the two of them, he's like, I don't see this. I'm looking, I'm unbothered.

J. Aundrea: I'm unbothered. It's the worst acting he's ever done because he looks so bothered.

Bruce Anthony: but then But then as he's looking down cleaning his [00:15:00] glasses and black Twitter, thank you. They zoomed in on the video where he picks his eyes up looking at them still hugging and he kind of does this little face and then still pretends like he's cleaning his glasses. He is absolutely 100 percent bothered and you know what he did afterwards, right?

J. Aundrea: What was that?

Bruce Anthony: He gave her a civil rights lecture 

Bruce Anthony: on why

Bruce Anthony: he would Coretta

Bruce Anthony: Scott would have never had done that.

J. Aundrea: yes, he definitely invoked Coretta's name again, even though we have told him time and time again to stop and to keep her name out of his mouth, you know, he did, you know, he brought up Coretta again,

J. Aundrea: and she had to sit while he sat in one of them straw Huey P. Newton chairs, and she had to sit and listen to him, listen

J. Aundrea: to him lecture her.

Bruce Anthony: ladies and gentlemen, if y'all don't know what the Huey P. Newton chair is, just [00:16:00] Google it. 

Bruce Anthony: Okay, so did you get 

J. Aundrea: you if you black, you know what it is because everybody's grandparents also had one. So,

Bruce Anthony: That's, that's what Huey, Huey was like, Hey, y'all got a grandma chair in here?

Bruce Anthony: That's what he was when he was sitting 

J. Aundrea: wicker, them big wicker thrones, gon bring it in the air.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, 

Bruce Anthony: he, he showing us was sitting 

Bruce Anthony: in a Huey P. Newton throne chair,

Bruce Anthony: lecturing her about civil rights

Bruce Anthony: and Coretta Scott and told her, Hey, look, you need to tell the people out there. We are happy together. And then he dap me up, but he didn't dap you up. Look, you just need to Tell them out there, but there is

Bruce Anthony: a video.

Bruce Anthony: There is a video out there. I really give him the hug and 

Bruce Anthony: everything like that. I didn't see it, but 

Bruce Anthony: some people, people 

J. Aundrea: it. 

Bruce Anthony: did you 

J. Aundrea: fact that after he puts her down, okay? He goes and daps up [00:17:00] everybody else, walking completely past. Jonathan Majors.

Bruce Anthony: But that's because he already dapped him up before.

J. Aundrea: it, but again, like the positioning of everybody, it looks like the next stop would be Jonathan, but he walks right past him, daps everybody else. And it just is like, okay, where were they standing? Where he got to Jonathan first. 

Bruce Anthony: He probably walked in He probably walked in and went immediately to Jonathan.

J. Aundrea: Okay.

Bruce Anthony: the other people kind of. What's the word? Coalesced around after Michael E. Lee entered the scene.

J. Aundrea: Oh, alas.

Bruce Anthony: Coalesced. Well, I knew I was close.

J. Aundrea: You

J. Aundrea: were close.

J. Aundrea: You just forgot that L. Co e s.

Bruce Anthony: Look, 

Bruce Anthony: I'm not a great order, okay? I 

J. Aundrea: alright.

Bruce Anthony: mean, you know, 

J. Aundrea: At least you got order, right?

Bruce Anthony: Say what?

J. Aundrea: At least you got order, right?

Bruce Anthony: I, I, cause I've been saying that word a lot lately cause I've been telling people how much [00:18:00] of a non order I actually am.

J. Aundrea: Now, I don't know if non orders is

J. Aundrea: something. 

Bruce Anthony: Shut 

Bruce Anthony: up, you damn linguist!

J. Aundrea: I don't know about that. Um, but, sure. Let's

J. Aundrea: go with 

Bruce Anthony: your guts. Alright, before we get out of this Deadly Data segment, I got one more story to tell about how I'm getting older and confused. This is, 

J. Aundrea: Now this is

J. Aundrea: separate from the cell phone incident where you couldn't, you couldn't FaceTime properly.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, this is separate. 

Bruce Anthony: And I did that again recently. I did that with you.

J. Aundrea: Jesus.

Bruce Anthony: I did that with you the other day, trying to show you the picture. 

Bruce Anthony: I had a hard time flipping the camera around. No, this is different. So my gym has been bought out by another gym,

Bruce Anthony: right? And so they're switching all the memberships.

Bruce Anthony: I had lost my key card a while ago and they told me, no, it fell off my key chain and I still had it. And I was like, Hey, I need a new key card. They was [00:19:00] like, just take a picture of it and use that as your scanner. I was like, Oh, I can do that. Can I? And then they were like, yeah, just save it in your favorites.

Bruce Anthony: I was like, how do you do that? I was like, I know how to hide photos, but I don't know how to

J. Aundrea: Of course you do. Well, if you can hide them, you can favorite them.

Bruce Anthony: so I figured that out. 

Bruce Anthony: That that's not, that is another part of why I was getting older, but so they're telling me how to change over since it's a new company, how to get the new scan card.

Bruce Anthony: And they were like, okay, so you have to download the app. And when you download the app, we'll send you an email and there'll be instructions on how And I said, why do I have to download the app?

Bruce Anthony: And they were like, well, because your, your membership card will actually be on the app. So you can just bring it in and scan it. I was like, well, that is convenient. I was like, I got to download an app. They were like, it's really easy. I was like, look, hold up. I, I know technology. Okay. I know how to download an app and do all this stuff.

Bruce Anthony: Don't talk to me like that. So they [00:20:00] send me the email.

Bruce Anthony: I download the app and going through the instructions. The first instruction is like, take this code that we 

J. Aundrea: boy. That's not your strong suit.

Bruce Anthony: it's a create account. Okay, create account said, take this code that we just sent you and use that code to continue on creating account.

Bruce Anthony: I said, okay, did it. Then it said. Use the first five numbers of your billing in this next part. And I said, okay, um, you lost me on that one. First five numbers, first five digits on my billing. I was like, Oh, maybe they met my old key card. Let me use the, the, the first five digits where it's all 

J. Aundrea: What's now, now is a key card billing.

Bruce Anthony: said your billing account. That's all it said was billing account.

J. Aundrea: Okay.

Bruce Anthony: All right. 

J. Aundrea: So you

J. Aundrea: go to the first 

Bruce Anthony: I figure 

J. Aundrea: just popped in your[00:21:00] 

Bruce Anthony: the key card, right? Then I try to use that. What do you think it is?

J. Aundrea: billing, I would think. Uh, billing address. Billing zip code.

Bruce Anthony: I tried the zip code. 

Bruce Anthony: Zip code didn't work. Tried the old zip code Zip code didn't work. I tried my address, but my address only has four numbers. Tried that. That didn't work. 

Bruce Anthony: So where would you go to next?

J. Aundrea: My account number, 'cause that would be my billing.

Bruce Anthony: So I, the account number is the scan card 

Bruce Anthony: code. All right. So I tried my old one and I tried my new one 

Bruce Anthony: because it has five digits in there. 

Bruce Anthony: That didn't work. So I'm like, all right. I know, I know I have intelligence.

J. Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Why isn't this working for me?

Bruce Anthony: I said, you know what? I'm just going to ask the front desk tomorrow.

Bruce Anthony: I'm just going to figure it out.

J. Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: They're going to help me figure it out. So I go to the front desk today and I said, it says [00:22:00] five digits for billing, but I don't, what five digits is he talking about? Cause I didn't use all the, from your, from the card on file. I said, well, why doesn't it say the five digits 

Bruce Anthony: from the 

J. Aundrea: my next, that was my next thought. Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: I had to look it up. Luckily, luckily they had, they had which card it was. Cause I don't know which card it was. I got a 

J. Aundrea: Yeah. 

Bruce Anthony: So I, and then I punched in that and then, and then it worked, but I was just like, this should be simple.

J. Aundrea: that,

J. Aundrea: that, that, that was just bad. I don't think that that's not on you. That was cause even I guessed at it about four times. Like, you know what I'm saying? So that's not you. That was just a poorly worded.

Bruce Anthony: And I almost threw my damn phone when they kept telling me wrong, wrong number, 

Bruce Anthony: wrong number, because I kept entering in all these numbers. I almost threw my phone,

J. Aundrea: cuz you got about one or two more times to tell me my, my password is wrong or I didn't enter it in the wrong number before I'm just gonna throw you, send you across the [00:23:00] room. You got about one, two more times before you tell me that this is not my password, because yes it is.

Bruce Anthony: but honestly, where I say I'm getting old is I just, I don't want to use a digital card. I want a physical. Card that I could put on my keychain that I could just

J. Aundrea: start coming off.

Bruce Anthony: That's what happened the lamination came off and 

Bruce Anthony: fell off my key plate, but you know what just give me a new one I'm, i'm old 

Bruce Anthony: school. Give me the little thing 

J. Aundrea: it's safe in your phone.

Bruce Anthony: Nah, I don't I don't like it Cause let me forget my password for this account.

Bruce Anthony: Let me forget it one time.

J. Aundrea: Yeah. Well, the truth, uh, truthfully, uh, truthfully, I like, um, physical books. I don't like ebooks. I don't like reading on my iPad. I don't, I don't, I like to hold a physical book to read. So that's okay. So that I get it. I get

J. Aundrea: it. 

Bruce Anthony: you know,

Bruce Anthony: young kids, do they know what books are or do they only know Kindles and iPads?

J. Aundrea: I, [00:24:00] you know what? Actually, I don't know.

Bruce Anthony: Hey parents out there, do kids actually 

J. Aundrea: Do kids 

Bruce Anthony: Or do kids know books?

J. Aundrea: Or is everything electronic? Are there still textbooks? Like, it's for school? Like,

J. Aundrea: or 

Bruce Anthony: they still, I 

Bruce Anthony: actually, 

J. Aundrea: electronic? I don't know. Do Hey, everybody out there, do kids know books? Are books still a Do

J. Aundrea: kids know anything about it?

Bruce Anthony: DVDs and blu rays ain't a thing?

J. Aundrea: No, they don't know anything about a, uh, what is this? Not a scantron. That laser disc. They don't know nothing about scantron.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, I was just gonna say, they don't know anything about 

J. Aundrea: laser disc. They don't know nothing about, I was actually talking to somebody about this earlier, that damn overhead projector, with that little film, and they were right on the little film and the glass,

Bruce Anthony: Scantron! [00:25:00] No, a scantron was the little 

J. Aundrea: Scantron's a test bubble. They still use that. I think they still use

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, you gotta use those. Yeah.

J. Aundrea: No, you know what? I think they take the SAT and stuff on the computer now. I think stuff is on the computer. I don't think that do kids know paper?

Bruce Anthony: Well, if it's on a computer, that means they can get their score immediately.

J. Aundrea: Yeah, do kids know paper.

J. Aundrea: in it's different forms.

J. Aundrea: No, no, notebooks, books, like, do kids know

Bruce Anthony: Do kids know trapper keepers?

J. Aundrea: Do they know trapezius? No, I don't know. 

Bruce Anthony: Do kids know pencils? 

J. Aundrea: do they know pencils?

Bruce Anthony: I don't, I'm sure they do. They definitely know crayons.

J. Aundrea: They do no crayons. Those are never going to go out of style. Crayola, all of them, that's never, you're always going to find some markers or some colored

J. Aundrea: pencils or something. Yeah, that's never going to go out of style. Even though they do a lot of it on their tablets [00:26:00] and stuff now too.

Bruce Anthony: That is true.

J. Aundrea: Digital art is a thing.

J. Aundrea: Oh man, this is crazy.

Bruce Anthony: We 

J. Aundrea: We sound like, we sound like we used to play 8 tracks. We, we were alive,

J. Aundrea: but we didn't use to play them.

Bruce Anthony: know grandma had an 8 track player in her 

Bruce Anthony: Cadillac. 

J. Aundrea: it. 

Bruce Anthony: Yes, she did. All right. Okay. 

Introducing J.D. Vance
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Bruce Anthony: Let's get into some serious stuff. Speaking of reading, people really need to read up on the new Republican vice president nominee.

J. Aundrea: Mm hmm.

Bruce Anthony: But just in case you don't want to do any reading, we're going to give you the statistics next.

Bruce Anthony: All right, Jay. The former president and presumptive Republican nominee, 

Bruce Anthony: Donald J. Trump, selected [00:27:00] his running mate.

J. Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: J. D. J. D. Vance we are not talking about Jermaine Dupri. I thought for a second,

Bruce Anthony: No, you didn't.

J. Aundrea: no, cause listen, stranger things have happened. First of all, Donald Trump was president at one point.

J. Aundrea: So stranger things have happened that his run of bait is so, so def Jermaine Dupri.

Bruce Anthony: you want to dance? All right. James David Vance born James D Donald Ballman. I don't know why he changed his name to Vance. But anyway, that was my question.

Bruce Anthony: August 2nd. He was born August 2nd, 1984. He is from Middletown, Ohio. He served in the US Marine Corps from 2003 to 2007, including a six month tour in Iraq. He's a graduate from Ohio State University in 2009, graduate from Yale Law School in 2013.

Bruce Anthony: Obviously he's an [00:28:00] American politician, an author. He's currently the junior. U. S. Senator from Ohio and has been since 2023. 

Bruce Anthony: Now, if you didn't pay attention, I said, author, he wrote a book called Hillbilly Allergy. 

Bruce Anthony: Okay. That was published in 2016, which in, which he describes his upbringing in the rust belt, poverty, drug addiction, Appalachian culture followed the book follows his family from his grandparents in Kentucky Appalachia region to the coming of age in Middletown, Ohio.

Bruce Anthony: The, the, the book describes hillbilly culture. I've actually talked about this on one of the previous podcasts, Appalachians, which. Have a rich history 

Bruce Anthony: and African Americans and Native Americans and white people co mingling up in the mountains.

J. Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: He's white, obviously, 

Bruce Anthony: from a working class family. Talks about [00:29:00] his upbringing, talks about his family history, coming from poverty to low paying jobs and physical jobs that have since disappeared or worsen in these because, you know, coal mines and stuff like that.

J. Aundrea: Yeah. All of, all of that.

Bruce Anthony: Uh, that.

Bruce Anthony: Ron Hubbard, Ron Hubbard, even made a movie about it. So that's just a little bit about his background. Let's talk about his political views because that's what's really important here because he's in the vice president running.

J. Aundrea: Mm

Bruce Anthony: Um, hmm. Oh, Ron Howard.

Bruce Anthony: yeah, Ron Howard. What did I say? I said Ron Howard because you know why?

Bruce Anthony: I was thinking of L. Ron Hubbard before I said Ron Howard. made me think. And I was like, he's a The creator of Scientology, the creator of Scientology. No, it was Ron, it was Ron Howard, not L. Ron Hubbard. That's, but I, when I was reading it, I was like, what if it was L. Ron Hubbard? And then said Ron Hubbard. 

Bruce Anthony: Anyway, [00:30:00] what is his political views? Well, pretty, pretty Consistently, he's a conservative 

J. Aundrea: Mmhmm. 

Bruce Anthony: wing populist. Um, he's promoted strong conservative policies, opposing abortion, same sex marriage, and favoring banning of transgender healthcare for minors. Let's talk about the abortion and marriage in particular. He is firmly. Anti choice, is campaigned and was a total, when he ran for Senate was a total ban on abortion.

Bruce Anthony: He called exceptions of rape and incest inconvenient, but later acknowledged the political reality that adding exemptions makes abortion bans more palatable to voters.

J. Aundrea: Not because it's the right thing to do, but because it's more palatable to voters.

Bruce Anthony: what does that tell you? I want [00:31:00] to do, I want this to be done. Basically. Any way possible.

Bruce Anthony: I know I can't sell it completely the way I want to. We can get close to that if we just frame it differently. He's been on record saying that, uh, he wants to get rid of no fault divorce. Everybody wants to get a divorce just cause you know, she might get beat a little bit.

Bruce Anthony: Those weren't his exact words. I'm paraphrasing, but that was what he said. He follows the, the follows the teachings of Kurdish, 

Bruce Anthony: Yvonne Yarvin. Rod, will you say the dryer and Patrick Denny?

J. Aundrea: Dineen.

Bruce Anthony: I wanted to say Brian, uh, Brian, didn't him. that actor?

J. Aundrea: No!

Bruce Anthony: Brian, didn't he? You don't remember Brian, didn't 

J. Aundrea: [00:32:00] Oh, okay. Yes. That's not what you 

Bruce Anthony: That's not messing up all the names. Ladies and gentlemen, 

Bruce Anthony: I'm tired. Y'all I'm tired. Y'all. And guess what? I'm not even drinking. I have not had a drink.

J. Aundrea: What did you just take a sip of?

Bruce Anthony: Oh, this is just my water. It was just some, it was a J that was a big ass gallon jug. If that was some liquor in there, then I've really got a 

J. Aundrea: Oh, I didn't see it. I'm on

Bruce Anthony: Okay. 

J. Aundrea: tab. I didn't see it.

Bruce Anthony: Well, who were these people that I just butchered their names? Jarvin has been described as a neoreactionary and neo monarchist

Bruce Anthony: who sees liberalism as creating a matrix like totalitarianism to totalitarianism.

J. Aundrea: having a

Bruce Anthony: I'm having, I'm having a tough time. Totalitarianism system who wants to replace American democracy with a sort of, techno monarchy. Basically, he's a [00:33:00] red pill person. 

Bruce Anthony: Some of the other people believe in finding communities in which virtuous life can flourish. Basically they're Christian nationalists, but,

Bruce Anthony: but they are, but they are like, we can just leave the people that don't believe in us and 

Bruce Anthony: create our own land and keep them out.

Bruce Anthony: These are the people that, that he has, that he follows in his political ideology. And he describes himself as a post liberal I don't even know what that means.

J. Aundrea: A member of the post liberal right.

Bruce Anthony: I don't even know what that 

Bruce Anthony: means. 

J. Aundrea: none of it means anything.

Bruce Anthony: So that's the vice president and nominee 

J. Aundrea: neo monarchist. That literally sounds like an oxymoron.

Bruce Anthony: All of it sounds dumb as hell. So that's the vice president nominee for the Republican party. [00:34:00] What did you think when he was announced?

J. Aundrea: I didn't know who the hell he was and honestly, all of my grace or whatever for any of this goes to, Usa Vance, his wife, who is a daughter of Indian immigrants. Uh, well, I don't know. I don't know if her parents are immigrants. I know she has Indian heritage and I know that she is a child of immigrants, who has, since he's been announced as a vice president has received the

J. Aundrea: MAGA. president and nominee

J. Aundrea: Yeah. And vice presidential nominee has received the MAGA welcome of extremely racist, anti Islamic, rhetoric because I is, is she? believe that she is [00:35:00] Muslim,

J. Aundrea: um, honestly. of Indian descent. Yes. Uh, so Nick Fuentes, I don't know if

J. Aundrea: you remember that guy,

J. Aundrea: uh, who that is.

J. Aundrea: who, uh, used to run, what was that?

Bruce Anthony: When, um, right wing racism, did he run? Oh, I'm thinking of the other dude. 

Nick Fuentes' Controversial Comments
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Bruce Anthony: I'm thinking of not Nick Fuentes, but I'm thinking of, um, I, I, I'm not thinking of somebody else, but okay. Nick 

J. Aundrea: Yeah, 

Bruce Anthony: to run a proud boys. I thought he was in jail.

J. Aundrea: no, or

J. Aundrea: maybe I don't know But anyway, he has a little meltdown on his broadcast so he must be broadcasting from somewhere saying quote what kind of man marries somebody that Isn't a Christian. What kind of man marries someone named Usha? Clearly, and I'm sorry if I'm butchering her [00:36:00] name, I think it's Usha.

J. Aundrea: Uh,

Bruce Anthony: of what I've done this entire broadcast.

J. Aundrea: he says clearly he doesn't value his racial identity, his heritage. Clearly he doesn't value his religion. He doesn't marry a woman that professes Jesus Christ. Professes Jesus Christ what?

J. Aundrea: Professes Jesus? That, that's what I'm asking. Just professes Jesus Christ? Anybody can profess Jesus Christ. Profess Jesus Christ what? Exactly. You don't know because you're not a Christian, but again, not, he says, quote, what does that say about him? Let's see another white nationalists, Jaden McNeil posted a picture of Vance and his wife and their newborn with the caption, I'm sure this guy is going to be great on immigration. 

Melania's Nationality and Immigration
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J. Aundrea: Now, do, do, did we forget who [00:37:00] Melania Trump is? I'm wondering. Why, 

Bruce Anthony: is Melania's nationality? Good God, 

Bruce Anthony: I can't. 

J. Aundrea: uh, no, she's Eastern European. Shoot. Where is she from?

J. Aundrea: Like she's not even like first genera yeah, it's white, but she's also a what? Immigrant.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, but they don't, you know, but she's a white immigrant. That, that don't count.

J. Aundrea: Right, right. Exactly. That's exactly my point. Right. Cause she's not from a what does he call them? S hole country.

J. Aundrea: Yeah, 

Bruce Anthony: the former president, Donald Trump, called him. That's 

Bruce Anthony: whole countries. 

J. Aundrea: she's from Slovenia, which, that don't sound real, if 

Bruce Anthony: It is real. I've met people from It's real.

J. Aundrea: Okay. It sound like something on the Avengers.

Bruce Anthony: That was Sokovia.

J. Aundrea: Okay. just. 

Bruce Anthony: Which I think is also [00:38:00] real.

J. Aundrea: don't know They say, they say,

J. Aundrea: they say Americans are bad at geography. We're not. We're bad at European geography. Because why do we need to know?

Bruce Anthony: Nah, we're bad at geography. Cause we can't even name all 50 states.

J. Aundrea: I could name all 50 states.

Bruce Anthony: We've played this game before and we've gotten to 

J. Aundrea: could na It might take me 45 minutes, but I can name all them states.

Bruce Anthony: Hold on. I got a joke. It's going to take you a minute for each state.

J. Aundrea: can name all 50. It'll take me 45 minutes. Shut yo ass up. Shut yo ass up. 

Far-Right Reactions to JD Vance's Family
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J. Aundrea: But other far right accounts have bemoaned Vance's multiracial family, saying things like, quote, [00:39:00] There is an obvious Indian coup taking place in the U. S. right before our eyes. That was far right conspiracy theorist Stu Peters. Which again, that doesn't sound real. That doesn't sound like a real person's name. Um, I don't know why all this sounds fake to me, but anyway, I, I, I hope that they knew or were expecting this kind of vitriol to come her way because. You're really, this is why he was never going to choose a black running mate, y'all.

Tim Scott's Marriage and Political Moves
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Bruce Anthony: They show, but hold on though. 

Bruce Anthony: They, they did Tim Scott dirty. Cause he went and got married and everything.

J. Aundrea: Yeah. Knowing good and hell, well, he has never touched a woman before.

Bruce Anthony: Hold on. Time out. You said never touched a woman before. I never touched that woman before.

J. Aundrea: Never. [00:40:00] Both

Bruce Anthony: You wrong for that?

J. Aundrea: of them.

Bruce Anthony: You wrong for that?

J. Aundrea: Both of them. No, look at Tim Scott.

Bruce Anthony: I mean, might like it. He got married.

J. Aundrea: He found a political operative who was willing to Truman show herself.

Bruce Anthony: I wonder, I, I wonder how loud that divorce is gonna be.

J. Aundrea: It'll be nice and quiet. It will. I think it'll be, I think he made sure to put that in the contract.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. So far right, is attacking his wife. I didn't even see that. But then again, I've been off social media 'cause I couldn't deal with it. I just couldn't deal with it. So, Well, that is a reporting from the New Republic.

Bruce Anthony: Okay.

J. Aundrea: Yes. So it's a article MAGA enters racist meltdown mode over J. D. Vance's wife.

Bruce Anthony: Well she just gotta come out and say that she's white, that she identifies as white.[00:41:00] 

J. Aundrea: She can't, she's, she's a brown skin Indian woman.

J. Aundrea: So Yeah, skin.

J. Aundrea: Yes.

J. Aundrea: Now I love it, but you know, hey and I just, I mean, I wonder what the conversation was, because. Vance 

Trump's Influence and Republican Dynamics
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J. Aundrea: has previously said that Donald Trump stands for everything, uh, against all the things that are like comprised of the people that he loves.

Bruce Anthony: when he first came out.

Bruce Anthony: But ever since 2020, he'd been on that. They stole an election train. He did do a switch.

J. Aundrea: Yeah. I, I just want to know what that conversation was.

Bruce Anthony: The conversation was, Hey, you know, we're one in the same because JD Vance is charismatic, just like Trump is.

J. Aundrea: I don't know. I heard

Bruce Anthony: charismatic just like 

J. Aundrea: that he, he killed his speech, but again, you know, [00:42:00] I don't know what news outlets I don't know. coming from, but,

Bruce Anthony: did you see the delegates for, at the Republican National Committee was, was 

J. Aundrea: oh, 

Bruce Anthony: little fake, stuff on their ears just in 

Bruce Anthony: support of Trump? 

J. Aundrea: yes.

J. Aundrea: Uh, 

Bruce Anthony: joking when the man got shot.

J. Aundrea: he didn't get shot. That's

J. Aundrea: not what happened. It was, he got shot at,

J. Aundrea: and It him. it hit the teleprompter, and glass from the teleprompter cut his ear.

Bruce Anthony: Is that what's being reported or is that what social media is saying?

J. Aundrea: That's what happened. that,

Bruce Anthony: Is that, also,

J. Aundrea: come on now, people get shot at.

Bruce Anthony: people get that. Right. The fact is somebody died and two people were injured. You think he made calls to their family? He was on a golf course the next day.

Bruce Anthony: So interesting enough. The story goes, and this was reported by reputable news sources

Bruce Anthony: [00:43:00] that the president, Joe Biden, Joey beans called up the widow to, you know, offer his condolences and stuff. She didn't accept the call. The

J. Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: reason why she didn't accept the call she told news organizations is because her husband was a devout Republican

Bruce Anthony: and would be upset with her if she took the call.

Bruce Anthony: So she didn't do it. Now there's. And, and, oh, by the way, by that time, which was Tuesday, former president Trump had not called her at all.

J. Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: What is crazy is the wording in that. Her husband was a devout Republican?

J. Aundrea: right.

Bruce Anthony: No,

J. Aundrea: As if it is a,

Bruce Anthony: religion,

J. Aundrea: but more

Bruce Anthony: halt. Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Okay. I was wondering. cult.

Bruce Anthony: Okay. I was trying to pick up what you was giving me, but it felt like another situation with the five digits. So I didn't really know if I was going to get what you no. aiming, but I got it. Yeah. Cool. was putting down. [00:44:00] Cult. Yeah. No, it is a cult.

Bruce Anthony: no, not almost like it is a Trump ism is a cult.

J. Aundrea: is a cult. A cult that he has lost control of.

Bruce Anthony: Uh, cause they shooting at him now.

J. Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: No. Hey, that's So that's what happens. Sometimes it grows bigger than a you anticipated and now

J. Aundrea: it's a runaway train. we about to get cancelled with what I'm about to say next.

J. Aundrea: Are

J. Aundrea: we, I mean, that's our show. We just decided if we put it on or not. Like, I

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, this is true. Okay, this is true. This is true. We definitely gonna get some hate mail. Or hate, not hate mail. We, nobody's actually Live boy, we get those postcard, we get a big sack full of postcard. Bruce, is that

Bruce Anthony: I'm old. Chicago, Illinois. 6

Bruce Anthony: Christianity was a cult in the beginning.

J. Aundrea: [00:45:00] Uh,

Bruce Anthony: had his disciples. yeah. number. It was a cult No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Jesus. Never preached Christianity. He was a

Bruce Anthony: with. man.

Bruce Anthony: No, no, he didn't preach Christianity. he preached to his, he preached what he preached became Christianity, but he had a cult of followers that created Christianity. Now, if he came down right now,

J. Aundrea: He'd be like, what are y'all doing?

Bruce Anthony: what are y'all doing in my name? This wasn't what I was talking about. You know what's funny?

J. Aundrea: Cause

J. Aundrea: we literally said, cause we literally said, Hey, Jesus, all your traditions and stuff that you do, you know, the Passover Seder, forget all that. We're going to start a new thing. We're going to name it after you. We don't care if it's not what you, it's not what you were talking about, we're gonna do a new thing, we're gonna forget all those traditions, and we are gonna do some heinous, things

Bruce Anthony: oh, and 

Bruce Anthony: by the way, [00:46:00] JD Vance

J. Aundrea: Mm

Bruce Anthony: in that type of Christianity, the toxic Christianity that you often talk about, 

J. Aundrea: Mm hmm. Yeah, 

Bruce Anthony: teachings of Jesus, not the teachings of Jesus.

J. Aundrea: because there's, there's no way that you can derive socialism and follow the teachings of Jesus Christ, okay?

Bruce Anthony: Oh, yeah, you're right. You ain't lying. You was right when you said what you said.

J. Aundrea: You can't cut and gut social programs and education and healthcare and all these things and say that you are Christian and follow the teachings of Jesus Christ. You

J. Aundrea: can't. 

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. Well, you could just say, you could say, I want to help out my fellow man, the man that looked like me. 

J. Aundrea: Right. 

Bruce Anthony: essentially what they're talking about.

J. Aundrea: Yeah, the man in the mirror. That's the only person we care

J. Aundrea: about. 

Bruce Anthony: what they're looking for. The man in the mirror. That's all they're looking to do is help them.

J. Aundrea: And I'm asking him to change his 

Bruce Anthony: Oh. Oh my [00:47:00] goodness. So that's the Republican nominee, JD Vance.

J. Aundrea: I think it's weird he changed his name. What's that about?

Bruce Anthony: Well, maybe he didn't like his hillbilly culture. Yeah.

J. Aundrea: Then

Bruce Anthony: know. 

J. Aundrea: mean an elegy is like, kind of like a eulogy. So,

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, I didn't know what that word was. I thought it was eulogy. I kept wanting to say eulogy. Hillbilly eulogy. But

Bruce Anthony: that's not what it was. Elegy. I

J. Aundrea: yes.

J. Aundrea: Uh, 

Bruce Anthony: Howard, not L. Ron Hubbard, but Ron Howard made a movie on, uh, based off the book.

J. Aundrea: Ron

J. Aundrea: Howard ain't, Ron Howard is, did he, so, so what? What's that mean to me? Ron Howard, Ron

J. Aundrea: Howard made a movie. You said it like I said, what that mean to me?

J. Aundrea: Ryan Howard, cause he 

Bruce Anthony: Hey, 

J. Aundrea: one Jamie Foxx music video one time. Like, what does that got to, what that

J. Aundrea: mean to me? It was a, It was a great song. [00:48:00] And I could still listen to it anytime.

J. Aundrea: But that's not the point. 

Bruce Anthony: we gonna play it on repeat 

J. Aundrea: Listen, I, I hope, I hope, uh, everybody who said they come can really come cause it'll be really fun.

Bruce Anthony: No, it's going to be good. 

Bruce Anthony: We not going to tell everybody when it is. Cause we might have people pop up. 

Bruce Anthony: Are any, closing thoughts on JD Vance and the whole ticket of, I found this interesting that Trump basically picked another version of him where last time he picked basically. The anti version of him and Mike Pence to get that vote to make it more palatable.

Bruce Anthony: Now he is like, nah, I don't care. I'm going to double down on everything that is me. And I thought that was really interesting 

J. Aundrea: No, he's a narcissist. 

Bruce Anthony: out to anybody. Yeah. Well, yeah. Yeah.

J. Aundrea: So yeah, he's obviously going to choose a reflection of himself. Um, but, um, you know, Usha, I hope you know what [00:49:00] you, uh, got yourself into girl. Good luck.

Bruce Anthony: Yeah. Good luck. Good luck to those. I don't want nobody to be harmed because of the maggot, right? And we know that, uh, they out here harming folks. So you safe. I ain't voting for you, but 

Bruce Anthony: be safe though. 

J. Aundrea: Yeah.

Fake Friends: Signs and Experiences
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Bruce Anthony: Next up fake friends. We're going to get into that next. So Jay, this was your topic. You 

Bruce Anthony: want to talk about fake friends,

J. Aundrea: I wrote it down. It says on this little paper, fake friends Bruce.

J. Aundrea: I didn't put any other information on that. I don't know what I wanted to talk about.

Bruce Anthony: You was talking about. You do remember? Because you were talking about basically people that, smile in your face, but all the while Uh,

J. Aundrea: Yeah. called

J. Aundrea: backstabbers. 

Bruce Anthony: people that are [00:50:00] not truly your friends, that, that root, actively root against you.

J. Aundrea: Yeah, uh, a lot of times your biggest op could be right next to you. I have not had this problem because I'm an amazing judge of character, but I've seen it. No, I, I, I think I did have a friend once that actually didn't like me and it became apparent and I'm just like, why are you here then? Like, why are you here? I don't understand, but I, I caught on to that pretty quickly. Like, you can get a sense of a friend that's fake. And so there are signs, this is from Very Well Mind, and it's ten signs of a fake friend, how to spot one. So if you notice, inconsistency in your friendship. Are you the person that's always reaching out? [00:51:00] Are you the one that's always saying, Hey, we should hang out. Hey, let's do something. Hey, let's get together. It's like, it's very one sided. And then they're also just not consistent when, when they, sometimes they show up, sometimes they flake out on you. This, you know, when you notice people like that, they, they make, make excuses and all types of things like that.

J. Aundrea: Um, That's, that's a sign of a fake friend. Again, one sidedness. So you're the one that's always reaching out to them. Unreliability. They rarely keep their promises to you. They make plans with you and they stand you up. Betrayal is a pretty obvious one. Uh, you know what I'm

J. Aundrea: saying? is pretty obvious.

J. Aundrea: have they betrayed you?

J. Aundrea: Like that's, you had something you told them in confidence and they told somebody else. Or, you know, they slept with your man. I don't know. [00:52:00] Like, do you or

Bruce Anthony: a woman. Guys can be fake friends too. Or, well, that's assuming it's heterosexual. Anyway, I was about to fall down a rabbit hole.

J. Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: continue on.

J. Aundrea: Did they mess with yo, he, her, or them?

Bruce Anthony: Thank you.

J. Aundrea: Okay. We got to make, look, do

J. Aundrea: they disrespect you? Do they disrespect you? Like, do they try to belittle you or ridicule you or humiliate you in front of other people? So there is a TikToker and she does way too good a job of this where she pretends to be that quote unquote friend. That always acts funny when guys come around. So, especially if the guys are paying attention to her friend and not her, like it's all of a sudden, Oh, you know, you know, so and so would be upset if they saw you talking to Billy and them, aren't you, isn't that your man? Like, are you, and you're talking to, Oh, you might not want to [00:53:00] mess with her.

J. Aundrea: You know, she'd be out here. Like, like there

J. Aundrea: are people. Yeah, so she does this like really well and you'll see people in the comments, men and women in the comments, I had a friend just like this. Whenever we would go out and I was getting attention and they weren't, all of a sudden they would say little things to belittle or humiliate me to try to get the attention off of me.

J. Aundrea: Like that kind of jealousy coming out in a friendship, keep your eye on that. Hurtful behavior. They negate the things you say. Or the things that you do, or they do things to hurt you. Like don't brush that a lot of, and jealousy, like a lot of people brush these things off or like, no, you know, this person's going through a lot.

J. Aundrea: It's probably not even about me, blah, blah, blah. No, that mug might not like you. And they might've met you at a time when they were up and maybe you were down and they, Felt superior to you and then you got up and they don't [00:54:00] like it now. And now you notice they're being different or, or you have a partner now and they don't, and now they're being funny or, you know, sometimes you meet people for a reason and a

J. Aundrea: season. There you go.

J. Aundrea: Okay, and they not supposed to be in your life forever just because you know them for forever. Sometimes they are your op and they are standing right next to you getting all the tea, all your dirt, all your business, and and trying to embarrass you or hurt you in some way because they don't like you. And honestly, they might not even realize that their true feelings are that they don't like you.

Bruce Anthony: All right. 

Friendship Dynamics and Boundaries
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Bruce Anthony: So I want you to take a quick pause

Bruce Anthony: because I got to answer in the conversation and say,

J. Aundrea: Mm hmm.

Bruce Anthony: you're describing me. You're describing a lot of me. A lot [00:55:00] of like, I've often said I'm a bad friend because, you know, Very rarely am I calling people up like, Hey, let's hang out.

J. Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Right. And typically people are initiating that.

Bruce Anthony: Now I'm not somebody that, that throws shade or I want them to succeed. I'm always bigging them up if they're doing something like, like I'm like, yeah, Oh, you could do this. You are, you're going to be great. And blah, blah, blah, blah. But also I'll flake on you. We'll make plans. And I'll be like, I don't want to do that.

Bruce Anthony: A lot of what they're describing as a bad friend, an introvert.

J. Aundrea: no, but it's not, it's not somebody, it's not saying I am inconsistent or, um, unreliable because I have anxiety or because, cause I'm, if that's the case, I'm a bad friend because I am also inconsistent and I'm not unreliable, but I'm inconsistent. Right. Like sometimes I'll come to something. Sometimes I won't [00:56:00] like, I, you know, it just is how much bandwidth do I have? No, this is, it's you.

Bruce Anthony: Okay. 

J. Aundrea: They're not showing up for You 

Bruce Anthony: Ah, okay. 

J. Aundrea: up for other people. No.

Bruce Anthony: I had two people that said they were my friends know about crypto. One said to me, why don't just get another dog? I don't understand what the big deal is about that. And I was like, okay, you're not a dog person, but that's just not the right thing to say. I'm not that friends.

Bruce Anthony: I'm not that person's friend anymore. Another person, uh, that said they were my friend who also has a dog and who had taken care of crypto for me. Like new crypto completely disappeared and I'm not that person's friend anymore. So it was like, Oh, everything is all good when you going through something and you reach out to me

Bruce Anthony: and I'm there for you, 

J. Aundrea: but, it's not reciprocated, 

Bruce Anthony: and I'm not even asking people to really reach out for me, but the fact that you don't at all.

J. Aundrea: right.[00:57:00] 

Bruce Anthony: that lets me know something

J. Aundrea: Yeah, the where's the empathy and the compassion you're supposed to have for me as your friend

Bruce Anthony: as your friend, even if you don't have a dog, you don't understand.

J. Aundrea: Right, at least you know, you have enough common sense to know this is something I'm upset about

J. Aundrea: So if you know that this is something I'm upset about whether you have a dog or not Where is the compassion for the fact that I'm upset about something? It doesn't matter what it is.

Bruce Anthony: Fake friends, Fake friends, fake friends We talked about jealousy.

J. Aundrea: They feel threatened by your success and accomplishment. That's just not me. I, I am friends with people that I admire for one reason or another.

J. Aundrea: There's something that they do. It can be, it could be anything. It could, you know, I got friends that I admire because they, They cook really well.

Bruce Anthony: Mm-Hmm?

J. Aundrea: I can cook.

J. Aundrea: I [00:58:00] don't, but I don't

J. Aundrea: cook, really well, but not, not, not like these, not like these folks, you

J. Aundrea: know, I have, you know, I have friends with their PhD. I have friends, like I just have friends that have their own businesses and attorneys and different things like, and I, I'm friends with people I admire. And when my friends are up, it just feels like I'm up too.

J. Aundrea: Like I

J. Aundrea: have, I've never had. ego about that, but I have seen, other people be threatened by the success of a friend and really try and really, I've seen people where I don't even realize I'm like, am I taking crazy pills? Am I the only one realizing how shady everything this person is saying sounds? Oh, I wouldn't have like, you know, you're at an event for a friend and they like, I wouldn't have chosen these napkins. They're just kind of cheap,

Bruce Anthony: Some people you know, like, yeah, [00:59:00] but it's, but

J. Aundrea: it always feels like it's, it's when it's, it's when somebody else's accomplishment, when the focus is on somebody else. Then here comes your negativity. Those kind of friends. Conditional friendship. Your friendship is contingent on what they can gain from you.

J. Aundrea: Whether it's social status, material possessions, monetary gain, or some other type of benefits. Once they achieve their goal, their interest diminishes.

Bruce Anthony: So I have a friend that I say all the time, they're a friend of convenience 

Bruce Anthony: when it's convenient for them. Then they'll see you.

Bruce Anthony: Their convenience is location. If you live further away,

J. Aundrea: Mm hmm.

Bruce Anthony: you're not on high on their priority friend list, despite the fact, the history that you have with them.

J. Aundrea: Right.

Bruce Anthony: They go with, well, this person is closer.

Bruce Anthony: It's easier for me to get to them.

Bruce Anthony: That's [01:00:00] who I'm going to hang out with.

J. Aundrea: Right.

Bruce Anthony: And, and, but I've also been a fake friend. I had a fake friend in high school 

Bruce Anthony: that I did not like. He hung in the crew.

Bruce Anthony: He hung in the crew.

Bruce Anthony: I didn't like him. But dammit if he wasn't a D designated driver, so, uh, you know, we call him when we need him.

J. Aundrea: Yeah. 

Bruce Anthony: And I kept that DD for a long time.

J. Aundrea: that is a conditional friendship.

Bruce Anthony: I've definitely been a conditional friend with a lot of women that I've dated. That's still a friendship, but it's conditional.

J. Aundrea: Is it a friendship? Because the title of this is signs of a fake friend,

Bruce Anthony: Yeah, I've been a lot of fake friend

J. Aundrea: a

J. Aundrea: fake friend. 

Bruce Anthony: I've dated.

J. Aundrea: They use manipulation. They'll use guilt manipulation or emotional blackmail to get what they want from you. I've seen that. Again, there's nobody I know because you call me up trying to guilt me into doing something.

J. Aundrea: I'd be like, [01:01:00] whose phone you playing on?

Bruce Anthony: Not who's phone you're playing on.

J. Aundrea: I have just never been one for peer pressure. Like I see it coming whether or not I do it. That's it. Depends on how I feel, but

Bruce Anthony: sometimes when somebody pressuring you, you want to do it besides them pressuring you, but because they start to add in peer pressure, you'd be like, you know what? 

J. Aundrea: Now

J. Aundrea: now I'm not

J. Aundrea: gonna do it.

J. Aundrea: Now I ain't gonna do nothing.

Bruce Anthony: I was going to do it, 

Bruce Anthony: but now I'm not, you press too hard. 

Bruce Anthony: Now I don't want to do it. 

J. Aundrea: my shoes on. I was getting ready to go. Guess what I'm doing now? Taking them off.

Bruce Anthony: Let somebody invite me to something and just send a text. Hey, we're going to be here. This is such, such time. And I'm like, ah, I'm gonna come. And I start putting on my shoes and they say, Oh, that's cool. Cause you normally don't come out. See, that's all I needed was to take my shoe right back off because now I ain't coming out.

Bruce Anthony: So that's who I'm, that's who I am in your eyes. Right. That's it up. I am in your eyes. Now you ain't lying. You ain't live, and you're not. this is an [01:02:00] They're

J. Aundrea: telling the truth, I'm not coming. but it doesn't matter. But now, it's like when I'm cleaning my room as a child, and then mom or dad comes in, clean this room up. I'm already doing it. Now I'm not doing nothing. Now, now I'm already Doing it. Now I'm not going to do nothing.

Bruce Anthony: You don't see me folding these clothes right here? You You'll, in my clothes? you'll, that's what I'm doing right now is just playing with my clothes? Or don't say that. Alright, that's what I thought. Yeah, you better clean this room up. See?

Bruce Anthony: You know what? Now, you know what? Now I'm gonna make it messy. All the clothes I've been folded up. I'm going to knock him off the bed

J. Aundrea: I'm a purposefully living filth

Bruce Anthony: for the rest of my life.

J. Aundrea: for the rest of my life. The last one is a big one. They ignore your boundaries. They consistently overstep or disregard your boundaries, [01:03:00] whether it's your personal space, your privacy, or your emotional limits that, uh, that I have to say, I have amazing friends that will check in and be like, Hey friend, do you have space for a call? I'm like, I do have space. Thank you for asking. Give me a call vent, whatever you need friend. I got you. Like they, they do a really good job of checking in. On like what head space, like we'll check on each other. Like, is your head space good? Like, are you good? Like when we ask, how are you, I'm asking, how's your head? How's your heart?

Bruce Anthony: I think a lot of this is based on gender because even my female friends, only my bestie, but the majority of my female friends and definitely none of my male friends, they don't ever just be like, Hey, how you doing? When I put it in the group chat of my male friends and just be like, Hey guys, how's everybody doing?

Bruce Anthony: Like, why you, what you talking about, man? I'm like, [01:04:00] mental, black men mental health is important.

J. Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: It's, it's important. How you doing? Oh man, why you always asking all these questions? Alright then.

Bruce Anthony: Okay then. But then, then they get upset with me. You'll never tell us what's going on in your life. We have to listen to the podcast, find out what's going on.

Bruce Anthony: Well, that's because when I asked you guys, y'all don't talk about it. Correct. relationship we didn't establish. Now Right. talking

J. Aundrea: Advice on it.

J. Aundrea: But, But you have to interrogate your friendships like that. Like, Even people that you've known for forever, You gotta ask yourself, Okay, is this, Am I still serving them? Are they still serving me? Like, Is this relationship healthy? Are there some boundaries maybe that we need to set? Or, you know, or we could be good? Or, maybe, I've been feeling for a while that you've been acting funny. [01:05:00] And you've been, you've been my op on the low.

Bruce Anthony: Look, I told you personally, but I'm gonna put it here on the show. When my birthday came around. I was like, I'm kind of hoping this person forget. Cause if they forget, then I can start to distance myself from the friendship. A lot of people didn't forget. And some people, some people who I thought were just a show associates.

Bruce Anthony: Good. I can't talk today. That's what it is. It's not just me.

J. Aundrea: Is it because you are sober?

Bruce Anthony: That could be it. No, because I do interviews and all the interviews are sober.

J. Aundrea: Okay, that's true.

Bruce Anthony: when we do this show, it's the first drink. I'm not even, but maybe it's just. The touch of alcohol The touch, the feel of alcohol, Um, out your tongue.[01:06:00] 

Bruce Anthony: what was I saying? Now that I lost my train of thought, alcohol also keeps me on my, people who you thought were associates remembered your birthday.

Bruce Anthony: yeah. And, and now I'm like, well, wait a minute. I need to reevaluate this relationship because obviously I mean more to you than I thought I did.

J. Aundrea: Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: And you reaching out like you did makes you mean more to me than I thought you did.

Bruce Anthony: So Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: I think it's a constant. I had a long conversation with a friend of mine, like can you break up with old friends you've had because you don't really see how that friendship serves you anymore.

J. Aundrea: Right.

Bruce Anthony: And that's something really difficult to do because if you've established a relationship for so many years, it don't take much for that person to do something cool to be like, Oh man, why was I even tripping?

J. Aundrea: Right. But I've

J. Aundrea: had, I've [01:07:00] had to break up. I've had to break up with long time friends.

Bruce Anthony: Mm hmm. And it is a breakup, like it is a breakup,

J. Aundrea: you know, they, they call via, Hey, are we good? Actually? No, we're not good. We need to talk, you know, like you're having to have this, you know, conversation, but it's, you know, again, people aren't in your life, not always in your life for forever.

J. Aundrea: Right.

J. Aundrea: Reason

J. Aundrea: In a season. life, reason and season. That's it.

J. Aundrea: And so there is always a reason. Remember why somebody was your friend, even if they, if you gained something from them or they taught you a lesson, like there's always some reason. Uh, but just know when their season has come to a close

Bruce Anthony: That goes with friendship and relationships. hate you.

Bruce Anthony: That goes with any type of relationship too, by the way. Right. Hey, this whole thing, blood is thickening water. No, it ain't. You can let family members go.

J. Aundrea: Yes.

Bruce Anthony: Now, if [01:08:00] y'all didn't understand what I just said, I said family members. I know I mumbled because I didn't have any alcohol today and obviously I can't talk Right. a sip of alcohol.

J. Aundrea: You're

J. Aundrea: right. members can go. That blood is thickening water? Nah, you can cut them loose.

J. Aundrea: Well, that, that quote is, that's always misquoted. Um, not going to get into that, but it's actually, this actually saying the reverse, Oh, okay. that, but 

Bruce Anthony: it's like Uncle Tom, how Uncle Tom was actually the savior of slaves and not a person that was going against slaves. But through time, it's reversed, kind of like woke,

J. Aundrea: Yeah,

Bruce Anthony: of like how, okay,

Bruce Anthony: that was intentional. That's an

Bruce Anthony: was intentional.

Bruce Anthony: Well, it might, it all might've been intentional, right? yeah, that's true. might've been intentional.

J. Aundrea: Right. Yeah.

Bruce Anthony: Anyway, we started a ramble. Let's, uh, go ahead and wrap this up.

J. Aundrea: Um, No, but uh, not just family. Sometimes y'all [01:09:00] are dating. Sometimes y'all are married to your op So keep an eye out on that

Bruce Anthony: We got to stop talking bad about marriage though. Cause, cause we, y'all need to get real because this is a thing a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons

Bruce Anthony: you right on that one. And a lot of people have expectations That somehow their life is going to magically change just because they got married. No, you're going to have the same life you had before the ceremony.

J. Aundrea: They're going to be the same person.

Bruce Anthony: I feel like you are speaking directly to me right now.

J. Aundrea: Oh, I didn't. Oh, no, actually I wasn't. I was saying this in general.

Bruce Anthony: I

J. Aundrea: I'm

J. Aundrea: just saying this from my personal experience of

Bruce Anthony: Jay, the personal experience of me getting married. Shut up!

J. Aundrea: if it resonates,

Bruce Anthony: On that note, whatever. Jay, give your final thoughts.

Final Thoughts on Friendships
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J. Aundrea: final thoughts are we talked about fake friends, but genuine [01:10:00] friends, if you have them do what you can to nurture those relationships, those relationships don't just grow and flourish in a vacuum. Like you have to put work into your friendships. So if you find that there are people in your life who are with you through thick and thin, Um, who are picking you up on your lows and shouting you out on your highs, like, nurture those relationships. a lot of times that's, that's what you gonna have in the end.

Bruce Anthony: Friends, how many of us have them?

J. Aundrea: I was just about to say

J. Aundrea: that. careful though, cause if we sing stuff, then copyright people will come out 

Bruce Anthony: after us and make us take down 

J. Aundrea: as long as we do under 30 seconds or something like that,

Bruce Anthony: It's not like we singing full ballads over here, but anyway.

J. Aundrea: right.

Bruce Anthony: Anyway, ladies and gentlemen, thank you for listening. Thank you for watching. And until next time, as always, I'll [01:11:00] holla. Ooh, that was a hell of a show. Thank you for rocking with us here on unsolicited perspectives with Bruce Anthony. Now, before you go, don't forget to follow subscribe. Like comment and share our podcast, wherever you're listening or watching it to it. Pass it along to your friends. If you enjoy it, that means the people that you rock, we will enjoy it also.

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