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Jan. 31, 2025

DC Plane Crash, Political Drama, & My Personal Journey

In this episode of Unsolicited Perspectives, join Bruce Anthony as he dives into the DC plane crash, unraveling the tragedy and the conspiracy theories that followed. Explore the chaotic world of DC politics, from the blame game in leadership to the heated debates over DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion) and the controversial push to end remote work for federal employees. Bruce also tackles inflation struggles, government inefficiencies, and how US policies are causing ripples in international relations, including the dramatic Columbia deportation standoff.

But this isn’t just about current events—it’s also a deeply personal journey. At 44, Bruce reflects on his own growth, sharing lessons on self-forgiveness, the psychology behind his meticulous nature, and the importance of seeking truth in a world full of noise. Whether you’re here for the political commentary, the societal analysis, or the personal growth insights, this episode offers something for everyone.

Tune in for a thought-provoking blend of news analysis, political drama, and introspective storytelling that will leave you questioning, reflecting, and inspired. #ConspiracyTheories #DCPolitics #selfimprovementjourney #planecrash #unsolicitedperspectives

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About The Guest(s):

Bruce Anthony is the host of Unsolicited Perspectives, a podcast that dives into current events, politics, and personal growth. Known for his thought-provoking commentary and candid storytelling, Bruce blends humor with deep insights to explore societal issues and self-improvement. In this episode, Bruce reflects on his own life, shares personal anecdotes, and tackles pressing topics like the DC plane crash, conspiracy theories, and government policies.


Key Takeaways:

  1. The DC Plane Crash and Conspiracy Theories:

    • Bruce discusses the tragic plane crash in DC and how people often jump to conspiracy theories to make sense of the unknown.

    • He emphasizes the importance of waiting for facts before forming conclusions and warns against the dangers of confirmation bias.

  2. Politics and Blame Games:

    • Bruce critiques the current administration’s handling of issues like remote work, inflation, and government inefficiencies.

    • He highlights how political leaders often deflect blame, pointing fingers at past administrations or marginalized groups instead of taking accountability.

  3. DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion):

    • Bruce explains the true meaning of DEI and debunks misconceptions that it’s solely about race.

    • He argues that DEI aims to create fairness and inclusion for all marginalized groups, not just one specific demographic.

  4. Personal Growth and Self-Reflection:

    • Bruce shares his journey of self-discovery at 44, discussing his meticulous nature, fear of failure, and the importance of self-forgiveness.

    • He reflects on how his need for control and perfectionism stems from anxiety and a desire to avoid embarrassment.

  5. The Importance of Seeking Truth:

    • Bruce urges listeners to seek credible information, examine multiple perspectives, and avoid jumping to conclusions.

    • He stresses the value of critical thinking and self-awareness in navigating today’s chaotic world.


Quotes:

  • On Conspiracy Theories:
    "It’s easier to jump to conspiracies because even as crazy as they can be, you can at least give an explanation to something."

  • On Politics and Blame:
    "The president is still blaming a man from eight years ago. I swear, black people in this country, we get blamed for everything."

  • On DEI:
    "Diversity, equity, and inclusion are about making sure you’re not discriminated against because of your race, gender, sexuality, or religion."

  • On Personal Growth:
    "I need to lighten up on myself. I need to stop being so hard on myself and give myself as much grace as I give to others."

  • On Seeking Truth:
    "Before you make a decision on anything, wait for all the facts. Vet your sources and examine the whole picture."

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Chapters:

00:00 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives 🎙️🔥💥

01:00 Tragedy in the Skies: The Deadly DC Plane Crash ✈️💥

02:40 Why We Love Conspiracy Theories: The Human Need for Answers 🕵️‍♂️🤔

06:11 The Blame Game: Politics and Pointing Fingers 👉🗣️

07:29 DEI Demystified: The Truth About Inclusion and Backlash 🌍🤝

09:30 Remote Work Wars: The Administration’s Fight Against Flexibility 🏢💻

17:45 Inflation Strikes Again: Everyday Struggles and Skyrocketing Prices 📈🥚

19:30 Government Gridlock: Why the System is Broken 🚧🏛️

32:03 Leadership or Lack Thereof: Communication Failures in Politics 🎤❌

35:51 Global Chaos: How US Policies Affect International Relations 🌎🔥

36:16 The Columbia Standoff: Deportation Drama Explained" ✈️⚖️

39:09 Chaos in Policy: Making Sense of the Administration’s Decisions ⚖️📜

41:46 Life Lessons at 44: Reflections on Work and Growth 🧠📚

42:38 The Day I Messed Up: A Lesson in Self-Forgiveness 😅💔

47:13 Why I’m So Meticulous: The Psychology Behind My Precision 📝🧩

01:00:38 Embracing Imperfection: My Journey to Self-Acceptance" 🌟💖

01:03:51 Final Thoughts: Why We Need to Seek the Truth" 🔍✨

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[00:00:10] Bruce Anthony: Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is unsolicited perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcast, subscribe to our YouTube channel for our video podcast and YouTube exclusive content rate review.[00:00:30] 
[00:00:30] Bruce Anthony: Like, comment, share, share with your friends, share with your family, hell, even share with your enemies. On today's episode, I'm going to be talking about the deadly plane crash that happened here in Washington D. C., then I'm going to be talking about D. C. politics, and then I'm going to talk about me, still learning about myself at this big age. But that's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show. I'll 
[00:00:53] [00:01:00] 
[00:01:00] Bruce Anthony: You know, life is really crazy right now. There's a lot of things going on out there in the world that, um, I don't know. It's got people in flux. There's a lot of instability happening here in America, which is affecting those abroad and other countries. There's crazy rhetoric on social media. You know, if you believe in revelations, you got ice storms in Florida, [00:01:30] you got fires in California, then mudslides, you know, you got hurricanes, tornadoes, wind storms, winter storms, super hot summers.
[00:01:44] Bruce Anthony: Is this the end of days? I don't believe it to be the case. I believe that the planet is just getting older because I'm getting older. And that's what happens with living things. We get older and hopefully, hopefully, we will live [00:02:00] a full and healthy life. Unfortunately, sometimes that's not always the case.
[00:02:07] Bruce Anthony: And sometimes these things happen because of accidents. Sometimes it's accidents. Sometimes it's on purpose. In this particular instance, I'm talking about the plane crash, and it happened last night. I'm filming this on Thursday, January 30th, it'll be released Friday, [00:02:30] January 31st, so this all happened Wednesday, January 29th, and as I'm getting the information, as I'm getting the news.
[00:02:40] Bruce Anthony: I'm on social media and the conspiracy theorists are already out. They're already out. And I'm not saying that it might not be nefarious. I'm not saying that at all. It could absolutely, that could absolutely be the case. But to immediately jump to that.[00:03:00] 
[00:03:03] Bruce Anthony: So I kind of get it, right? It's easier to jump to conspiracies because even as crazy as, as in conspiracy can be, you can at least give an explanation to something. And the thing that we hate as human beings is not to be able to not explain something, to not be able to understand something. We have to [00:03:30] give everything meaning.
[00:03:33] Bruce Anthony: And we don't know what happened. And I just wish people wouldn't rush to judgment because see, this is what happens in an effort for a person to be the hero of their own story. Very rarely will people admit that they're wrong. Where am I going with this? So if you immediately jump to, it's a conspiracy theory and you convince yourself before having any facts that it is absolutely [00:04:00] conspiracy theory, or Conversely, not a conspiracy theory.
[00:04:02] Bruce Anthony: Like either, either one, right? If you absolutely convince yourself before all the facts have been collected, before all the facts have been explained, before all, before you've been given all the facts, if you come up with a conclusion, the only thing that you're going to search for is a thing that backs up what makes you right.
[00:04:24] Bruce Anthony: And that's what people do. People will scour the internet and Google search [00:04:30] in debates and arguments. I've had them in my own group chats and debates and arguments getting things that they deem as facts to back up their argument. And it's either alternative facts or they've skewed the facts. Statistics can also lie to you.
[00:04:45] Bruce Anthony: Right. To make sure that they come off as right, as opposed to taking a step back saying, Hey, I might be wrong on this situation. And just waiting, just waiting. This is what I know. [00:05:00] This is what I know. The most important thing that happened on Wednesday, the thing that should be the absolute top focus. Is that people lost their lives.
[00:05:14] Bruce Anthony: A lot of people lost their lives. That's the main focus. We will find out the facts of what happened somewhere down the road. But until then, stop trying to be inspector gadget. Stop trying to be Sherlock [00:05:30] Holmes. You not Matlock. You're not Perry Mason. I know I'm aging myself, but you know what I'm saying.
[00:05:36] Bruce Anthony: You're not Bruce Wayne. You're not the detective. Just wait to get the facts. And, if you jump on a conclusion before getting the facts, have an open mind to be like, you know what? I was wrong on that one. Just maybe. You don't always have to be the hero of your own story. [00:06:00] Sometimes. Sometimes, if you're not careful, you are the villain of your own story, and nobody wants to be that.
[00:06:09] Bruce Anthony: And I get it. Some of the people that I'm talking to are just like, well, the president is coming out and saying it. Absolutely. The president said it last night. This morning, this afternoon, he's blamed it on everything. He's, he's saying it's nefarious. He's saying that it's DEI, he's saying that it's all [00:06:30] Biden and Obama's fault.
[00:06:30] Bruce Anthony: I don't know after nine years of Barack Obama, no longer being in office, how things are still his fault. They'll blame the black man for anything, won't they? They will blame the black man for any, that man has not been in office since 2016, 2017, 2017. That was eight years ago, eight years ago. [00:07:00] And in his last year, they did everything that they could to stop him from even getting stuff done.
[00:07:06] Bruce Anthony: Remember when he nominated a guy to be on the Supreme court and Mitch McConnell and them blocked it because they said the next president should decide it. This man, the current president, is still blaming a man from eight years ago. I swear, black people in this country, we get blamed for everything. D E I, what's D E I got to do with it?
[00:07:29] Bruce Anthony: I had an [00:07:30] interesting, mm, back and forth with a YouTube commenter, uh, the other day. If you want to check out the conversation, by all means, go check it out. Was I pompous? Was I condescending? Of course. Of course I was. I mean, this is who I am. I'm going to be that, especially when you come to me with dumb arguments.
[00:07:50] Bruce Anthony: So we, me and my sister had posted some clips about DEI. You know, we, we explained it in the last episode, what DEI truly is. And this person immediately went [00:08:00] to, it shouldn't be based on color, which Last I checked, um, it's not based on color. Race. He said race. Okay. It's not solely based on race. All right.
[00:08:10] Bruce Anthony: There's race, gender, sexuality, religion, all these types of things. What it's meant to do is make sure that you're not discriminated because of these things. And this person played their hand because they immediately went to race. And I was like, see, there you go. Everybody equates DEI with race. It's [00:08:30] diversity.
[00:08:30] Bruce Anthony: That means things are groups of people that have been historically marginalized. Diversity, equity, trying to make things equal, trying to, and inclusion, bringing things in. That's what it is. But you have these idiots out here that are talking about DUI, which is basically just another way of saying it's somehow reverse racism, which is absurd in [00:09:00] every aspect.
[00:09:01] Bruce Anthony: The people that are still in power are still white men, still white men. And it's so funny, the president of the United States, white man, surrounded by white people. Majority white men. This happened under his watch and he's still blaming other people for things that's happening under his watch and you can say to yourself, well, he's only been in the office for like eight days.
[00:09:25] Bruce Anthony: How's this? How is this his fault? I'm going to go into all of his politics [00:09:30] later. I know I had told you guys I was going to stop talking about politics and I want to, I really want to, but I got an odd feeling that, um, I'm not going to be able to because the current administration and it's short tenure right now has done some head scratching things that I gotta address.
[00:09:51] Bruce Anthony: I can't not address it. A lot of y'all are wanting to hear what me and my sister or my guests have to say about [00:10:00] these particular issues. That's the reason why you tune in. Why am I going to deny that? Well, one of the reasons why I deny that is for my own mental health and well being. Right. Like I, this takes a toll on me preparing, you know, getting all the facts and then giving it to you guys.
[00:10:16] Bruce Anthony: And it becomes disheartening because I don't understand how people don't realize that they voted for their detriment. Like, I don't understand how they don't see the [00:10:30] forest for the trees, but also I do understand when people have blinders on, it's not about what you could do for them. It's about taking away from other people, for instance, remote work, you know, so many people that are up in arms and that are patent the current administration about remote work.
[00:10:46] Bruce Anthony: And I'm going to get into more detail about that later about eliminating remote work for federal workers saying that I, and their main complaint is I have to go to work every day. Why shouldn't they? [00:11:00] Uh, because their job doesn't require them to. I'm sorry. If you're a plumber, I guess you could remote work as a plumber.
[00:11:07] Bruce Anthony: I guess you could. I don't think you can remote work if you work with cattle. You know, I think you kind of have to be there. Like people choose different avenues in life that afford them different things. Right? Like you may have a job where you do your nine to five and you get to go home. Right. And you don't have to worry about work.
[00:11:29] Bruce Anthony: I was talking to a [00:11:30] friend of mine who's a manager as a government contractor, and because they're a salaried employee, they're required to basically just get stuff done. That means that sometimes they pull 16, 17 hour days for the same job. And if I'm going to be doing something for 16, 17 hours a day, I would like to do it in the comforts of my own home, personally.
[00:11:52] Bruce Anthony: If I'm going to be discomforted by having to work that hard, at least make my surroundings comfortable. But it was interesting [00:12:00] because I saw something a couple of months back about this psychology professor does this experiment the first day of psychology class and he tells the entire class, Hey, everybody, we're going to do a group vote and we have to come to a majority consensus.
[00:12:18] Bruce Anthony: Everybody has to agree to this before we enact. What you guys are voting for. The professor says, okay, I can [00:12:30] give everybody a B right now, no matter what happens for the rest of the semester. First day of class, professor says, everybody can get a B right now. If you all vote on it unanimously, everybody gets a B right now.
[00:12:45] Bruce Anthony: So the class every, every year, the class votes. It never comes back unanimous, for various reasons. Sometimes people feel like they can get a better grade than, than a B. And that they want to take the chance to get a better grade than a B. [00:13:00] Okay, that's reasonable. That would be a reason to say, hey, you know what?
[00:13:05] Bruce Anthony: I'm not going to take this free B. I'm going to work for this hard A. nobility and honor in that. Personally, I would take that B because that just eliminates a whole class that I got to focus on and I could do some other stuff. Interesting. Interestingly enough, there's another answer to why people would vote not.
[00:13:27] Bruce Anthony: To get a B in the class, and it's [00:13:30] because they don't believe that other people who don't work as hard as them should deserve to get a B, never mind the fact that you could choose to work as hard as or not hard as you want. Everybody gets the same thing, but they feel like no, everybody shouldn't.
[00:13:48] Bruce Anthony: Everybody doesn't deserve the same thing. So I'm not going to work as hard as you want. Vote for that voting against their best interest because maybe they are C student and that's what's happening in a lot of these cases, a lot of [00:14:00] C students or a lot of people that are poor, rural disenfranchised economically, even if they are white, they're disenfranchised economically due to where they live cycle of poverty.
[00:14:16] Bruce Anthony: I always talk about these type of things, right? They vote against their best interest for things that could actually help them for the mere fact. I don't want them to have it. So a bunch of C students in the psychology [00:14:30] class is voting against their best interest and opportunity to get a B because they don't feel like other people should have a B.
[00:14:37] Bruce Anthony: And that's the human. Not saying that's all of us, because I could care less what another person has. I'm not built like that. But once again, I'm also a secure enough person. And we'll get into that in the third segment, a secure enough person in myself that I'm just happy being me. I don't really want to be anybody else.
[00:14:58] Bruce Anthony: Would I like to have certain [00:15:00] characteristics of other people's lifestyles? Sure. I wouldn't mind being rich, but I also know I don't need to be rich because I'm a jerk now. Could you imagine me with a little bit more money? What about a lot of it? More money, right? Can you imagine me? I don't want to see that side of me.
[00:15:17] Bruce Anthony: Just let's keep me humble and poor. Let's just keep me humble and poor, but seriously, like people will vote against their best interest and. We're living in a society where a bunch of C, D, [00:15:30] and sometimes failing students are determining what everybody else gets. But what was my main point? My main point is this.
[00:15:42] Bruce Anthony: Don't worry about being the hero of your own story. Try to just get to the right information and be the best person in your own story. And when you get a piece of information, like this plane crash that happened in D. C. Wait for all the [00:16:00] facts before you make a decision. Guess what? Before you make a decision on anything, wait for all the facts.
[00:16:08] Bruce Anthony: Vet your sources. And don't look for things to just back up your argument. Matter of fact, look up things that go against your argument and examine it. Truthfully, and with open mind, examine it. Because you could be wrong. More than likely, you C and D and F students are absolutely wrong. Sometimes you B and A students are wrong too.
[00:16:29] Bruce Anthony: It's a [00:16:30] little less likely. But, C and D and F students, almost always wrong. Almost always. So take a step back, observe everything, and then make a determination. And why am I harping in on that right now? Well, in this next segment, unfortunately, because I have to, because it's in the news and it's affected so many people's lives, I've got to talk about D.
[00:16:56] Bruce Anthony: C. politics. And I'm gonna get into that next. 
[00:16:59] [00:17:00] 
[00:17:06] Bruce Anthony: What are we doing here? What is our government? What is this current administration doing? It's throwing things into absolute chaos. This is what happens when rich men who are so far removed from real life are determining what ordinary average everyday citizens are going [00:17:30] to have to decide upon. When's the last time Donald J.
[00:17:32] Bruce Anthony: Trump or Elon Musk went to the grocery store? They talk about the price of groceries, but they're not threatened because they're not going to the grocery store. They have no conceptual idea of what the cost of groceries are. And inflation is real. You know how I know it's real? Because I'm affected by it.
[00:17:49] Bruce Anthony: You know how I'm affected by it? Because the cost of Gatorade zero. Now you might be thinking to yourself, Bruce, how the hell has that affected me? Because at my local grocery store, that's only a block away. [00:18:00] All summer long for the last couple, not summer long. It kind of ended during the summer, the beginning of the fall, but from the summer to last year through a couple of years, I could get my Gatorade zero in bulk.
[00:18:13] Bruce Anthony: I could get the 32 ounces. I could get five for $5. That's a hell of a deal. Then it went from five, from $5 to four for $5. All right. It's an extra 25 cents. [00:18:30] a bottle, but you know, a 25 cent ain't no thing, you know, I'll swing that. Now I'm going in there and it's three for 5. I'm like, why did, what the hell?
[00:18:39] Bruce Anthony: Why is Gatorade going up? Inflation is real. Eggs are more expensive. There's a, I don't, I don't, I did a whole segment on inflation. I'm not a, an economy guy, you know, I'm not an economic major, right? And even people that I know are economic majors. I [00:19:00] still can't really explain it, you know, not, not, not really.
[00:19:03] Bruce Anthony: This is out of my depth. I'm not going to make it a clear determination of what's causing this. Because I wouldn't be able to, maybe I might be able to understand it if somebody were like, really, really broke it down to me, but like, maybe probably not probably because it's complicated, right? This is complicated.
[00:19:22] Bruce Anthony: And the current administration is trying to make things simplistic when it's not really simplistic. And what do I mean by [00:19:30] this? They are determined to reduce the size of government. Now, in theory, I'm not absolutely opposed to this. Because I live here in the D. C. area, I know a lot of people that have worked or work in government.
[00:19:49] Bruce Anthony: And there's a lot, there's, there's more than a few useless people that you can get rid of. You can't do wholesale getting rid of. And there, there [00:20:00] might be an argument to be made of making it slightly more easy. Or easier, slightly easier to be able to terminate employment of a federal employee, because let me explain to you, it is a very difficult process.
[00:20:17] Bruce Anthony: Once you're in, it's almost like the mafia. Once you get in, you have a life baby and left, you want to leave, but they can't really get rid of you. Right. Not really. You have to do something egregious to really be terminated. So [00:20:30] from that standpoint, I'm not opposed to making government somewhat smaller in certain situations, but this wholesale, we're going to make government smaller.
[00:20:44] Bruce Anthony: It's not practical and the way they're going about it really isn't practical. So first they do a hiring freeze, right? They're saying we're not going to hire any new employees to the federal government. And you might say, well, that's not that big of a deal. You already say the government is bloated, [00:21:00] Bruce, and they got some people that can, that can, they can get rid of.
[00:21:04] Bruce Anthony: There are some positions that are necessary and have to be filled, but not everybody is necessary to have a job. Do you understand what I mean? Like, positions are necessary, but people aren't necessarily necessary. So, if people leave certain posts, a post needs to be filled. If you're doing a hiring freeze, That post doesn't get filled.
[00:21:29] Bruce Anthony: It [00:21:30] means that job really doesn't get done or it gets dumped onto somebody else who already has other duties. This doesn't make government effective. It doesn't make it efficient. It adds to inefficiency. Right. So that's the first thing this administration does is they put the hiring freeze. Then they're trying to, and Elon Musk has openly said this, they're trying to get people to quit.
[00:21:55] Bruce Anthony: One of the ways in which they're trying to get people to quit is by saying we're getting rid of remote work. [00:22:00] So they put out some executive orders telling all these different departments, Hey, who was ever remote working, you got to bring yo ass back to the office. For most people out there, You might be saying to yourself, well, I mean, if that was your job and you got to go to the office, you got to go to the office and I say, okay, all right, maybe, but here's the thing, and this is for people who don't live in this area, might not understand this DC, the city of DC, [00:22:30] if you're not working in DC, if you're not commuting in DC, DC during the week is almost dead.
[00:22:35] Bruce Anthony: There is, there aren't is DC doesn't have a lot. The city limits of DC doesn't have like a large population, right? Not. Not super large, right? It's not like it's a million people. I think it's like 600, 000, 700, 000. I mean, to, to certain people in North Dakota, they're like, well, that's the entire state. Yeah.
[00:22:55] Bruce Anthony: But you don't have the GDP of, of Washington DC. Okay. So let's [00:23:00] just be real about that. But if people aren't going to work a lot of these like sandwich shops, a lot of these mom and pop shops. And even some corporations just like Starbucks are losing money because they're not commuters that are coming into the city.
[00:23:15] Bruce Anthony: So the mayor of DC has been trying to get people to come back to work because money has left DC. And from that standpoint, I get it, but you know what a lot of companies and a lot of the federal government did [00:23:30] because during the pandemic, people weren't coming into offices and people were electing to remote work, even when offices were opened back up.
[00:23:36] Bruce Anthony: They realized we don't need all this office space. So they got rid of a lot of it. So now by saying we're going to bring all these people back to the office, there's no space! There's literally no space. So you can't bring everybody back to the office, because where the hell are you going to put them?
[00:23:59] Bruce Anthony: I don't, [00:24:00] it's, it seems pretty simple to me. The president was quoted earlier today saying that he has a lot of common sense and it's clear that other people don't have it. And I would say, Mr. President, how is that common sense? How are people going to fit in offices when there's more people than office space?
[00:24:18] Bruce Anthony: Common sense says that's not going to work. Okay. Also another issue with them issuing this executive order to bring everybody back to work. [00:24:30] It's borderline illegal. And this is the reason why there are unions of workers that are federal workers. These unions negotiate deals in which their workers can remote work.
[00:24:44] Bruce Anthony: It's a part of a negotiated deal, which means that just because you write an executive order does not mean that you're dead. Erases that deal that was negotiated by the unions. That's the reason why there's already been lawsuits. So, [00:25:00] I feel like the current administration doesn't exactly know what an executive order is.
[00:25:06] Bruce Anthony: I think that this current administration thinks it's like a king's decree. Whereas I say this, this is now to be. And that's not true. What it is. There was even some argument that the new press secretary said well He's the executive of the executive branch meaning that he is the boss and he could tell them exactly What he wants [00:25:30] him to do when he's telling them to come back to the office No He can't not and not if a deal has been negotiated by a union to have remote work It's the reason why he's getting sued.
[00:25:43] Bruce Anthony: Okay. It's the reason why the administration is getting sued. And I know he just went on air, the other day and he said, February 6th, either you come back to work and you're fired. Can't do that. There are, there are laws. That's literally breaking the law. There are federal workers, right? Laws that you [00:26:00] can't, you can't do that.
[00:26:01] Bruce Anthony: It's lawsuits. So a lot of this is like bluster. It is telling the base, telling those C plus students, D plus students, right? The ones who feel like, well, it's not fair that they get to work from home. So they shouldn't be allowed to work from home. It's catering to them and he's just saying it and they're like, yeah, man, right on.
[00:26:26] Bruce Anthony: That's what I'm talking about. Even though it's not going to [00:26:30] go down the way he's talking. Like it's going to go down. It's not going to go down that way. And, and you think that people are just going to give up their government job. That government job is solid. Good bennies, you know what I'm saying?
[00:26:43] Bruce Anthony: Decent salary and you get to work from home. That's good living. But they, they earned it. That's good living. But they, people wait for more. There's a lot of people. They were waiting for clearances for months and then they did this [00:27:00] hiring freeze that got called back saying your position is no longer being hired for. We're sorry. They got the job three, four, five, six months ago waiting for the clearance check. That takes a long time. That is a common occurrence in here in the DC area.
[00:27:21] Bruce Anthony: They've been waiting for this new job to start their new job and they just have been told. Go stay your ass at home and not [00:27:30] remotely work at a home. Stay your ass at home. This job is not here for you anymore. Throwing things into a disarray. All right. What are some other things? So remote work. Like, good luck with that.
[00:27:42] Bruce Anthony: If it's been negotiated with, you can't really change it. Also, it's not a large percentage of the federal workforce that works remotely. They're not full time remotely. There are people that come into offices a couple of days a week, things like that, because they got to get [00:28:00] stuff done, you know, but It's not, it's not a large percentage of the federal employees.
[00:28:07] Bruce Anthony: It just isn't statistically. It is not. What are some other ways that they're trying to limit government and scope? These fools, the other day,
[00:28:20] Bruce Anthony: these fools, the other day put a funding freeze. So what does that mean? What they did was is they required, they put a funding freeze [00:28:30] on, all federal grants and loans. And this very vaguely worded executive order. Because of this, this was widespread confusion among a lot of the federal agencies, state programs, and non profit that are relying on this federal funding.
[00:28:49] Bruce Anthony: You had people out there that were Trump supporters crying that their food stamps, it's a different program, I think it's called WIC, I'm not real sure about it, uh, that's [00:29:00] my privilege, but food stamps, I know it as food stamps, I remember when it used to be stamps. stamp stamps. Like I remember that. And I'm not, you know, cause you know, my family didn't always have money.
[00:29:12] Bruce Anthony: But anyway, people that voted for Trump, crying on social media and talking about what am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to feed my kids? Like, what are you doing to us? Mind you, they're talking about the price of groceries and inflation is high, but you're going to cut [00:29:30] benefits to help those people who need the help the most.
[00:29:35] Bruce Anthony: And once again, the CDF students were the ones that voted for him. So it threw all, it threw everything into a frenzy. there was a lawsuit. Judge said, Hey, look, I'm gonna put a blockade on this. Stop it on the freezing of the federal funds until we figure out what we're going to do. Then the administration backtracked and said, all right, well, hold on.
[00:29:57] Bruce Anthony: We're not going to do that. You know why they [00:30:00] backtracked? The reason why they backtracked is not because the people Well, well, the people were complaining. It was kind of, but it wasn't because what they were doing was just mean spirited and evil. You were taking food out of kids mouths. We're talking about, we're talking kids mouths, elderly, the poor, and, and not just food, like government programs to help with homelessness, any, any, anybody that's severely underprivileged in this country.[00:30:30] 
[00:30:30] Bruce Anthony: We're about to get their services cut. Okay. And so the, they retracted the current administration, retract this government funding freeze. And the reason why sort of the people, but it was really Republican congressmen and senators that were just like, yo, where is this coming from? Which says that the administration is not even working with Congress before they do these executive orders.[00:31:00] 
[00:31:00] Bruce Anthony: They're just saying, well, we're just going to do this and screwing everything up. Screwing absolutely everything. Nothing. The, their goal is to make government more efficient. Definitely making it inefficient, definitely making it inefficient. So they pull back on it and people are going to get their benefits.
[00:31:20] Bruce Anthony: Hopefully, hopefully, but all these executive orders are causing extreme disarray in the country. And people are [00:31:30] like, what is going on? Like what we're barely out of. January and it's every day, every day there's another crisis and I don't know, it's been four years, a little over four years. I don't remember what it was like that last administration, the early stages of it.
[00:31:52] Bruce Anthony: I remember shithole countries. I do remember that. Uh, but once we got to the pandemic, you know, I remember he was talking about putting bleach in the [00:32:00] skin and shine the lights on her, on our bodies. Like when this man speaks, it's not, look, I know I'm not the greatest orator in the world. I have a speech impediment, stumble over my words.
[00:32:15] Bruce Anthony: I stutter. Uh, I have a list that I hide Pretty well, but when i'm stuttering and when i'm trying to gather my thoughts, that's me trying to hide this list that I have Okay, I understand that [00:32:30] even on this platform where if you're just Audio. If you're not even video, right? You're just audio. You're listening to me.
[00:32:36] Bruce Anthony: There are going to be some times where I'm stumbling over my words or I say words wrong. I say words wrong all the time. You know, my sister always calls me out on it. You know, I get it.
[00:32:50] Bruce Anthony: You listen and even though my speech is sometimes not the greatest, you know, the thought behind the speech [00:33:00] has at least somewhat Some intelligence behind it. And you get the point that I'm trying to make, even if I misspeak, right? Joey, Joey beans, Joe Biden had a speech impediment, right? Not everybody is great at just.
[00:33:17] Bruce Anthony: talking and having words come out. But even when you're not great with having words come out, if it's intelligent, you get what the person is saying. [00:33:30] Not only does our current president not speak well, which, okay, like I said, I don't speak well, but what he says half the time, 75 85 percent of the time is completely stupid.
[00:33:46] Bruce Anthony: It's dumb, but he says it with such confidence that he's got some people fooled that he might be smart. And then he says it a lot. You know, one thing I've learned in life, if you are something, you don't ever have to say it a lot. [00:34:00] You know, I always laugh at when guys talk about how they can fight the true guys that always knew that could really, really fight, never talked about how good of a fighter that they were.
[00:34:14] Bruce Anthony: They never did. They never said, I got these hands. They never did. The people that are truly, truly funny never talk about how funny they are. I never hear Eddie Murphy saying, I'm the most hilarious person that there's ever been. I've never heard him say that in any interviews or [00:34:30] anything like that.
[00:34:31] Bruce Anthony: Because when you are, you don't have to say it. I once got in an argument with one of my ex girlfriends, and this was years ago, this had to be like 20 years ago. And we were in an argument and she kept, she kept saying, I'm a good person. I'm a good person. And I was like, you know, you say that a lot. It's almost like you're trying to convince yourself, but I know for a fact, you're not that great of a person.[00:35:00] 
[00:35:00] Bruce Anthony: You just have big boobs. Okay. All right. I shouldn't have said that. It was the truth though. It was the truth. Okay. I was young. I was in my early twenties. I was just focused on what was in front of me and what was, what it was visceral, what I could see. And then when I finally learned who she was as a person, I just decided to just to cheat all the time, but she also had big boobs.
[00:35:23] Bruce Anthony: And so I looked past the fact that she wasn't that great of a person, but the point I'm trying to [00:35:30] make is if you are something, you don't have to consistently say that you are that thing. And the president is consistently saying that he's smarter, better, everything than anybody else. Very insecure. It's almost like he's trying to convince himself.
[00:35:51] Bruce Anthony: look, I don't know what's going to happen going down the line with this administration. Right. [00:36:00] This is crazy stuff between the remote work, the plane crash that happened. He's already blaming it on DEI blame. I said it earlier, blaming it on Obama, blaming everything. All right. I didn't even bring up the fact that the whole situation with Columbia.
[00:36:16] Bruce Anthony: So let me just, let me just give y'all the real raw facts about what happened with Columbia. Because if you listen to conservative or right wing media, it would come off as Columbia caved. This is what happened. The current [00:36:30] administration decided to send people from Colombia that were here in the United States illegally back to Colombia.
[00:36:37] Bruce Anthony: They sent them in a military plane, cuffed. The Colombian government said, we're not going to accept them. Like this. That's the key words. We're not going to accept them like this. The president says, well, I'm going to raise tariffs on you because that's his big thing. He's going to raise tariffs on everybody.[00:37:00] 
[00:37:00] Bruce Anthony: 25 percent tariff. Columbia said, all right, if you do that 50 percent tariff, he said, Oh, hold up, hold up. 50 percent tariffs on all imported products from Columbia. What is the one thing from Columbia besides cocaine? What's the one thing from Columbia that we consume a lot of here in this country? I don't personally consume it, but a lot of people do.
[00:37:27] Bruce Anthony: Coffee, people be drinking the hell out of [00:37:30] coffee. So there was this back and forth. I don't understand why you won't accept these people. These are your people from the, from your country. The Colombian government said, we have no problem accepting them. Biden had sent numerous planes of Colombians that were here in the United States illegally back to Columbia, but they did it with a little bit more class and they did it with what's the right word that I'm looking for?
[00:37:58] Bruce Anthony: Not only class, [00:38:00] but decency. Right, they weren't cuffed. They weren't shackled. They weren't on a military plane. And the Columbia president was like, We're not going to accept this as a standard of bringing our people back to us. Do it the way it's always been, or 50 percent tariffs on all imports coming into your country from Columbia.
[00:38:24] Bruce Anthony: So the true story is, the president caved. He said, OK. [00:38:30] But we'll just do it the old way like Biden's been doing it, and you accept, accept them, uh, the Colombians that are here illegally. And the Colombian president said, yeah, sure. No more 50 percent tariff? No more 25 percent tariff? No. No? Cool. Then we're good.
[00:38:45] Bruce Anthony: And that's what actually happened. Colombia didn't cave. Now, I understand in the echo chamber of right wing conservative news that you may believe that Colombia caved. But, if you go through [00:39:00] the details, once again, going through the details, and checking credible sources, you can find what the true story is.
[00:39:09] Bruce Anthony: And you know what else makes us look bad to other countries? Because you didn't even have to do that. It's like this thing that's going on with Canada. You don't realize how much we get from Canada. You don't realize how much we get from China. You can't alienate other countries when we're importing their products.[00:39:30] 
[00:39:31] Bruce Anthony: And this getting rid of the federal income tax. It's a bunch of dumb ass ideas. Is this administration is coming up with, they're throwing things in disarray. And we got four years of this. And we just gonna have to deal with it and make our way through. But in every instance, I implore you, please, before you make a final decision on what you think something is, wait for all the facts, examine the [00:40:00] facts from credible sources.
[00:40:02] Bruce Anthony: Hell, even examine facts from non credible sources that goes against what you believe, or even with what you believe. But just get the whole picture. Get facts from what you believe and what you don't believe, vet them, come up with a conclusive conclusion. conclusion and idea of what you believe happened, but waiting for all of the information, [00:40:30] please.
[00:40:30] Bruce Anthony: Because if you don't, if we don't, this is going to be a long four years, probably the longest four years in my life. And high school was really long. And all I know is, is that I don't want to go through four more years. Like the four years I had in high school, please Lord. No, because those four years were hard and long.
[00:40:56] Bruce Anthony: Speaking of the past, and kind of leading to the future, [00:41:00] me at 44 years old, still learning about myself. At this big age, I'm still learning about myself, and I'm going to get into that next.
[00:41:10] 
[00:41:17] Bruce Anthony: So an interesting thing happened the other day, interesting, and I'm still trying to get over it. It's literally been a week. And I'm still trying to get over it. So some of you know, some of you don't know that I, [00:41:30] I, my actual main job is, my title is president now, CEO, president. I basically run operations for fitness company here in the DC area.
[00:41:46] Bruce Anthony: I also still personally train. I got about six, seven clients that I see on a weekly basis that I still train. Cause that's where my true passion is. My true passion has always been in helping people, teaching people. [00:42:00] That's where I get my, That's where I get my fulfillment from, but in order to pay the bills, I got to be an administrative or, or glorified manager, whatever you want to call me.
[00:42:10] Bruce Anthony: I don't get hung up on that stuff, but nevertheless, I still personal train. Cause that's where my true passion is. And one of my clients. actually lives in the same building that I live in. I, I've actually got two clients that live in the same building that I live in. So, you know, it's convenient. It's right here.
[00:42:28] Bruce Anthony: one actually lives on my floor. [00:42:30] Good dude. trying to better himself and I'm all for that. I've been doing this for 20 years, personal training, 20 years, never once in 20 years have I missed a session that wasn't given notice that I was going to miss. What I mean by that is have I missed sessions because I'm sick?
[00:42:55] Bruce Anthony: Yes. But the person knew I I'm sick. I'm not going to be able to make it. Like [00:43:00] it was a cancellation, but it was a Vance notice cancellation. I've never. Canceled or no showed a session. It's never happened until last week. Last week was the first time that this ever happened to me. And I know why it happened.
[00:43:17] Bruce Anthony: My internet was down. I needed to do work. So I needed the internet. So I had to go downstairs to my business center and my whole day was out of whack. Right? Like I'm running through a days the entire day because I've got a couple of different [00:43:30] projects to get through because it's the beginning of the year.
[00:43:32] Bruce Anthony: I'm also planning for, you know, shows that I'm doing here and then, you know, I've got other personal stuff that I've got to use the internet for. So I'm just in the days. Okay. And I missed a session. He was actually leaving town this week and I was, Coming into the building, I had just gone grocery shopping and I saw him and I was like, Hey man, I thought you left.
[00:43:55] Bruce Anthony: He was like, Hey, my flight is tomorrow. And he said, uh, what happened to you yesterday? I said, what do you [00:44:00] mean? He was like, you missed our session. Y'all. I had completely 100 percent forgot about it. And this isn't, it's the same time every week, the same days, nothing changes, right? It's a set time every week, twice a week, the same days, the same time he lives in a building, lives on my floor.
[00:44:22] Bruce Anthony: I completely forgot. And it bothered me to no end. I apologized [00:44:30] profusely. It was like, Oh, these things happen. I'm like, no, it does not happen. This does not happen to me. I don't do this. This is unprofessional. I do not do stuff like this. Bothered me a great deal. So that happened on Thursday. He told me on Friday, on Sunday, me and my sister are filming the show.
[00:44:49] Bruce Anthony: And I tell her the story of what happened. And she's like, I bet you are still beating yourself up over this, aren't you? I was like, as I'm telling you this story, I'm beating [00:45:00] myself up right now. It's like, Bruce, these things happen first time in 20 years. That's one hell of a run to me. It doesn't matter.
[00:45:06] Bruce Anthony: Right. I made a mistake. And she was like, yeah, this sounds about right. This is who you are. I was like, what the hell does that mean? She says, okay, I'm gonna give you a prime example, a recent example, and I'm gonna give it to y'all out here. What the recent example was. So as you all know, my sister came up for Thanksgiving and we ordered Cracker Barrel for Thanksgiving.
[00:45:28] Bruce Anthony: Right? [00:45:30] So I'm taking the train up to where my mom lives. My brother and sister are going to pick me up from the train station. I get there around four 30. We're not supposed to pick up the food from Cracker Barrel until six, six 30, maybe even seven o'clock. Like it's later that that evening, right? My sister says, cause she's the one driving.
[00:45:47] Bruce Anthony: Hey, we're already. close to Cracker Barrel from here. Let's just go. I'm in the backseat or actually I'm in the front seat. I'm sitting right next to her. No, we can't go. We can't go. Our time for pickup is at seven [00:46:00] o'clock. We can't go right now. My sister says, it's not going to be a big deal. Or do you think that they're only preparing the food and it's going to come out to us right at seven?
[00:46:09] Bruce Anthony: Like the food is probably already done and we're just going to go and see. I was like, all right, if you want to waste gas and go and see, you can waste gas and go and see, but I know I'm That we're not going to be able to get the food. I don't know why you're doing it. And the whole ride is just like, well, okay, if you want to try it, like, you know, we can go ahead and do this, but it's, you know, it says seven o'clock.
[00:46:26] Bruce Anthony: That's what time we supposed to be there at seven o'clock. We get there at [00:46:30] five o'clock. We leave there at five 20 with the food. And my sister said, you remember that? And I was like, yeah, I remember that. She was like, you don't really like your plans to be detoured. It throws you off. And if that throws you off, you get agitated.
[00:46:50] Bruce Anthony: And if it's your fault that it throws you off, you get upset at yourself. You've been this way since we were kids. And I said, really, really? She's [00:47:00] like, yeah, you've always been this way. And I had no idea. That I was this way. She's already told me that I'm meticulous. And when she pointed out to me, yeah, she's absolutely right.
[00:47:11] Bruce Anthony: I am very regimented and meticulous. I give you another example of how I am these things. And y'all are going to think that I'm crazy and I might be. So it is January 30th. I'm filming this show for release for January 31st. I had work I had to do [00:47:30] today as well, right? And I still had to do post production on the show.
[00:47:34] Bruce Anthony: So I had work and meetings up until about 11. And today is just my cardio day when I work out. So this is going to take 45 minutes. So this is how I planned my day. I'm going to work out until, I'm going to work until 11 out of my meetings. I'm going to sit down and relax for 30 minutes. Before I go to the gym and work out for 45 minutes, that'll be done at 1215.
[00:47:53] Bruce Anthony: We'll come upstairs at 1215. I'm gonna take a shower, shave and all that stuff. Kind of shave and I'll be done at one by [00:48:00] that time. I can take a lunch break, right? Then I'll be done by 1 30 from 1 32 30. I'll do a little bit more work and make sure that the outline for the show. It's done and prepared. And I have all my notes to 30 from 3 30.
[00:48:13] Bruce Anthony: I will sit down and relax together my thoughts and bring down my, my heart rate. Okay. From 4 30 to 6, I'll record the show. I'll take a brief break from 6 to 6 30 at 7. I've got another meeting. I'll be done by eight and from 8 8 to 8 30. I [00:48:30] will eat, take a quick break. And from 9 to 11, I will start on a post production, go to sleep, wake up tomorrow morning at 8 o'clock and from 8 to 10 before I have another meeting, we'll do more post production.
[00:48:40] Bruce Anthony: Then after the meeting, I'll finish up a little bit of work, go back to the gym at 1130 from 1130 to one, I will work out, come back up here, have lunch. Finish any work that I have to do. Then I have to go to the grocery store at by three, then come back home by four. This is, this is my life every single [00:49:00] day.
[00:49:00] Bruce Anthony: And to me, that's normal to you guys listening. You might think I'm crazy because I did that. I showed somebody that walkthrough of what my daily schedule is like, because that is on a daily basis. I program things out. Almost to the minute. I'm always running 15 minutes behind. You would think that I'm not 15 minutes behind to like appointments, but it's like, I'm always like 15 minutes behind of my chill time, right?
[00:49:26] Bruce Anthony: I'm almost 15 minutes off of my chill time. And when it's time to go to bed [00:49:30] or like, if it's time to go out somewhere, like to go out, go out, but never something important, like a meeting or something. I'm never late, but I do that on a daily, daily basis. My sister was right. I'm very meticulous. So I started thinking, why am I meticulous?
[00:49:48] Bruce Anthony: What is the cause of this? So learning about myself, I realized that being meticulous can stem from a variety of personal, psychological, and environmental factors. [00:50:00] All right, let's break them down. Personality tricks. Am I a perfectionist? Do I have a strong desire to achieve perfection in everything that I do, leading me to pay close attention to details?
[00:50:13] Bruce Anthony: Hell no, I'm not a perfectionist. If I was a perfectionist, anytime I put something together, I wouldn't stop until it was completely right. I got stuff in here, whether it's dressers, whether it's my fireplace, lights, no matter if it, if it requires me putting it together. Odds [00:50:30] are it is gonna be wrong.
[00:50:31] Bruce Anthony: There are so many holes in my walls from drills because I don't ever do it right, so I'm not a perfectionist so I can get rid of that, right? do I have high standards? Do I hold myself to an exceptionally high standard, which drives through to, drives me to be precise? Yes, I do hold myself to a high standard.
[00:50:55] Bruce Anthony: I hold myself to a higher standard than I hold anybody else to, [00:51:00] which is typically the other way around. Typically people hold other people to a higher standard than they actually hold themselves to. I know people aren't going to. Take the things that I think are as important as, as importantly as I do.
[00:51:14] Bruce Anthony: I feel like it is important to respect another person's time, space, all that being courteous. Like that's just me. I will go out of my way to make sure that I'm not [00:51:30] intruding on people. So when I do work, I know people aren't going to do it exactly like me when I do work. I put in the effort to make sure that it's at a very high standard.
[00:51:45] Bruce Anthony: I don't personally think that there's anything wrong with it. I think that's a good quality, actually. All right, some other stuff. Environmental. My upbringing. Parental influence. I would say that neither my mom or dad are really that meticulous. They, in [00:52:00] particular, Particular, but not meticulous. So, and I don't, and those two things aren't the same.
[00:52:09] Bruce Anthony: So no, it doesn't have anything to do with parental influence or cultural factors, right? Some cultures emphasize precision, discipline, and thoroughness, which can shape your behavior. No, it's not really cultural, role models. Did I have any mentors, teachers, or family members who were meticulous? Not that I can really, really think of.
[00:52:28] Bruce Anthony: Uh, so. My [00:52:30] upbringing environment has really so far from these examples, nothing to really do with it. Professional and academic training. Do do I have a job that that or did I study something that demanded precision like engineering, science, accounting or art? Uh, no. Like mine was history. So well, yeah, education, but that's still not precision.
[00:52:58] Bruce Anthony: cause that's teaching, [00:53:00] um, training certain professions or educational paths, train individuals to be detail oriented, which can carry over into their other areas of life. Now my profession specifically And when I actually train people, does take precision. I have a certain amount of time to get a certain amount of things done.
[00:53:29] Bruce Anthony: So when [00:53:30] I plan that out, I plan it out to the second and I'm almost never off. So my job is detail oriented, but when I first started doing this, I was very detailed oriented. And now, as I think about it, Every job that I've ever had, it's always been about taking care of the details and getting the work done.
[00:53:53] Bruce Anthony: It's always been about that. So I can't say that school or my profession trained me to be this [00:54:00] way. I just kind of already been that way. But now let's get to the nitty gritty of why I might be this way. Psychological factors. Anxiety or fear of failure, a fear of making mistakes or being judged harshly might lead you to double check and scrutinize your work.
[00:54:18] Bruce Anthony: There it is. There it is. There's, there it is right there. We already know that if you listen to the show, I have generalized severe anxiety. [00:54:30] Like I have anxiety every day. Every day. And of course I fear, I have a fear of failing. It's not an overwhelming fear of failing. I think fear of failing also is what pushes me to strive to be somewhat smarter.
[00:54:46] Bruce Anthony: Somewhat successful, but yes, anxiety and fear of failure. Definitely. Definitely. I've always been afraid of embarrassing myself going all the way back to playing peewee basketball. I would get so [00:55:00] upset at myself for making a mistake in front of all these people when I knew better than to make that mistake.
[00:55:07] Bruce Anthony: Yes. That has something to do with it. So that's the first psychological factor. The reason why Bruce is so meticulous. And for this particular rest of the segment, I will be referring to myself as a third person because I'm going to talk about it like it's a different person because I don't want to deal with these stuff.
[00:55:22] Bruce Anthony: Okay. Another psychological factor is control. Being meticulous can be a way to maintain a sense of control [00:55:30] and certain. Or chaotic situations. I would say that I'm not a controlling person as far as controlling other people. I'm not. I am controlling when it comes to me. So I guess in some regard, if you're dealing with me, somehow I'm controlling.
[00:55:51] Bruce Anthony: Let me give you an example. I never impose the things that I want on other people, at least not anymore. Maybe when [00:56:00] I was a little kid, I was extremely selfish, but living with my ex wife for so long and us just having different personalities, I knew that I couldn't be, imposing because she didn't deal with confrontation.
[00:56:18] Bruce Anthony: She, she was flight, not fight. She was flight. I'm fight. She's flight. So I knew okay, if I ever want to make things like [00:56:30] kosher with us, so there's no Confusion I can never be Confrontational or imposing with her so I had to make sure at all times She's extremely comfortable which some of you guys might say well damn Bruce You're really sacrificing a lot of who you are for this person, but that's what you do for love Right.
[00:56:48] Bruce Anthony: And I didn't have to sacrifice that much. It just tempered my personality down a little bit, a little bit to make it more palatable. She still complained that I was imposing [00:57:00] and that, that because I like things a certain way, even though I didn't say it, she felt a need to make sure it was that way. And I was like, well, how are you going to put that on me?
[00:57:09] Bruce Anthony: If I didn't say that I like it a certain way, then I'm not telling you that you've got to do it a certain way. Well, I just knew you liked it this way. I was like, that's great that you pay attention to the things that I like, but also that doesn't mean I didn't say to do these things. So yes, me controlling my life [00:57:30] can put people in situations where they kind of feel controlled because I'm imposing my stuff.
[00:57:41] Bruce Anthony: Even if it's not me saying it, I'm imposing my control over myself on other people. If I say to myself, Hey, I don't want to eat bad food because I'm watching my nutrition right now because I have a physical goal that I want to get to. And I'm dating [00:58:00] somebody who's a significant other. And she's like, I want to go out to eat.
[00:58:02] Bruce Anthony: And I'm like, that's fine. We can go out to eat. And then I'm sitting up there. Eating this bland food and we're at this nice restaurant and they're like well I can't even enjoy myself because it seems like you're not enjoying yourself and it's like well I'm here with you. I bet I told you like I don't want to Eat this right now.
[00:58:22] Bruce Anthony: Well, I want to be able to enjoy this. We're gonna enjoy it. Well, you're not enjoying it. [00:58:30] I'm confused. So I get it now. I'm not saying that one's right. And one's wrong. I'm just saying that at this big age, I'm still learning about myself. And it's good. I mean, this is good to have this type of awareness, another psychological factor, uh, before I wrap this up.
[00:58:47] Bruce Anthony: Another psychological factor is OCD tendencies. Why not everybody who is meticulous has OCD. Some people would have so obsessive compulsive tendencies may exhibit [00:59:00] meticulous behavior as part of their need for order and precision. One thing that I am OCD about is constantly washing my hands. I touch something, I wash my hands because you know, I touch my face, you know, bite my fingernails.
[00:59:16] Bruce Anthony: I do all that type of stuff, right? Okay. I don't want to empty the trash and then put trash juice on my lips, that's gross. I might as well just immediately die. I just need to die. If trash juice gets on my [00:59:30] lips, kill me now. So I consistently wash my hands. So I invest in a lot of hand soap and lotion because it means that my hands are dry.
[00:59:40] Bruce Anthony: More than I want them to be. So OCD, I don't know if I have OCD, but I have some compulsions. Absolutely. So there's other things like past experiences, you know, analytical thinking. you might naturally have a cognitive style that favors analysts, problem solving, and attention to detail. I do. [01:00:00] That is something that I, that I do have, which is weird, right?
[01:00:06] Bruce Anthony: I was really, really talented in math, but not science. I was really, really talented in history, but not English. Right? So I don't know how my brain works. It's just, I'm also artsy, but I'm also analytical. It's. It's a weird combination. I got y'all know y'all listen to me. I'm all over the place with these things, but it's [01:00:30] funny.
[01:00:30] Bruce Anthony: Uh, it's funny at 44 years old. I'm still learning about myself. And what, what ultimately I came to the conclusion over the last couple of days is I need to lighten up on myself. I need to stop being so hard on myself. That's number one. I need to give myself. As much grace as I give to other people. If people say that they're sorry and ask for forgiveness, I immediately, there's a sensation that goes over my body.
[01:00:59] Bruce Anthony: I just immediately [01:01:00] forgive them. I need to be able to do that for myself. I made a mistake. I apologize. That person is okay with me. They're not going to burn me at the stake. It's all right. And that's cool that at 44, almost 45, I'm still learning myself. I'm still open to learn about myself. I'm still open to having people be critical of me and not take offense to it, hear what they're saying and learn from it.[01:01:30] 
[01:01:30] Bruce Anthony: I think that's kind of dope. I think that's growth. I like that about myself. I like me personally. Yeah. And just, just to be real honest with y'all, I like who I am. I strive to be a better person tomorrow than I was today. but that's every day. And yeah, no, cool. So I'm still learning about myself. But when I came to this conclusion over the last couple of years, I mean last couple of days, I thought to myself, maybe I owe my ex wife an apology.
[01:01:58] Bruce Anthony: Maybe what she was [01:02:00] saying to me was, um, Exactly the conclusion that I came to, that even though I didn't say or enforce or even hint that I like things a certain way because I did things a certain way, she realized that I like those things a certain way and she lived accordingly. And because of that, she felt kind of restrained.
[01:02:25] Bruce Anthony: I thought about that. I thought about reaching out to her and saying, you know what, I [01:02:30] get what you were saying. Now you might be right. Then I came to my damn senses, ain't no way in hell that I'm ever going to say something like that to her. Because fact of the matter is, if she was bothered, she could have said something.
[01:02:44] Bruce Anthony: It's not like you can't come to me and talk to me. She did it before and if she thought that she couldn't talk to me, she would write me a letter and then I would read the letter and I'd be like, Oh yeah, you're absolutely right. I didn't even think about it like that. Okay. Let's fix this issue. No, no, [01:03:00] I'm not going to apologize to her.
[01:03:02] Bruce Anthony: I may have had some flaws, but it was all her fault. It wasn't mine. That's what the priest said. That's what the priest said. It was her fault, not mine. And I'm cool with it. I'm cool with it. So came to my damn senses realizing that, yeah, I still got some growing to do, but also realized no way in hell I'm apologizing to my ex wife.
[01:03:22] Bruce Anthony: No way in hell. And on that note, ladies and gentlemen, I'm going to implore you again. [01:03:30] To take the lesson that I learned about myself at 44, realizing I still don't have life figured out, and that I'm still learning about myself, I'm still receiving information, and then I'm open to receiving it to come to a better conclusion.
[01:03:51] Bruce Anthony: Shouldn't we do that as well for information that we receive, whether it's politics [01:04:00] or news? Or celebrity gossip, or family members in conversation, just whatever. Take a step back, try to examine the whole picture, try to get all the facts. Weigh it, examine it, and then come to your conclusion. And if we can start to do that, we can start to get to this better society that we're aiming for.
[01:04:27] Bruce Anthony: I don't know. Not telling you what to [01:04:30] think. I'm asking you, would you like to? And on that note, ladies and gentlemen, I want to thank you for listening. I want to thank you for watching. And until next time, as always, I'll holler.
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